MissJo Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 So, I know this was wrong...but, I really just could not help myself and in order to satisfy my curiosity of the propensity for men to be skanks...I set up an old boyfriend that I suspected of cheating on me. By the way, this convo happened lonnnng after we broke up, so the gf he refers to is not me. I gave him numerous outs but, he was determined. Sight unseen. Read it for yourself... Me: Hey sexy 11:45 PM 913-xxx-xxxx: Who is this? I lost my phone and lots of numbers 11:46 PM Me: Jamie. 11:46 PM 913-xxx-xxxx: Jamie….Randall? 11:54 PM Me: Guess again. Maybe you have too many notches on your bedpost to remember me. 11:57 PM 913-xxx-xxxx: hahaha. Maybe so. Send me a picture. 11:58 PM Me: I don’t have a cam on phone. 913-xxx-xxxx: Damn, so what's up tonite 12:01 AM Me: was drinking downtown...now........laying in bed. you should come over 12:04 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Where ya at? 12:04 AM Me: i live on xxxxxx you know where that is? 12:07 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: I have gps. Do u live alone or with roomies? 12:08 AM Me: i have a roommate but, shes at her boyfriends 12:09 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Cool. So what's the address? 12:10 AM Me: 1424 xxxxxx 12:11 AM Me: sorry 1524 12:13 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Hah I was about to say my gps says that 1424 doesn't exist 12:13 AM Me: hahaha excited fingers 12:15 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Ha I like the sound of that 12:16 AM Me: > 12:18 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: So where r u originally from? The area code threw me off 12:20 AM Me: kansas 12:21 AM Me: right out side of kansas city 12:22 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Ah that explains why I didn't recognize it 12:23 AM Me: i want you to come over...but, i do have a boyfriend. Hes out of town. 12:24 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: I have a girlfriend. 12:25 AM Me: lol..ok 12:27 AM Me: wanna just meet for a drink some other night? 12:27 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: I was gonna come on over if u want 12:28 AM Me: haha now im feeling bad. 12:28 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: It's all good 12:29 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: U got any drinks at your place? 12:30 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: ??? 12:33 AM Me: just some coconut rum. :/ 12:34 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Well let's just have a drink there and see 12:34 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: I'm almost there 12:37 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Which house 12:39 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Still not sure which that is 12:42 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: Im here, which house exactly? 12:45 AM (913-xxx-xxxx: ???? 12:54 AM
Author MissJo Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 ok, how far unscrupulous people go to cheat. also, wanted to add, i sent him to an address that was doesnt exist.
CarrieT Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Are you going to share this with his current GF? If not, what was the point? Why are you still wasting time on this guy?
meerkat stew Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Do you know for a fact he has a GF? Do you know her or the true extent of their relationship? Isn't it more likely that he was trying to short-circuit your misgivings in your stating that you have a BF by saying he has a GF, so you are both complicit? You aren't really demonstrating anything here other than that you continue to be obsessed with an ex. Let those feelings, and him go and move forward with your own life. Nothing good can come from these kinds of games, and by that I mean nothing good for you.
Author MissJo Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 What was the point? I wanted to see how easy it would be to get a guy that "loves" his girlfriend to cheat. I didn't leave him hanging I said, I'm a friend of your girlfriend, you're ****ed. He didn't respond after that. But seriously what a sleeze. It could have been any guy that I knew, I'm not wasting time on this guy. I had to look on his facebook to even get his number. I do think its messed up how quickly he was willing to come bed a girl he doesn't know especially having a gf. Disgusting.
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Women go just as far, actually further because in a lot of cases they hide it better and lie more to keep it buried. Yeah mine cheated while I was away trying to save my dads life from a brain emboly disease and biatch was ***in sum arshowl that she knew from 15 years ago. she fell in love (as she says because she said that to me as well and dunno how many others) with him and dumped me after a 3 years of r/s - just 1 months of shag was worthwile dumping all those years to trash Yeh, that's how women cheat mate.
Barky Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Sex doesn't = Love for many men. They can love you to death and still want to bang that petite blonde over there.
