JJ1983 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I was seeing a girl for close to a year. About 4 months ago I lost her because of something I did. I pushed her out of my life because I just put way too much pressure on her. I dont want to get in to details to be honest. To make a long story short; she wants absolutely nothing to do with me. I have messaged her a few times and she responded but I can tell its strictly out of politeness. This is absolutely destroying me. I know it may be an exaggeration but I cant help the way I feel. Do anyone of you have any idea what it feels like to have such strong feelings for someone who wants nothing to do with you knowing it was your fault. It bothers me every minute of the day. I dont know what to do
Ronni_W Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Hugs, JJ. Yes, it's difficult to recover from any loss and more so when you've had a big hand in causing it. You may wish to consult with a therapist or loss/grief counselor, and work towards understanding the source of your ultimately self-defeating behaviour, releasing the guilt, forgiving yourself, recovering from the loss, and freeing yourself to move forward. One way or another, all of that kind of needs to get done so you're not carrying the baggage with you into your future. Sending good wishes.
boogieboy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Those feelings youre talking about take a long time to go away. All you can do is distract yourself constantly. Go out with friends, workout, find new activities. Force yourself if you have to. The only alternative is to sit, do nothing and loop your own thoughts around in your head, which is unhealthy. Ive been there, just force yourself to get up and do as much as you can.
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