Phishes Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 So me and my girlfriend havent been seeing too eye-to-eye lately... It turns out i've been talking to her friends, specifically about her, way too much... And this info got to my girlfriend! So a matter of weeks ago she started neglecting me and not even looking like she wanted to talk to me. Well things have gotten much better, but i still have a feeling that she's holding a grudge. So my solution was a letter of apology, i sent it to her explaining that i was sorry that "my friends were bugging you (her)". Because thats what initially happened, then her friends leaked it all! So i sent it to her, then things definitely cleared up! But that was back a few weeks, and its still kinda weird. So should i send another message saying that im truely sorry that i asked her friends so much about her??????????? I want things to clear up, and in this relationship i went from being the top dog who control the relationship and was the "big stud" (lol), to being the one on the outside! Truth is, i've calmed down and not let it get the best of me...I've let her be for a while too... But when this Spring Break started, i sent her a message saying "hey so you doing anything fun over break?" NO REPLY YET!!! idk if it sent, cuz facebook no longer has a "sent" bin... PLZ HELP!!! Im gonna fix it myself, but i want it to turn around as fast as possible!
boogieboy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Theres nothing you can do. You turned her off, and now she doesnt want to hear from you. If she does call, be prepared for her to use this against you, and you have to defend your right to say what you said. You cant grovel. If you apologize again, you will just be seen as a wimp.
Author Phishes Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 her friends just told her that i like her. They were gonna ask her if she liked me, which they did, and then they must of leaked that i was talking about her. I mean honestly she did overreact, but i can understand. She didn't make a big deal about it though in real life, she just needs space cuz i must of freaked her out a bit. I'll just stay away from her on facebook until she makes contact, in real life i gotta make it look as though im not the desperate one. I have to prove that i was never obsessed with her, i just liked to talk to people about her, yes, dumb i know, but i can fix this with ease if i am true to my word
Author Phishes Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Theres nothing you can do. You turned her off, and now she doesnt want to hear from you. If she does call, be prepared for her to use this against you, and you have to defend your right to say what you said. You cant grovel. If you apologize again, you will just be seen as a wimp. nothing i can do? wtf, dude couples faced with physical abuse get back together. I know i turned her off, it it was really retarted of me... But this is no reason for us to break up completely. Just starting over and becoming her friend again will get me back in the saddle
single-n-lonely Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 "I'll just stay away from her on facebook until she makes contact, in real life i gotta make it look as though im not the desperate one. I have to prove that i was never obsessed with her, i just liked to talk to people about her, yes, dumb i know, but i can fix this with ease if i am true to my word" I totally agree. I think of course you can win her back again. Just back off a little and it will make her want you more.
boogieboy Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 She stopped talking to you because her friends told you that you said you "like her"? If she was actually your gf this wouldnt be a problem, its understood. Youre not telling part of the story here. If youre only talking to her on FB, then shes not your gf, and thats why shes not talking to you, you never had her. So like I said before, you turned her off, and if she doesnt want to talk to you, she wont look for you until you leave her alone.
ADF Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 You're post is just too vague to allow an aswer. You were talking to your GF's freinds about what, exactly? Something negative, presumably, but what? And why? If I had problems with a GF, her friends would be the last people I'd confide in. You're leaving a lot out here.
New Again Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 She stopped talking to you because her friends told you that you said you "like her"? If she was actually your gf this wouldnt be a problem, its understood. Youre not telling part of the story here. If youre only talking to her on FB, then shes not your gf, and thats why shes not talking to you, you never had her. So like I said before, you turned her off, and if she doesnt want to talk to you, she wont look for you until you leave her alone. This is exactly what I thought also....
New Again Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Oh, and FB still has a "sent" folder, so you can definitely check to see if the message was actually sent. Probably you would only confirm that she's just ignoring you, however.
Author Phishes Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 "I'll just stay away from her on facebook until she makes contact, in real life i gotta make it look as though im not the desperate one. I have to prove that i was never obsessed with her, i just liked to talk to people about her, yes, dumb i know, but i can fix this with ease if i am true to my word" I totally agree. I think of course you can win her back again. Just back off a little and it will make her want you more. Thanks single-n-lovely! And hear this, things have been much better! I've backed off and we've started to talk more at school! Thanks again dude, its good to have some GOOD feedback here to give confidence!
Author Phishes Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 You're post is just too vague to allow an aswer. You were talking to your GF's freinds about what, exactly? Something negative, presumably, but what? And why? If I had problems with a GF, her friends would be the last people I'd confide in. You're leaving a lot out here. Well how can i phrase this, we've gotten really close. Well close for freshman in high school, so yeah the term GF is by far exaggerated in our generation if you haven't noticed... But you get what i mean? And things have gotten better, so thanks for your input anyways!
Author Phishes Posted March 18, 2010 Author Posted March 18, 2010 Oh, and FB still has a "sent" folder, so you can definitely check to see if the message was actually sent. Probably you would only confirm that she's just ignoring you, however. woooo man, facebook's new update got rid of the "sent" folder! tell me where it is to assure me plz!!
start-fresh Posted March 18, 2010 Posted March 18, 2010 No it didn't. Go to messages on the left hand side, and then sent is right under there beside inbox.
Avarage Posted March 19, 2010 Posted March 19, 2010 So you've gotten really close? Have you had any dates yet where both parties knew it was a date or just talking to each other outside of classes and on fb? Cause if that's all that you've done then she might've just considered you as a really good friend and nothing else. Unless it's plain as daylight where you've got her number or else the word date was said, it's not a date.
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