trulyme Posted January 10, 2004 Posted January 10, 2004 I just have a few questions. I am in the perdicament that I am in right now because I never gave my relationship the attention that it deserves in the first place. I remained distant throughout our 7 months and in the end I pulled away and broke up with her. IMMEDIATLEY realizing that I made a mistake called her a few days later and we hung out for a week but she was just hurt and said she needed space. Understandable! I have been telling everyone on this site, to leave there ex alone as I have done as well. Part of me says, you and this girl are broke up because you gave very little in the first place. Now that I am broken up and want her back, I still am giving nothing to her by doing the no contact. I know she needs time to heel and maybe I repeat MAYBE trust me again. That seems to be the only positive that I can see. Which is essential for us if we were to ever happen again. I wonder if she is sitting there thinking, "this guy never gave to me when we were together, and now that we are broken up he is still distant". Officially I have not talked to her for 2 weeks. I was going to give it a couple months. But does anyone see what I am saying. I am worried that in my case, it may have the affect of (this guy still shows me he doesnt care). Im not going to call, I just wanted to discuss that point. Positive effects of the no contact rule in my scenario, anyone..anyone........bueller??? Truly
RobertoPNW Posted January 10, 2004 Posted January 10, 2004 Originally posted by trulyme IMMEDIATLEY realizing that I made a mistake called her a few days later and we hung out for a week but she was just hurt and said she needed space. She is the one needing space now. Let her have it, don't smother her. Does she at least know that you realize your mistake? If so, leave it be and let her sort it out.
The Burning Man Posted January 10, 2004 Posted January 10, 2004 As you have rightly decided, do not call her. Give her the space she needs. The onus is entirely on her to take the next step. If she doesn't call you, it's justice (which jives with your feeling that you didn't give the relationship a 100%). If she does call you, you should tell her that you realize your mistake. Of course, you would be smart enough to know what to do different in your second chance.
werty Posted January 11, 2004 Posted January 11, 2004 u already lost this one,i think... give her the space she nids.. if she still wants u, shell come.. if not, den its ur fault anyway.. sorry for my words....
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