Gunny376 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 All You can post on this thread is POSITIVE stuff! No Gloom and doom! This is a "Count Your Blessing Not Your Troubles" Thread! You might want to start out with "Thank God!" Me? Thank God I'm not married! Thank God I'm single! Thank God for my DD! Thank God for my DS! Thank God He gave my dumb @zz enough sense to do twenty years in tha' Corps! Thank God I did it! Thank God its over!
carhill Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Roof over the head and a loyal and loving cat on the bed; that and the breath God blesses me with are all I need tonight.
Author Gunny376 Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Thanks for chinning in carhill! There are so many here suffering, and those of us that have gone before ~ need to let those that are suffering that there is life afterwards! 15,000,000 out of work! Un-employment benefits extented to one year? No relief in site! But I've been so blessed in my life! Count your blessings! God has laid a good and many things at your feet!
uksurfer Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Yes, there is a bright side in all this. So, OK, here's me... 1) Got friends who are behind me all the way in this, as are my entire family, including financially. 2) I'm living back at the beach again. 3) My kids live with me more than half of each week. 4) It's taken me 2 serious beatings with a 2x4 across my nut to realise it, but I'm now fully, lucidly, 100% aware that my wife is a flake who doesn't have what it takes to be part of MY family. And because of that, I now have a brand new chance to find someone who does. And if I don't, welll... I still get to run my family my way.
PWSX3 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 First I thank Jesus for what he did for us. I thank God for all the small things he gives us every day that we take for granted. The ability to spell the flowers, to see what he has created for us, to be able to enjoy all four seasons. Thank God for my son, a job so I can put a roof over our head, & thankful even though he isn't a teenager anymore, he enjoys hanging out with his dad. Thankful for my G/F & what she brings to my life. Thankful she is open, willing to work on issues that come up instead of just hiding from them. Thankful for all my LS friends I have met over the years & all my friends I have met & supported me since my divorce. I thank my former wife for the divorce. If it wasn't for that I would have never grown as much as I have, learned as much as I have, realized how much of a rut I was really in. No I still wished it didn't happen but it did so I'm making the best of it.
10206 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 i'm going to join in this thread to cheer myself up, thanks gunny: i am thankful for (in no particular order): my two daughters. they are my everything.LS, for making me see that i am not alone in this.my sister, for taking me in and giving me love and support.my bro-in-law, for the samefor having a job i'm sure there is more, but those are the top 5 in my fore-brain right now
unsureLP Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I need some positivity right now. So here goes: Thank God for my happy, healthy, adorable, and crazy toddler. Se brings so much to my life. Thank God for second, third, fourth, etc chances. And Thank God H and I have so far been willing to give each other time to work on things. Thank God for the few family and friends who support me emotionally through all this. Thank God for having enough strength to know that I will be ok if this doesn't pan out; and for having the resources to support myself and my daughter in case her dad leaves the country. Thank God for knowing that if we can make it work, it's not out of financial necessity, but out of love and wanting to make it work. And thank you for starting a positive thread.
mammax3 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Hi everyone! it's been nearly 3 years since I was first on this board, crying and trying to figure out my life. I can say my blessings are in abundance, moreso than I would have ever thought when I was a newbie here. I have three beautiful, strong and smart children who are growing up with love and each other. I am forgiving me and my ex for our mistakes and issues, and strengthening and developing myself as a result of those. The sky is blue and the sun is warm, there is food in my fridge and clothes on my kids. I am learning how to rely on me, be a strong model for my kids and meet my own needs. Things aren't perfect, but they're my things
sumdude Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I have water, food, shelter and plenty of creature comforts which means I have it pretty darn good to begin with. I'm currently in good health other than some minor nagging joint issues. Some really good friends. If you can count on fingers of both hands the good friends you have you're rich. A steady, good paying job with great benefits I've had for 13 years. I'm in good shape financially... not rich but doing fine. I'm thankful for the parents I had. They're gone now but they were pretty awesome! I'm glad I don't have to spend any more stress and brain power trying to guess which parts of the things my ex wife said to me were true. Sure she broke my heart, yes the pain of the whole thing seemed like it lasted forever at the time. But it's all good now. Truth is? Life is pretty good at the moment! We all know how fast things can change. Only one little thing missing.. hopefully someone will come along to share it with. It's not a need.. but it sure would be the icing on my cake!
