PumaGK Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 This week has been a strange one for me. About six weeks ago I started dating this girl. (I'm 30, she is 24.) We called a text back and forth for about three weeks before we went on our first date. So, I guess we have been talking for about 8 - 9 weeks..... We have doing things the correct way. Giving each other space, we waited a month before sleeping together etc... We really were bonding well and things were going great. I mean super great, you could just feel something special .... Last week, she contacted me all the time and wanted to spend like "boyfriend/girlfriend" time together. I mean after work we would share a bottle of wine and enjoy each others company. I would pick her up from going out with her friends. We basically spent like four night in a row together. It was special, lot of chemistry .... So this week comes around and she kind of turned me down Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday night. We talked and text a little but thats all. Then yesterday, we did not talk at all. The first time in six weeks ..... Don't get it, last week we were serious and she was contacting me. Everything was so wonderful. This week nothing .... What should I do? Should I call her today and asked her why the roller coaster? or should I just wait for her to call me? Don't know .... I just don't know, I really like this girl and don't want to do the wrong thing..... Thanks
befreckled Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 a couple questions: are you guys exclusive? or is she dating other people? it could be that she met someone else and that person is taking her attention. depending on her job, it could just be that she's busy
Author PumaGK Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 a couple questions: are you guys exclusive? or is she dating other people? it could be that she met someone else and that person is taking her attention. depending on her job, it could just be that she's busy She has always mentioned the importance of monogamy. I guess you never know about if someone meets someone else. We have never talked about being exclusive but I was kind of under the impression we were .. I'll text her today and asking her to hang-out tonight ... If she turns me down, which she really never has till this week. I'll just ask her why she is blowing me off this week after us getting so close the previous two weeks. Normally stuff like this doesn't bother me but this is the first girl that i really like a lot in a long time. I mean I really like this one .... By the way ... I hate the dating game ... It really sucks.
boogieboy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Dont call her, dont do shyt. Wait for her to come to you. But honestly, I think you did or said something to turn her off in the last 4 times you saw each other. Theres nothing you can do but retrace your words to see if you can remember a negative reaction to something you said. She most likely wont tell you and will call you up giving you the lets just be friends speech. If she does that, tell her you wont be friends with her unless she tells you what you did to turn her off. I hope for your sake that a guy who dumped her didnt call her back into his life.
DustySaltus Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 When a girl falls off the face of the earth like this it usually means that there is someone else in the picture. It could be an ex, could be someone new. Either way I think there should be some communication on her end to let you know what the hell is going on. She turned you down a bunch of times. Well, if she's really into you she would suggest a few alternate dates when you can meet. She's blowing you off and the way she went about it was classless. I think she was using you as an emotional tampon/space filler/rebound while she figured out what she wanted to do for herself. It's extremely selfish and I wouldn't contact her at all if I were you. And if she tries to come back down the line and tells you, "Oh, I was busy with school or work or I was sick...blah, blah, blah" Just tell her you met someone else. Get out there and date. This crap happens to the best of us. Good luck.
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