thegoods82 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 ok, so i am in desperate need of advice. ill start out with the basics and finish with details incase youre ambitious. so me and my ex have been broken up for 2 1/2 weeks, kind of. we've still been hanging out a little but she's seeing this other guy and says she cant decide, she loves me and says she would be happier with me, but he can provide the future she wants. is he just a rebound???? will she choose me over him??? thats the nuts and bolts, heres the rest. we were on a break that i started when she came to gef her stuff i was in a very depressed mood, and we didnt talk a lot, she said she still wanted to be with me, but i didnt say much, even though i felt the same. anyway, for that next week i thought we were gonna try again, but she thought i didnt want to. i wanted to take my time telling her how i felt. unknown to me, she met another guy, and she finally told me once i told her how i felt. she says she loves me. she moved to be closer to me, but i didnt know it at the time. everything she says indicates she would rather be with me, but everything she does indicates she wants this guy. she said shell take a week off from both of us to clear her head. she dated this guy 7 years ago, but she said she' never liked anyone as much as she likes me. is this guy just a rebound??? will she come to her senses after the week???? im in desperate need, i think she might be the one
name witheld Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Ok mate, hows it going. I started off reading this thinking it was a chick asking about a new man in her life. Spose there is a reason for thinking that. Anyways, we'll get back to it... I didn't read all of your post, I only got as far as: "thats the nuts and bolts" Because i just didn't need to read anymore. Dude, she has dumped you. That must make you wonder if there is another guy on the scene at the best of times but she has admitted somebody else is lets just say in the frame. She has dumped you for this guy, for whatever reason (doesn't matter now) so the best thing you can do is walk away. Save your pride and go find a bettter woman.
carhill Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 How long were you together? she said she' never liked anyone as much as she likes me Hmmm...like, huh...? How old are you and she?
name witheld Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 One thing you must remember, don't pay attention to what they say, [ay attention to what they do! Massive difference and it reveals the truth every time. btw thanks, I came on here tonight planning on posting about my ex, but replying to you has given me the srtength to deal with it. Forgotten about it now. MOVE ON.
Author thegoods82 Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 well im27 and she's 23. we were both in 5 year relationship and left to them to be together (she was in a very bad situation). we were together 4 months and after 3 she was going to move from the country to the city to be closer to me(we lived an hour apart). the week she moved is the week i thought we were trying and she thought we weren't, so she was totally freaked out about a new environment and not knowing anyone. and this new guy is back in her home town .now she knows exactly how i feel, and says she never loved her boyfriend of 5 years as much as me. i think if she takes the week to think she'll come back to me. i've been to war twice, and i've never been this scared in my life
carhill Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 The fear and hurt are within you. Think about that. The connection you may feel to this person resides within you. What would happen to your life if she never existed? It's often difficult for a man when he doesn't often open himself to connections, as they can be fleeting and painful, as well as joyus, but, with more experience, you'll gain a different perspective. For now, accept what is happening and do what is healthy for *you*. Thank you for your service. It is appreciated and valued
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