4givrnt4gtr Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 So, Im supposed to be on a dating hiatus of sorts.... Ofcourse that doesn't mean I cant think someone is cute or nice. So there is this guy I met in one of my classes who also is at work. At first I didnt pay much attention but then he started making conversation with me and you know I thought he was cute..no big deal. Well last week I was enjoying my baby crush, went up to talk to him and what not. He asked me if I wanted food...which was kinda weird (didnt get that he was asking me if i wanted to go get food with him), so i said no. He seemed a bit crestfallen but I didnt think much of it. We continued talking and he asked me for my email so he could let me know if i can borrow some books from him. I gave it to him and though I realized I might have messed up a dinner date, i was quite ok., we even agreed to take a class together next quarter. Well, this week I saw him in class, he totally ignored me, didn't even say hi. I noticed he texts all thru the class so I am assuming he has a girlfriend or something which is fine, whatever. Then today I came in with my friend at work, he looked up and immediately looked down, again, didnt say hi, just ignored me. A few minutes later I get an email from him saying the books he was gonna let me borrow (which are for a test) are very dense and he thought he should let me know (aka he isnt gonna let me borrow them). I responded with thank you for letting me know and I figured as much so I already got them. Still i said it was nice of him to have offered. I feel like im being rejected without me even trying to pursue...what the heck! Not gonna lie, im pretty butt hurt about it...what in the world could have happened? I mean aside from me saying no to food, I haven't done anything else that would warrant him treating me like Im a pest.... sad days
alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 ...what in the world could have happened? I mean aside from me saying no to food, I haven't done anything else that would warrant him treating me like Im a pest.... its not you, its him....hes weird
start-fresh Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Hmm, I will be surprised if you get any sympathy here. I'm sure he probably feels like you rejected his advance so he's not going to reach out. Some people aren't especially social, so he might not be trying to make you feel hurt, he's just not going to go out of his way to make you feel otherwise. I would say the mature thing to do if you are interested is to tell him you misunderstood he was asking you out and invite him out for drinks or coffee or whatever floats your boat.
start-fresh Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 its not you, its him....hes weird I stand corrected.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 well, I would have said something had he actually asked me out but he just said "do you want food?" which to me sounded like "i have extra food somewhere, do you want it?" SO besides being totally confused and awkward.....quite frankly i didnt know what to say without sounding desperate and totally eager....i felt bad but given that we continued talking everything seemed fine I didnt think it had been so serious as for him to act like that. A friend of mine tells me the maybe he was just friendly and he sensed i liked him so he backed off as to not give me the wrong impression....how very sad.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Well I bit the bullet and went by his desk. He just seems very nervous and awkward so I just acted very friendly and just casual. I dont know...men are such strange creatures.
alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I dont know...men are such strange creatures. yes, we're a mystery wrapped in an enigma which is then all wrapped in bacon
LovelyDaze Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 yes, we're a mystery wrapped in an enigma which is then all wrapped in bacon You are so silly, alphamale! Hahahahaha! 4giv, I think that the guy got his ego bruised and doesn't want you to take another shot at doing it again...in his opinion. Don't feel bad, just last month I had one guy I was dating text this: So...r u relaxin' at home tonight? I text back: Yeah, It's my 1st day off. Finally! LOL He didn't text back the whole Saturday night. By Tuesday, we hung out and he admitted that he was disappointed that I didn't read into his text that he was asking me to go out with him again.... Thing is...HE DIDN'T ASK! Sounds like the guys we were dating wanted us to do the work of "reading in between the lines" and assume we know what they want. Ugh.
RobM Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Thing is...HE DIDN'T ASK! Sounds like the guys we were dating wanted us to do the work of "reading in between the lines" and assume we know what they want. Ugh. Sounds just like a woman!!!
threebyfate Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Ladies, you have two problems: These guys can't properly communicate.These guys can't handle one rejection.Imagine dating or being in a relationship with someone this sensitive. You'll go nuts! Be glad it didn't happen.
Hot Mess Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Why are you even bothering with this guy? First he asks you if you "want food", like he's got the vocabulary of an ape, and then he gets all bent of out shape and resentful when you dont leap at the chance. Dude sounds like a serial killer. Or at the very least a soft c*ck.
LovelyDaze Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Sounds just like a woman!!! LOL...Sorry,We can't help the double X chromosomes! Ladies, you have two problems: These guys can't properly communicate.These guys can't handle one rejection. Imagine dating or being in a relationship with someone this sensitive. You'll go nuts! Be glad it didn't happen. You are so right, threebyfate. THAT'S why we are not dating now. The communication went from killer to serial killer(thanks, Hot Mess): strange innuendos, odd comments and a plethora of unanswered questions. I try to bathe in logic whenever possible. 4giv, don't waste you're time. I feel very free of what my future was going to be with that guy...not pretty.
brightlights Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I wouldn't lose sleep over it, he's obviously over sensitive and if anything you should thank him for showing you his weird side early so you didn't have to lose any real time on him. It's a blessing not a slap, take it and run you deserve better.
LovelyDaze Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I wouldn't lose sleep over it, he's obviously over sensitive and if anything you should thank him for showing you his weird side early so you didn't have to lose any real time on him. It's a blessing not a slap, take it and run you deserve better. Exactly. Better now than if you two were a full fledged couple of about 6 months or so. Oh BTW...I meant your instead of you're in my reply(jeez)
meerkat stew Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Where was the "total unwarranted slap in the face" part? Why are you letting this bother you so? Do you feel wronged? Try not to, it just doesn't sound like a great big deal and is not productive to dwell on.
phineas Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 yes, we're a mystery wrapped in an enigma which is then all wrapped in bacon what isn't better wrapped in bacon?
craw Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Why are you even bothering with this guy? First he asks you if you "want food", like he's got the vocabulary of an ape, and then he gets all bent of out shape and resentful when you dont leap at the chance. Dude sounds like a serial killer. Or at the very least a soft c*ck. hahahahahahahahahahah
St. Nick Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Why are you even bothering with this guy? First he asks you if you "want food", like he's got the vocabulary of an ape, and then he gets all bent of out shape and resentful when you dont leap at the chance. Dude sounds like a serial killer. Or at the very least a soft c*ck. He probably isn't taking it nearly as bad as the OP is. She said no, he moved on. He's making the best move by ignoring her, otherwise she'd think he still wants her.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Well actually, the slap in the face was not so much because of him per say but because of the fact that I wasn't even pursuing him and I felt like he shot me down....basically i felt rejected without even warranting being rejected In any case, I realized he wasn't ignoring me, he just is getting extremely nervous and awkward when Im around. Its weird to see a 30 year old act like he's 13...ekkk. We are cool, talking and stuff...im just being more careful now to just keep it extra friendly, platonic type of thing so as to not flip him out and making him want to hide under a desk when he sees me.
Ross PK Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 its not you, its him....hes weird What a stupid comment. 4givrnt4gtr, he's obviously felt like you rejected him and that's why he's acting this way.
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