onedayatatyme Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Thank God for my two girls and their health. This is a true blessing. Thank God I'm employed and making a good living. Thank God that I have parents who are 100% supportive of everything I do and during my marriage troubles Thank God for my W's sisters and their husbands for being so supportive and expressing what they think is right vs. just siding with their blood. Thanks God for my W's sister who lives in the same town for coming to our aid and watching the girls when we need time alone to talk and figure things out Thank God for all of my friends, some of whom I've gotten much closer to in my time of need.
seibert253 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Thank God for you Gunny. You've helped more people here than you will ever know, present company included. Your posts have brought me out of the abyss more times than I care to count. Drive On Marine!
soheartbroken Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Yes, thank goodness for Gunny. I am thankful for so many things, in no particular order, and among other things: - Parents that are alive - A mom with a huge capacity to listen - Brothers that keep me distracted - Good grades - Some savings in the bank - A roof over my head, food in my stomach, and many, many things which would be considered luxuries to most - Free healthcare, public libraries, and rinks - Friends - My job - Prescription medication coverage - LS - Financial support from my parents
Author Gunny376 Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 When I was going through my troubles? I was in the Marines, overseas, far from home. Alone, and by myself. My family was back in the States, I really didn't have any friends? Once you've obtained a certain rank? Your precluded from from being "friends' with anyone below your rank, and above your rank. Its the nature of good order and discipline of the military. Its hard to be friends with people that you work with, especially when your the one that's in charge. Simply because all too often? Too many people can't leave the friendship at the backdoor when you go to work. This all went down in the late 1980's and early 90's. Back before the inter net, and such forums as LS. What computers there were ran on MS-DOS, and most didn't have a clue had to run one. Back then you didn't dare go to see someone if you were having problems. Not the Chaplains, not the Psych, counselors. Not if you valued your career? If you were having problems? You just sucked it up and dealt with it. The way I "dealt" with it? I would spend endless hours with a legal notepad writing down my blessing. Any and all that I could find or think of, always trying to come up new ones with each list. I read ~ a lot! Always leaning toward the positive. I came across such phrases as "But by the Grace of Almighty God? There go I!" I came to realize that there are so many people that are worse off that I. And that God had really laid a lot of good and blessed things at my feet. I slowly came to realize in my on good time? That "I had it worse than some, but? Better than most!" I came to realize as so many of you have and are? That truly one of God's most Greatest Gifts? Are unanswered prayers! Some of you are fresh into the fray. The wounds are still open and fresh. I? I have the benefit of being 20 years the other side of where your at? And although I wasted some of the best years of my life on someone who truly was not worthy of them? The life I'm living and about to embark upon are truly some of the best of my Life. I can look back and truly say not only was I and have I been blessed, but I've been successful in so many ways in my Life. I've accomplished a lot, seen a lot, traveled a lot. In short thus far to date? I've lived a good, fun, adventurous, exciting life. There were hard times, bad times, good times. But looking back I can see they were all designed to bring where I am in the here and now ~ the present. The XHEX? Well last I heard she's with DHX3. I don't know if they're still happily married? She gets older, uglier, more petty-minded, sicker and uglier with each passing day? But he's got her and I don't and so I guess that makes him the Winner! What I'm trying to get across? These hard times will pass! And better times will come. Just give it time, and it will work out. One last thing that is very important. In my own particular case? My single own worse enemy in all of this? Was myself! Count your blessings not your troubles. Check your perspective and attitude. Smile, laugh, be outgoing, gregarious, (a love of people in general). It really is that simple. And there's not a one here that had more trouble coming to that reality than I. I've been working on it for years upon years. "Most people are about as Happy as they make their minds up to be!" Don't compae yourself to others? All of us are worse than some? But better than most. Parts of each of us are pretty damn awesome, have a lot to contriubute, a lot to give, and a lot of love to give. The rest? Well we're working on it as we're all a work in progress. I may be just an old chunk of coal? But I'm going to be a diamond someday!
Author Gunny376 Posted March 12, 2010 Author Posted March 12, 2010 Now if we can just get UKLisa and UKSurfer to post on here?
