rainesa5348 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Well, my exboyfriend and I broke up about 1 month and a half ago from a 2 year relationship. He broke up with me. For about a month after the break up we talked and I'd seem to make progress on getting back together but then all of a sudden it would be gone. We would go out on dates, talk all the time, and see each other every day. It was basically like a relationship w/o the title. He broke up with me and when he did he told me like 5 different reasons and over time I ended up with one. He thinks its best if we go to college single and experience it alone. He is going to a college 2 hours away from me which isn't a big deal. I understand his reasoning to break up but at the same time im a laid back girlfriend and im not gonna hold him back from anything except sleeping with other girls. I feel like I truely love him and that he's the one for me but he won't listen to me. He tells me he just doesn't want a relationship and that if he did, it would be with me. He says its not about dating its just about freedom in college. BUT, now he's been hanging out with other girls and talking to some 24/7. I obviously haven't moved on and I don't know what to do. I'm also in the dilemma that I may be pregnant and he has told me it would ruin our futures and basically tries to persuade me to get an abortion. When I try to talk to him about anything all he says is "k". It's sad I still want him but for some reason I just can't help it. I'm strongly against abortion and its upsetting that he won't support me in the decision to keep it if I am pregnant. Any advice?
LovelyDaze Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Well, my exboyfriend and I broke up about 1 month and a half ago from a 2 year relationship. He broke up with me. For about a month after the break up we talked and I'd seem to make progress on getting back together but then all of a sudden it would be gone. We would go out on dates, talk all the time, and see each other every day. It was basically like a relationship w/o the title. He broke up with me and when he did he told me like 5 different reasons and over time I ended up with one. He thinks its best if we go to college single and experience it alone. He is going to a college 2 hours away from me which isn't a big deal. I understand his reasoning to break up but at the same time im a laid back girlfriend and im not gonna hold him back from anything except sleeping with other girls. I feel like I truely love him and that he's the one for me but he won't listen to me. He tells me he just doesn't want a relationship and that if he did, it would be with me. He says its not about dating its just about freedom in college. BUT, now he's been hanging out with other girls and talking to some 24/7. I obviously haven't moved on and I don't know what to do. I'm also in the dilemma that I may be pregnant and he has told me it would ruin our futures and basically tries to persuade me to get an abortion. When I try to talk to him about anything all he says is "k". It's sad I still want him but for some reason I just can't help it. I'm strongly against abortion and its upsetting that he won't support me in the decision to keep it if I am pregnant. Any advice? Okay. The biggest thing is to go to a doctor or health clinic and find out if you really are pregnant. If you are and you are against having an abortion, then you must tell him and STILL he must be involved even if it is just financially. Sorry to say this, but in this situation-i hope you're not because he is not going to fall madly in love again and be a dream father and husband. It will most likely be a nightmare with him resenting you (even though he obviously didn't secure using protection either) and STILL date other girls... Baby or no baby. Now, if you are not pregnant. You still need to go completely NC. Your ex is trying to sugar coat the fact that he wants to freely date in college and be honestly single while doing that. Let me tell you this...no matter if you two decide to get back together, that may not stop him from seeing other girls on the side without you knowing. You're not joined at the hip so there is little to nothing you can do to stop him. It is up to you if THIS is the relationship you feel you deserve. Love doesn't hurt....think about that.
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