McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 ok did it. moved out. been keeping busy the last couple of nights, going on dates, going to the city, seeing friends. but tonight...im realizing how lonely this could be. working alone > living alone...this could be bad news bears... better then hanging out with my rents though..lol
Rearden Metal Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 You'll have a new girl in no time McGrupp. And then you'll have freedom, your own place and someone to share good times with. Cheers!
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 yeah im texting 2 ladies right now. got a really kicking bar 2 doors down, but dont feel like getn up. could be worst. could be in the burbs.
GrayClouds Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Your not alonge your sharing your apartment with a funny, intelligent, increasingly insightful guy, even though rumor has it he does piss on the seat, so watch out for that. Your doing great McGrupp.
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 oh i do have a roomate. he works nights,smokes a lot of pot and enjoys world of warcraft. i actually brought him out the other night. made me feel good about myself...
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 anyone heard the new gorillaz? i like this song...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0AUHWdTT9M especially the lines: I'll wait to be forgiven Maybe I never will My star has left me To take the bitter pill That shattered feeling Well the cause of it's a lesson learned Just don't know if I could roll into the sea again "Just don't know if I could do it all again" she said, it's true
Ms. Joolie Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 but tonight...im realizing how lonely this could be. working alone > living alone...this could be bad news bears... Oh good. You'll have more time for us! =p
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 yeah havent been ls'ing as much. getting girls will do that. i like to give advice now. although i think ive been coming off as an ******* kinda lately. letting a lot of others fill the holes, as sometimes i think dumpees need to learn through mistakes no matter how much we tell them what to do...
Ms. Joolie Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 i like to give advice now. I don't know what I give, but I sure like giving it! lol. And you're not a ********.
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 i moved closer to NYC to pursue my comedy writng. got another live show this sunday...doing pretty good with it. good with girls. getting my **** together. feels good. but ya know..patience is a virtue
EricaH329 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 yeah havent been ls'ing as much. getting girls will do that. And also being over the person you used to post about will do that. i like to give advice now. although i think ive been coming off as an ******* kinda lately. I love ya, but I agree. letting a lot of others fill the holes, as sometimes i think dumpees need to learn through mistakes no matter how much we tell them what to do... Hey, we've both been there, right?
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 (edited) i feel like if everyone (mostly guys im going to say because i have noticed the women do move on little faster, its not a competition but im talking to the men) just embrace that its going to suck its going to hurt. there is no way around it. your chemicals are all ****ed up. you addicted to her. the sex, the love, the embrace the feelings. its why u email them and feel like u just got a hit, or when they text you , u feel good even though you know its an empty gesture. so u get miserable. but just like every movie about breakups and every book u have to step up. yoou have to become a better person. u have to wake up everyday and say im going to change one thing today. im going to not let her run my life. im not going to let this person that doesnt even care about me anymore control my life. i mean this is a ****ing women (no offense ladies) and you are going to let this happen? cmon man. youu ahve to make yourself this great ****ing person, the person you always wanted to be, and then do it. get ot a place where you say "you know what i wouldve never done any of this if i was with her. i wouldve been contempt" but life is change. so embrace it. keep your head up and keep it moving. i think im on like almost 90 days nC. who wouldve thought it. seriously if your lurking, go look at my old stuff. you will be amazed. i was there. i still have my moments. PM me if u want. u can get on with it. small chunk it. take a small step tomorrow. take another the next day. and slowly you will be like "how did i get here?" Edited March 12, 2010 by McGrupp
bananaboat11 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 WOw MG, you really are a new, better you. Good for You!
DustySaltus Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 So McGrupp, you're doing stand-up around the city these days? I dated a girl who was sort of an up and coming comedian....well, at least she thought she was. Went to a couple of open mics where she performed and of course, she bombed.....then stopped calling me because she was too embarrased, go figure. Good luck though. You've come a long way.
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 no standup. sketch and some improv. ill post a link when we get one up worthy of something non-facebooky. i think we all have to realize, nothing will change inside any of us, unless we decide too.
Author McGrupp Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 on another note...and hopefully this will start some sort of discussion. how do you stop comparing. ill say honestly my ex was a solid 8. very pretty and a great body. probably a 9 when she dressed up. the girl im with now is a solid 7. prettiest girl in the bar with me the other night. shes a bit older (29), a bit funnier then my ex and probably a lot smarter. definitely a woman with value. however she is also different. and im have trying physically being attracted to her as much as i would like, and i believe a great deal of that is insecurity within myself, and thinking about the ex. im practicing getting out of my head and living in the "now" when im with her. its really still in the preliminary stages, but getting my validation from my ex beforehand within her beauty and class, im also reluctant to give myself to someone else at the fear of being hurt again, so right now im pursuing multiple women (as to avoid any rejection) . i guess ill just role with it, but any help is appreciated...
GrayClouds Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 oh i do have a roomate. he works nights,smokes a lot of pot and enjoys world of warcraft. i actually brought him out the other night. made me feel good about myself... You do know I was talking about you....
DustySaltus Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 When you say that she was a solid 8 are you only talking about looks? My ex was a solid 9 physically and about a 7.5 personality....with a personality of anywhere between a 1 and 9 in private due to her condition. You stop comparing by treating everyone as their own individual and realizing that it's not all about you. It's about building something together that takes time. You can't expect a new girl to be able to be compared to someone you've known for years after a few weeks. That's the logic you need to understand and then you'll be able to enjoy yourself a little more.
GrayClouds Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 how do you stop comparing. Just like what you do to move on from the pain focus on the good not the loss. Instead of focusing on you (and what you lost) focus on her ( and what you have). If you find yourself comparing start reminding yourself the things you like about the new one, what makes her special, what things about her that adds something good to your life. There is nothing wrong with that fear, as long as your honest about it, it just means your not 100% there. And keep remaindering yourself that you did survive and started to thrive after the break-up. You now know the strength you posses; what you just went through does not get any harder, and you not only made it through, you are making yourself better. The bottom line... F#CK IT, you proved to yourself you can handle it and when your ready you will be ready.
Rearden Metal Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 When you say that she was a solid 8 are you only talking about looks? My ex was a solid 9 physically and about a 7.5 personality....with a personality of anywhere between a 1 and 9 in private due to her condition. You stop comparing by treating everyone as their own individual and realizing that it's not all about you. It's about building something together that takes time. You can't expect a new girl to be able to be compared to someone you've known for years after a few weeks. That's the logic you need to understand and then you'll be able to enjoy yourself a little more. Great post Dusty.
jlr Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 McGrupp - I'll have to check out that Gorillaz tune. I've been hearing good things about it. It's hard to not compare people to your ex. I keep doing it too. Though I don't rate people on a numeric scale, like you do
spriggig Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 ...i guess ill just role with it, but any help is appreciated... Take your 7 and turn her into a 9. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it is in your power to change this for yourself. Boost her self-confidence and you will see her in a new light. Lifted from "How to Light Her Fire" 2. Praise her in front of someone else this week... 5. Complement her on her physical beauty...be descriptive and specific. 6. Complement her on what she has done. Pay close attention to all the things she does for you and take time to recognize them verbally.
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