akeshabelle Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I have been with my partner for 6 years, and haven't really been single at all since I was sixteen. As much as I love him and love spending time with him, I see us going nowhere. Marriage is something I thought I wanted but I am not so sure anymore, and neither of us can make up our minds about kids. I am nowhere near ready to be a mum and he is already 46 (I am 30) so I feel a little rushed. Together we are both so lazy and unmotivated. People my age are either settling down or sometimes even partying up, I am stuck somewhere in the middle as I am doing neither. I see the years pass me by and nothing changes. We just do the same old things day by day, year by year. We have been together 6 years and built nothing. He absolutely adores me, and I do love being with him. He makes me laugh and is my best friend, he is the one person who is always there for me, but something huge is missing. I don't see myself walking down the aisle with him, or imagine our kids names. We would be lucky to have sex once a month, I am not sure I am attracted to him that way any more. Ok I know I am not. We have fought about it before but I think he has just given up. I have always blamed lack of libido when I know my libido is fine. I would never ever be with anyone else physically though. I am very anti-cheating. Despite all this he still tells me how much he loves me every single day, buys me flowers for no reason and tells me how happy he is that I am in his life. Every night I come home it is like coming home to a flatmate, best friend or brother. The thought of his reaction to my ending it devastates me, he has been so undeservingly good to me and doesn't deserve to have his heart broken, especially when he hasn't really done anything wrong, but I can't get it out of my head that every day I am with him more of my youth slips away. I don't know what to do anymore. Please help. I feel like I am, and possibly always have been, in love with how much he loves me, rather than with him himself
Barky Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Men take note. When she's "in love with how much you love her," she is really just in love with herself. This is why you can't be too nice to women. Or you'll never know if they love you, or love "how much you love them." Great lesson.
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