confused71 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Hi there, So after my year seperation and divorce last september I have been dating this really great girl I met on an online dating site since december. We seem to have so much in common and get along really well and I have fallen for her big time .(no this is not the first relationship since my marriage break up)We spend most weekends together and I was pretty sure she was into me as well. Well a couple of weeks ago she started acting a bit distant and I got the feeling she was having second thoughts. Since meeting her I have deleted all my online dating profiles but I noticed she still logs into hers and has even recently changed her photos. Does anyone think this is a bad sign?? Is it too soon to expect her to delete her profiles? She now seems to be ok with me again and things seem great but she is still logging into her online dating. I feel like I am spying but my marriage break up was due to my wife cheating so I am obviously a bit paranoid.
boogieboy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 You probably wore your heart on your sleeve and ruined the challenge for her. SO she obviously wasnt as into you as you are into her. When she changes her photos and is still on the dating site, she has started the process of shopping and stringing you along until she finds someone else. Thats why she is distant. Dont let her use you for company until she finds someone else. Put your profile back online and dump her now.
DustySaltus Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 The new profile pics are obviously a bad sign. I would just minimize the damage at this point. Put your profile back up and just try and move forward. But don't confront her on this at all, you don't want to look like a stalker.
calizaggy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Just ask her why she is on the dating site.. IMHO if she is adding new photos/logging in she is OBVIOUSLY looking for someone else..(I.E. someone better) If you have to play some game with her (act disinterested etc) she is not worth your time.
phineas Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 He doesn't act disinterested, he just ignores her & puts his profile back up on the same dateing site. He knows what she's doing. He's seen it with his own eyes. She'll figure it out when she gets matched up with him again. LOL! He can ask her, but she'll probably just lie to keep him around.
calizaggy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 When I online dated I encounteered this 2 times,, Her profile was still up, and she was still checking it.. I told her it bothered me.. Both times they took the profile down, end of story. With women it is best to be direct and straightforward.
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Hi there, So after my year seperation and divorce last september I have been dating this really great girl I met on an online dating site since december. We seem to have so much in common and get along really well and I have fallen for her big time .(no this is not the first relationship since my marriage break up)We spend most weekends together and I was pretty sure she was into me as well. Well a couple of weeks ago she started acting a bit distant and I got the feeling she was having second thoughts. Since meeting her I have deleted all my online dating profiles but I noticed she still logs into hers and has even recently changed her photos. Does anyone think this is a bad sign?? Is it too soon to expect her to delete her profiles? She now seems to be ok with me again and things seem great but she is still logging into her online dating. I feel like I am spying but my marriage break up was due to my wife cheating so I am obviously a bit paranoid. Well you were wrong then mate - why would she miss other fish plenty in the sea? What makes you think you are a big deal? Big mistake to delete your profile and jump into this r/s (if you can call it). Why would you think she would delete hers? (for the same reason as above) When you have question marks, spying is never a bad thing, especially if you are into a long devoted relationship with a female. I did it myself after being dumped and found out the biatch was seeing another fella and was actually cheating. So there should be nothing surprising to find out she's cheating. Probably you are not so interesting for her so she's still out there looking. When she finds one better than you, she'll dump ya for sure mate. Always keep a reserve player in your team lol Good luck
jackiss Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Try and find another alternative. As long as you hold off, not worth the effort.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 My BF and I didn't take our sites down, but we both turned off matching and let the accounts expire. Once we realized we were both into each other and decided we weren't dating anyone else, it wasn't a matter of IF we stopped checking/updating. That's not really acceptable in a committed relationship. Are you seeing this woman exclusively? Yes, my OKC page is still up, I use it to check out the guys my friends are interested in contacting. Unfortunately I can never remember my user name, so it's not even good for that. I do have a blurb on there about being taken though so I won't keep getting emails.
Satisfaction Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 (edited) Hi there, So after my year seperation and divorce last september I have been dating this really great girl I met on an online dating site since december. We seem to have so much in common and get along really well and I have fallen for her big time .(no this is not the first relationship since my marriage break up)We spend most weekends together and I was pretty sure she was into me as well. Well a couple of weeks ago she started acting a bit distant and I got the feeling she was having second thoughts. Since meeting her I have deleted all my online dating profiles but I noticed she still logs into hers and has even recently changed her photos. Does anyone think this is a bad sign?? Is it too soon to expect her to delete her profiles? She now seems to be ok with me again and things seem great but she is still logging into her online dating. I feel like I am spying but my marriage break up was due to my wife cheating so I am obviously a bit paranoid. Updating the profile with new pictures is a very bad sign. Don't put your profile back up just yet, but I suggest you run away from her. Bad news! Edited March 11, 2010 by Satisfaction re read post
Green Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 You need to talk to her about this. Tell her how you feel, and that you don't want to be in a committed relationship with her. It would have been nice if she had just done this on her own. But, you obviously arn't talking to her about this stuff.
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