alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Well i haven't gotten any new numbers in a few weeks. Its also been a couple weeks since i've had a date. I asked a girl out last night and she said no. I'm really feeling low. With dating its either feast or famine and i'm starving right now. Anyone have any advice or comforting words?
brightlights Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 srry to hear that, have u tried any of the online sites?
Author alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 srry to hear that, have u tried any of the online sites? no, i don't do online dating any more. i was one of the pioneers and then after a couple years figured out it was a scam
brightlights Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 oh ok, how about bookstores, you sit in your favorite section and see who comes, that's usually a pretty good place
Rearden Metal Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 On the bright side, I loved that list you made about women. Made my day yesterday.
Author alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 sigh i guess i'm just a loser and will never get another number
Pyro Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 That is dating karma for you. Perhaps next time you will consider not using texting to dump someone.
skydiveaddict Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 sigh i guess i'm just a loser and will never get another number lol dont say that it aint true bro
Author alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 That is dating karma for you. Perhaps next time you will consider not using texting to dump someone. so god is punishing me because for once i actually told a girl that i wasn't interested in her anymore? normally i would have just disappeared without telling her anything
start-fresh Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 How about...who cares? He's making fun of the all of the 'woe is me' posts on here.
Yamaha Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I guess I could say something like "maybe you need some alone time" or the standard "they always show up when ur not looking" but to be honest when u have no one it sucks. Hang in there.
brightlights Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 no your not being punished, telling the truth and not dragging a relationship along is a good thing, don't bring yourself down for that.
Author alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 I guess I could say something like "maybe you need some alone time" or the standard "they always show up when ur not looking" but to be honest when u have no one it sucks. Hang in there. i guess i shouldn't complain...there are some people here who haven't had a date in 5 years
Pyro Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 so god is punishing me because for once i actually told a girl that i wasn't interested in her anymore? normally i would have just disappeared without telling her anything you didn't tell her though in a mature and noble way, but that is a whole different topic of discussion. I stand by my opinion.
sweetjasmine Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 normally i would have just disappeared without telling her anything I've never understood why people do this. Do you normally do that because it's easier? Or because you don't want to confront someone? Or hurt their feelings? I'm not trying to attack you. Just curious.
Author alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 I've never understood why people do this. Do you normally do that because it's easier? Or because you don't want to confront someone? Or hurt their feelings? all of the above
CarrieT Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 all of the above But don't you realize that you ARE hurting their feelings by doing it that way? I can't understand why people can be so cruel to others.
Author alphamale Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 But don't you realize that you ARE hurting their feelings by doing it that way? you will "hurt their feelings" no matter what you do or do not do... anyways do you know where i can meet some new women CarrieT?
CarrieT Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 you will "hurt their feelings" no matter what you do or do not do... Of course, but there are kinder more polite ways to hurt people. Why take the path that is more deliberately cruel? anyways do you know where i can meet some new women CarrieT? You and I are in the same boat, my friend. I am trying the meetup.com route and going outside my comfort zone in looking at different groups that I would have normally dismissed. I haven't had a date in more than six months and you are barely going on six weeks...
Author alphamale Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 i still don't have any chicks i can call....well there is one, Lorna, but i don't know if i'm into her that much
amerikajin Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Well i haven't gotten any new numbers in a few weeks. Its also been a couple weeks since i've had a date. I asked a girl out last night and she said no. I'm really feeling low. With dating its either feast or famine and i'm starving right now. Anyone have any advice or comforting words? Whenever I encountered the slump, I would often go through the same sort of emotions, wondering if I had somehow lost my touch. I would kinda feel humbled by the experience, which itself isn't really a bad thing. It gives you perspective, and maybe a bit of sensitivity to those we've rejected along the way. Maybe it gives us time to think and reflect on what's really important in our lives. The mojo eventually comes back.
amerikajin Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 i still don't have any chicks i can call....well there is one, Lorna, but i don't know if i'm into her that much Why not just invite her out for a drink or two. Don't plan anything, just a casual night out. See where it leads. If you're not sure you want to be with her alone for fear of suggesting something, you can always tell her to invite her friends...some of whom might be hot. And even if they're not, it probably beats sitting at home alone boozing it up in front of the television.
amerikajin Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 But don't you realize that you ARE hurting their feelings by doing it that way? I can't understand why people can be so cruel to others. I agree with alpha. I think the whole thing about dumping someone over a text is a bit overdone. Maybe a tad lacking in terms of social finesse, but it's going to hurt no matter what you do. It does depend on the situation, yes, but I think alpha wasn't dating her for that long, am I right? I once dumped a girl I had been on two dates with by text. I don't regret it one bit. What was I going to do, invite her out, waste four more hours of her time, just so I could tell her I don't want to see her anymore? Ridiculous. Now if he just stopped contact and left her to wonder what the hell? That's different. That is a douche thing to do. But dumping by text? Meh...not so much - at least not in all cases.
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