unsureLP Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Venting a bit... Why did he ignore me tonight? What did I do now? What did I say? Ok, so I took our daughter to the park and was 15 minutes late getting back, but I called him to let him know where we were. Was that really a big deal? I make dinner, get her ready for bed, and since today is his day to read for her and actually put her to bed *at his request* I started studying. Then he just put her to bed, went to our bedroom and locked himself in. Why?!? No goodnight, no kiss, no nothing. I'm so tired, really, really tired of this emotional up and down. I feel like I'm on a crazy out-of-control carnival ride. When I think things are beginning to look up, something else happens. We have a date tomorrow. Now I have no idea if he'll still want to go or what. Ugh. Ugh. I want to throw up now.
spriggig Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I feel anger and regret when I'm thinking about the past--what she did, what I did. I feel sad and insecure when I think about the future--we won't be together, will I find someone else? I feel the best when I stay in the present and stay busy. The roller coaster ride comes from an intense focus on myself, I think your SO is thinking about the past and the future. Help him focus on the present moment, count your blessings and be happy for now.
LisaUk Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Was he expeting to spend some time with you? Is one of the problems with your marriage that your H feels a last priority in your life, like your needs and study come first?
Author unsureLP Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 Was he expeting to spend some time with you? Is one of the problems with your marriage that your H feels a last priority in your life, like your needs and study come first? He got moody before I started studying, when I came back from the park. But it might have made him more mad (he didn't say it though). I have been trying to make more time away from studying and be free to do something with him. We have been doing more together, but sometimes I really need to study. Did you ask him what was wrong?? I did. We had a date the next day (yesterday) and I asked why he went to bed so early. He said he was in a bad mood and didn't want to start a fight. So he was actually trying to do something good for us by trying to leave me alone. I need to relax more. I jump at the littlest thing now, because of our history. I have to forget the past and give us a chance to build a new relationship without all the fighting.
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