CarrieT Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 What was the point? I wanted to see how easy it would be to get a guy that "loves" his girlfriend to cheat. I didn't leave him hanging I said, I'm a friend of your girlfriend, you're ****ed. He didn't respond after that. I'll ask again: Are you telling his girlfriend? Are you going to help a fellow female in light of this? I'm not wasting time on this guy. I had to look on his facebook to even get his number. I do think its messed up how quickly he was willing to come bed a girl he doesn't know especially having a gf. Disgusting. With all due respect, the fact that you spent time on him at all shows that you are obsessing on him to some extent. The conversation you posted started at 11:45 and ended at 12:54, well over an hour and that was not including the time you "had to look" to find his phone number. You didn't have to do any of this and I am still trying to figure out your motivation. All it does is show you as a vindictive, obsessed stalker. Can you turn this into something POSITIVE? Just confirming his behavior does nothing concrete for you (since it is something you already knew) or anyone else. I just don't get it.
Barky Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 It does seem a little strange to me as well. Maybe she kind of gets off on thinking about the guy with another woman. Some people are turned on by infidelity. See the whole 'hotwife' thing.
sid3 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 vindictive and stalkerish sounds about right, I'm not sure what the point was, maybe getting off on the control and teasing.Weird. Wouldn't an emotionally health and occupied adult have something better to do than to set some guy up. Anybody with half a brain knows that both men and women are equally capable of cheating and lying. Are abnormal experiements really neccesary to figure that out. Your post seems to suggest that it was more of a means for you to get off than an attempt to prove some guy is willing to cheat. IDK, maybe people are watching too much of tv shows like cheaters.
seibert253 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Women go just as far, actually further because in a lot of cases they hide it better and lie more to keep it buried. ^^^^^^ So true. I'm living proof.
Author MissJo Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Hahaha no, I don't get off on men cheating on their gf's or with other women. Nor am I obsessed or stalkerish. If no one here thinks its sad yet amusing that some loser thought he was going to get laid yet ended up driving 20min to some street only to find he got set up...lol I don't know what to say. I'm not going to defend myself. I think he looks like an ass and I hope he felt like one. anyway, aside from here, my friends thought it was pretty funny.
meerkat stew Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Hahaha no, I don't get off on men cheating on their gf's or with other women. Nor am I obsessed or stalkerish. If no one here thinks its sad yet amusing that some loser thought he was going to get laid yet ended up driving 20min to some street only to find he got set up...lol I don't know what to say. I'm not going to defend myself. I think he looks like an ass and I hope he felt like one. anyway, aside from here, my friends thought it was pretty funny. Seek help, you are in denial.
In_Repair Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 What did you prove though?... that he likes sex? So he has a girlfriend. What does he consider to be a girlfriend? He might have three or four girlfriends, depending on his definition of the word. From your conversation, even though he didn't specifically remember the woman he thought he was talking to, he already knew he had slept with her. So... you made a man drive 20 minutes for a sure-thing piece of ass that he already knew met his standards. Hell, do the same thing to me... and if I had nothing better lined up, I'd probably go off on that wild goose chase too. Then again, I'm a prick and I do see the humor in screwing with people. Especially exes. I'm sure you got a good laugh out of it. I've found worse ways to waste a couple of hours...
reboot Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 You picked a guy you already knew was a sleeze, not a random sample. You can't lump us all in together based on that.
nowomanocry Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 You picked a guy you already knew was a sleeze, not a random sample. You can't lump us all in together based on that. Even if she does wot difference does it make - who gives a ratz azz But the phone convo is indeed witty lol
Silver_star Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I think it was funny. I think he wont change his behavior..just the way he goes about cheating will change. So there really isnt much of a point to what you did..just a simple way to seek self satisfaction, and you deserve that closure if thats what it gives you. He sounds like an ass. Good riddance and good luck to those he cheats and lies too.
carhill Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Just think if all those smarts went into building a healthy relationship.....
