Marks Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 (edited) So basically I've just experienced a surprising workplace situation that I don't know how to deal with further. I'm a college student and I have a campus job that let's just say involves driving people around on campus. For the past nine or so weeks I've done shift changes with one particular female driver before me. Every week the shift change went down the same way. Basically it entailed asking if everything was ok with the vehicle, and wishing each other a good day/good shift. However, this week things were a bit different. Upon my arrival she seemed to want to engage in some generic chit chat about school and whatnot, but I pretty much inadvertently cut her off and went on with the usual routine of asking about the vehicle and stuff. We then parted ways and I got in the vehicle and began to go through the driver clipboard and the papers on it. This is where the surprise came. After flipping through some of the pages, I found a note stuck to one of them which said, "I think you're cute ", signed by the very same female driver that I just changed shifts with. Naturally I was very surprised by this and didn't know how to react. I was very flattered of course, and I do have to say that I think the same about her. But I never had any prior indication that she was interested in me, and frankly, beyond the shift changes, I don't really know her. So what I now think was a very amateurish move, I decided to send her a message on facebook. I don't really have any other way to get in touch with her, and I'm not even friends with her on facebook, but I did so anyway. I basically said that I got her note and that I thought the same about her, and suggested we hang out sometime outside of work. I've yet to hear back from her. I'm not really fretting about this, it's not like I was seeking this or anything. So if it doesn't pan out, then whatevs. But it might make future work interaction awkward to say the least. That being said, I wouldn't mind hanging out with her and finding out if this could go somewhere. What am I to make of this, and what should I do? Edited March 11, 2010 by Marks
Barky Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Shuttle driver! Here's my advice: find other women to date. That way you won't be obsessing over your every move with this woman. She made a move, you made a move, and if she doesn't make another then it's over and who cares? Maybe your move was good, maybe it was bad, you'll never know. Date other women.
2sunny Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 specifically ask her out on a DATE. yes, a real date - not just "hang out" she wants more than that or she wouldn't have given you the note.
Pleco Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Sounds like you made an okay move. How else were you gonna contact her? You should definitely have asked her out on a specific date, though. That makes things more final than just asking to "hang out" generally. Because now maybe she doesn't know how to respond..should she ask you out on a specific date (which some girls are hesitant to do) or should she respond with a general "yeah, sure" and then leave it up to you, again, to really ask her out? If she responds to your message, have a date in mind when you message her back.
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