colosseum Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I'm about to graduate. She's about to go abroad. Alright, here's a rundown of my history with this miss: Dated for several months last year, I didn't want it to be exclusive. Made it official, I broke it off, then got back together for a good month, then broke it off again (after, let me say, she confessed her love for me). I wasn't ready for a relationship; she fell hard. That was about 5 months ago. Fast forward to two weeks ago. We just started catching up and things went down. Since then we've been hanging out, and for some odd reason I'm having really strong feelings for her. I used to have this fear of calling her my girlfriend, but now I feel I really want to. I told her this. She has been over me since the last break (something to which her friend can stand witness), and while she likes me is feeling reluctant about this. She said she wants this to work, but is being hesitant because she's become very independent and used to being single. I asked her to think on it, but she knows I'm willing to lock it up. Ironic, because these were exactly the dynamics which undergirded the former my breaking up with her. I think this is all to say she wants options and to have fun before she goes abroad. I see myself getting jealous when she wants to flirt and hang out with other guys. What's going on, and what do I do? Walk away from this or try to stick it out, because I could see myself falling for her. Thanks LSers; because I trust you all.
kimbop Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Let her go. You broke up with her twice. You will do it again. She deserves to enjoy her singledom.
mella Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I agree. Sounds like you may be coming from a place of control. You didn't want her when she was into you, now that she is over it, you want the power back. I'd say maybe you should stay single for a bit and figure out what's going on with you.
lino Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 You broke up with her twice for no apparent reason as far as I can see. I think she's just looking out for herself and I think she's right in doing that.
boogieboy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Once she gave up on yo and lost her attraction to you, you lost her, and you cant get her back. Best bet is to walk away. Maybe she will come to you in a few months, but dont try to get her back, it will push her further away.
Author colosseum Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Man, the truth hurts..."but its what frees us." That's what people say anyway...*sigh* As the situation stands now, the ball is in her court because I told her I like her a lot and told her to think on it since she couldn't come up with an answer the night I confessed. She said she wants this to work, but is being careful. As of now we're going out for a day trip next week. Since the ball is in her court, would it be presumptuous if I went up to her and said in essence, "Hey remember what I said about me wanting you? Well, I do, but we shouldn't" (she did say she liked me so in some ways this will be a weird rejection...again)? I'm thinking maybe if I were to do this that I give her a chance to respond if she wants to, but acknowledge to myself that this is really a dead prospect. Thanks for the help y'all. S*** bites.
boogieboy Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Man, the truth hurts..."but its what frees us." That's what people say anyway...*sigh* As the situation stands now, the ball is in her court because I told her I like her a lot and told her to think on it since she couldn't come up with an answer the night I confessed. She said she wants this to work, but is being careful. As of now we're going out for a day trip next week. Since the ball is in her court, would it be presumptuous if I went up to her and said in essence, "Hey remember what I said about me wanting you? Well, I do, but we shouldn't" (she did say she liked me so in some ways this will be a weird rejection...again)? I'm thinking maybe if I were to do this that I give her a chance to respond if she wants to, but acknowledge to myself that this is really a dead prospect. Thanks for the help y'all. S*** bites. No. Dont do anything. The more you say the more you will screw it up. Just lay back and let her do all the thinking. You said your peice already. Its all up to her. Make sure you dont see her anywhere, and dont contact her at all.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 When you had her, you didn't appreciate her. Now that she's about to be gone, you want her. Sorry, man. She's already gone.
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