Twenty-ten Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Do you know her or the true extent of their relationship? Isn't it more likely that he was trying to short-circuit your misgivings in your stating that you have a BF by saying he has a GF, so you are both complicit? I thought the exact same thing. I still fail to see what the point of this exercise was?
nowomanocry Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I think it was funny. I think he wont change his behavior..just the way he goes about cheating will change. So there really isnt much of a point to what you did..just a simple way to seek self satisfaction, and you deserve that closure if thats what it gives you. He sounds like an ass. Good riddance and good luck to those he cheats and lies too. Poor fella - sorry for him though , prolly her missus is elsewere shaggin some other bloke or he had so many bad experience with the other sex that he bcome a mobile fu...r (or thought he was ) Ya know, once when I was inexperienced, I met a gurl on the net and we chatted over the phone and did phone sex etc. and one day at 6 am she said "I can't take it no more, I wana b with u" and I rushed out at that time, went to her, she didn't even greet me at the door, called me to bed, with so much great expectations I walked there and found an ugly fat woman laying on the bed which put me off right at that moment .... I said I think I parked the car at a bad spot lemme check it out and ... basically ran for my life, didn't even look back lmao
Author MissJo Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 (edited) Lol nowomanocry that's hilarious. And I guess I didn't really have a point in the sense that you all are looking for, it wasn't a science experiment. I could have chosen any guy, and I did text another friend but he didn't respond. So, some guys cheat and some women cheat. I was just shocked at how easy it was to get him to come over. I'm pretty sure even if I was a huge slut, that if someone I didn't remember and that couldn't send a picture invited me over, I would decline. But anyway, I had a good laugh at his expense. If I had his gf's contact info I would let her know. But, I don't so therefore all I can do is hope he felt bad and maybe will think twice but I doubt it. Edited March 12, 2010 by MissJo
nowomanocry Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Lol nowomanocry that's hilarious. And I guess I didn't really have a point in the sense that you all are looking for, it wasn't a science experiment. I could have chosen any guy, and I did text another friend but he didn't respond. So, some guys cheat and some women cheat. I was just shocked at how easy it was to get him to come over. I'm pretty sure even if I was a huge slut, that if someone I didn't remember and that couldn't send a picture invited me over, I would decline. But anyway, I had a good laugh at his expense. If I had his gf's contact info I would let her know. But, I don't so therefore all I can do is hope he felt bad and maybe will think twice but I doubt it. Well, MissJo, sorry to prove ya wrong hun but I'm single and was single at that time as well lol As for the other guy I'm sure he felt bad because after that convo was a big disappointment for him keeping his dik in his pants lmao - wot a screw heh heh
Lizzie60 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I thought it was rather funny.. and very true... Most men would do the exact same thing if they thought they could get sex... I've made the same experiment once.. (when I think about it.. I've done it more than once).. but that time, I intentionally did it to prove how a man can succomb even if he says he would never ever cheat. That guy on vacation, a few years ago.... he was in his early 40s.. his wife must have been around 37-38, and they had a young son, about 5 yrs old... I was alone on vacation.. They came in the restaurant and sat at the table next to mine... He was incredibly attractive.. I looked at him.. several times.. and he noticed it.. Later that night, I was at the bar, he came in.. with his wife and son, then they left.. he came back alone about 1/2 hour later.. he sat at the bar... I went to the bar and ordered a drink.. we started to chat.. we were openly talking about 'relationships' in general... he said she was his 2nd wife.. and he was very much in love with this woman.. married for about 6 years... He was a fireman... and also working at American Airlines. He said he never cheated before.. even on his first wife.. (he wasn't happy with her)... blablabla... I then invited him to my room.. I was feeling very frisky.. and I was looking very sexy... I knew he liked me.. and I was pretty sure he would come over.. at first he said he couldn't do that.. so I left after I gave him my room number.. Five minutes after I was in my room... he was at my door.. he got in.. we started to kiss.. he was getting excited.. I removed my top... and as soom as I touch him.. he came.. He then started to cry like a baby... saying how dumb he was, how incredibly sorry he was ... that he had to go back since he felt soo bad about his wife.. blablabla.. The next day, at the beach, I went to the bar .. he followed me.. I told him I was sorry for the night before.. he then said, that if he would have been alone, without his wife there.. he would have f*cked me all night.. We talked a few times before I left.. Most men are easy ... and I challenge any woman... if you try this experiment.. I can almost guarantee that it will work 99.9% of the time.. even with guys who swear would never ever cheat.. Interesting..
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