Harlanwiiwiiman Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I worked with this woman for over three months and we became good work buddies. We were always happy when we got the chance to work together. I would always make an effort to go and say hello to her when we worked in different departments. She started to date her current boyfriend before we met. She started to say I love you and I would never say it back (I felt awkward). She seemed a little offended I wouldn’t say it back and ignored me for awhile. Eventually, she stopped saying I love you and we were still friends. The "I love you's" may have been in a casual or friendly way but I am not sure. I stopped working at that place (I quit spur of the moment) and ran into her a few weeks later. She was excited to see me and we chatted for awhile. I ran into her a second time and she got even more excited to see me. She kept repeating (at least 6 times I counted) how much she missed me and missed working with me. We chatted again and she seemed sad when we parted ways. She gave me a tight hug and said I HOPE to see you again soon. Her having a boyfriend is throwing me off. I don't know if I am reading into her actions too much. I do like her, even as just friends, but do not want to overstep my boundaries. Should I pursue her as friends so we can see each other more than those random encounters? I need advice before I see her again! Thank you!
mella Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I think it sounds as though you are reading into her actions a bit too much. She likes you, a lot, but as a friend. She hasn't done anything that crosses the line between friends and more than friends, in my estimation. I think her saying "I love you" was just in a friendly , joking, we are really good friends sort of way. At least, assume she is just a happy and friendly person until she REALLY shows you otherwise. You are just randomly running into her, she isn't trying to make dates with you or anything. You were her work buddy BFF, that's all.
Author Harlanwiiwiiman Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 (edited) Hey Mella, Thank you for the honest answer. I'll be honest and say that I am socially retarded when it comes to woman and these situations. Should I try to continue the friendship or just say eff it and let it go? Edited March 11, 2010 by Harlanwiiwiiman
mella Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I think when you run into her, just be nice and leave it at that. You don't talk on the phone or communicate in other ways, correct?
Author Harlanwiiwiiman Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Nah, we haven't done anything like that outside of work since we've known each other.
mella Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 So, I think, since she has a boyfriend, you'd do well to just keep your interaction to friendly random run-ins. Harmless.
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