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Sigh. I'm in a dating slump...


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keep your head up. there's always another one right around the corner

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i think i've lost my mojo amerikajin

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i think i've lost my mojo amerikajin

 

I'm guessing it's because there's other sh*t in your life that's getting inside your head. It's not just women, right?

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I'm guessing it's because there's other sh*t in your life that's getting inside your head. It's not just women, right?

yea pretty much

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yea pretty much

 

Clear the other junk out of your head first...the rest will kinda fall into place.

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Clear the other junk out of your head first...the rest will kinda fall into place.

i guess you're right, chicks are not a high priority now

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i still don't have any chicks i can call....well there is one, Lorna, but i don't know if I'm into her that much

From your posts, it seems like you've been seeing a lot of women who you weren't into "that much". Were you going for quantity to compensate for the lack of quality? My advice is to slow down and not worry about how many numbers you did or did not get. Instead, try to find 2-3 girls that you actually like - a lot - and focus your attention on them.

 

Don't date girls who you are not really into simply because you have nothing better going on at the moment. Not only is it a waste of time and money, but it would ultimately hurt you self esteem instead of helping it.

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Don't date girls who you are not really into simply because you have nothing better going on at the moment. Not only is it a waste of time and money, but it would ultimately hurt you self esteem instead of helping it.

indeed JM...

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From your posts, it seems like you've been seeing a lot of women who you weren't into "that much". Were you going for quantity to compensate for the lack of quality? My advice is to slow down and not worry about how many numbers you did or did not get. Instead, try to find 2-3 girls that you actually like - a lot - and focus your attention on them.

 

Don't date girls who you are not really into simply because you have nothing better going on at the moment. Not only is it a waste of time and money, but it would ultimately hurt you self esteem instead of helping it.

 

I second this. It's like your going out just to see how many numbers you can get in order to feed your ego. Rejection is brutal enough so any unnecessary rejection should be avoided at all costs.

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Why not just invite her out for a drink or two. Don't plan anything, just a casual night out. See where it leads. If you're not sure you want to be with her alone for fear of suggesting something, you can always tell her to invite her friends...some of whom might be hot.:cool: And even if they're not, it probably beats sitting at home alone boozing it up in front of the television.

 

I agree. One word:

 

PARTY!

 

If you can't throw it, get a friend or 2 to have one and tell them to invite people (ahem chicks).

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Alpha,

 

Mojo is not something that packs its bags and moves to Europe forever. It's still inside of you, hidden in the deep recesses of your personality. So before you find it, look down at your hand and be re-acquainted. You'll be fine. The monsoon season will come soon when warmer weather arrives. Spring fever makes people go all crazy.

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So before you find it, look down at your hand and be re-acquainted.

 

:confused:

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From what I know many guys, when they are in a dry spell, will call/email every girl from their list who they have dated during last 1-1.5 yrs. I have received many random calls like that. I guess if they do that, it might work?

 

Try free dating sites. I think it works for short-term relationships well.

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Prior to my last short lived girlfriend, I had been in about a.. 2+ year dating slump.

 

Wow, now that I'm reading that, that's sorta bad. Hahaha.

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well i went out last nite and came home empty handed. no numbers. no anything. there were a bunch of chicks there but they were so busy talking with themselves it was hard to break in.

 

oh well maybe next time i suppose.

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well i went out last nite and came home empty handed. no numbers. no anything. there were a bunch of chicks there but they were so busy talking with themselves it was hard to break in.

 

oh well maybe next time i suppose.

 

Don't try so hard...

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well i went out last nite and came home empty handed. no numbers. no anything. there were a bunch of chicks there but they were so busy talking with themselves it was hard to break in.

 

oh well maybe next time i suppose.

 

 

You have to focus on the "tag along friend" in that scenario and break her away from the rest of the pack...

 

stick to the alpha textbook

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Don't try so hard...

 

 

I cannot agree more with this statement...

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dude you need to rediscover the alpha in you... right now you're sounding so beta the girls can sniff you from a mile away.

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I think ur having an "I'm getting older and I need validation from chicks" moment.

 

Am I warm?

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This is a slump? I haven't been able to get a date in like 2.5yrs....

 

Just be yourself and focus on you and things will turn around.

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Well i haven't gotten any new numbers in a few weeks. Its also been a couple weeks since i've had a date. I asked a girl out last night and she said no.

 

I'm really feeling low.

 

With dating its either feast or famine and i'm starving right now.

 

Anyone have any advice or comforting words?

 

Well hey we all have slumps. I am in a slump for example. But just think of all the dates you did go on... let the world see your credentials!

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alphamale's credentials: Click on name then click on profile, then click "all posts started by alphamale" :p

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Well i haven't gotten any new numbers in a few weeks. Its also been a couple weeks since i've had a date. I asked a girl out last night and she said no.

 

I'm really feeling low.

 

With dating its either feast or famine and i'm starving right now.

 

Anyone have any advice or comforting words?

 

So 'AlphaMale's Guide to Keeping Women Around' didn't work. In that thread you described how you were punishing/confussing your then girlfriend with silence and distance...

 

Why not try to meet one special women and be genuine and honest? She might just treat you well in return.

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i went out last nite and asked this girl debbie out, she said no - the slump continues.

 

i've been batting .000 lately

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