JLoves Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Now if we can just get UKLisa and UKSurfer to post on here? *cough* Post #4 I'm going to a DivorceCare course in a couple of weeks. Happy I'm going to be in company and actually getting out. Thanks to having two lovely children who will give me all the hugs their dad needs. Friends who tell me what I need to hear not what I want to hear. Remembering tonight that I had things I wanted to do but couldn't do while stbx was in my life. I give myself permission to do these things.
PWSX3 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I'm going to a DivorceCare course in a couple of weeks. Happy I'm going to be in company and actually getting out. Enjoy your DC classes, I took it twice & each time I learned something different because of were I was in my life & situation. I also met some really good people & we are still friends & that was two years ago. Gunny; God tells us life will be hard, that it won't be easy but he will make the best of it if we ask. Something else I heard; life is like climbing a mountain. When you are at the top things seems to be going well, but we don't grow & the air is thin so we start to lose focus. Then something comes along & we drop down into the valley (pit) were all the trees, plants, & everything else is. That is were we also grow & learn so when we are in the valley we need to take full advantage of it. Might not always be what we want but it will pay off in the end.
tnttim Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I thank god for being the guiding light through the hardest time of my life. Every time I wanted to give up and leave he sent me a sign that I needed to toughen up and stay. I thank LS for aiding me in the struggle to regain my family, when I needed support, you were there, when I needed guidance, you were there, when I needed a good kick in the a** Gunny was there. I thank my family for offering the support and love I needed to stay strong. The countless times my sister listened to my rambles, and every changing plans for the future. She was the one that assured me a happy family is a family that's seen the darkest days and still manages to find itself together.
Author Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 OK! Listen up we need some of you to make some positive post here! Counting Blessing and not your troubles! We've got a quota to fill you know! I'll start it off! I'm off for the next two and two-thrid days! Thinking about going to Panama City Beach, FL (only an hour or so away) and doing some T&A Recon Patrol on the beach during Spring Break.
tnttim Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 OK! Listen up we need some of you to make some positive post here! Counting Blessing and not your troubles! We've got a quota to fill you know! I'll start it off! I'm off for the next two and two-thrid days! Thinking about going to Panama City Beach, FL (only an hour or so away) and doing some T&A Recon Patrol on the beach during Spring Break. Please forward all findings to me. It's a tough job but someone has to do it.
Author Gunny376 Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 Please forward all findings to me. It's a tough job but someone has to do it. OK I'm going out! Watch my back! I might post later on with a sit-rep (Situation Report) if I can find a WiFi connection down in Margaritaville?
just_some_guy Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 The weather is nice and I got a good night's sleep in my new place.
LisaUk Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 Now if we can just get UKLisa and UKSurfer to post on here? Sorry Gunny, although I am thankful for the basics in life and my cat I have been avoiding posting here b/c it says positive only and after what has been happeneing to me the last couple of days I would seriously bring down the tone. Have fun in Florida though!
zebracolors Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 1.I've got friends and family who are genuinely concerned for my well being. 2.My parents for bringing me into this world so I can live and experience all the wonderful things it has to offer. 3. That there is still good in humanity. 4. My talent for creativity and drawing. 5. my sense of humor. 6. LoveShack for frankly making me hold a mirror to myself and the chance to meet cool people. 7. Shelter, food, and clothing on my back.
feelingfine Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 So thankful for my 3 beautiful kids So thankful for: my therapist friends my job family (some of them) retail therapy my house my and my children's health my emotional integrity that I graduated college and can get good jobs learning....and learning more. Good positive spin for all uf us!
soheartbroken Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 Ok Gunny. Here are some positive improvements for me, though I'm changing the format somewhat from previous posts. Since this past summer: 1. I no longer need to fall asleep to the same "comfort" movie every night 2. I can tolerate small amounts of the newspaper and television news 3. I can tolerate small amounts of carefully selected television programs 4. I can tolerate and even enjoy some music in small doses 5. I can walk down the street without being in physical pain 6. I can joke with co-workers about which customers are cute 7. My job does not remind me of her (she had/has? a similar job to mine) 8. It doesn't always hurt to see other couples. In fact, I root for the success of some relationships if only to show that it is possible to mate for life Yes, these may sound like pathetic baby steps to some, but they are big improvements from my view!
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