paperchase Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Ok quick background. Dated for a year, got dumped about a year ago. Went NC and moved on. She came back in 3 months. Went to counseling discussed issues, fell back "in love" but didn't really resolve things. A year later (today) she's dumping me again...kinda of. She's pulling away, has said things about dating other people, being single, growing apart, etc. I took it like a man and told her it wasn't what I wanted but ok. She sort of changed her tune and we are "technically" together but things have clearly changed. We now see each other about 3 out of 7 days when we practically lived together. We still have sex and hang out but things are tenuous at best. So, the question is what to do? I have not pressured her and have allowed her to have her space. I haven't tried to have any heavy conversations. We had one mini argument the other day when I picked her up to spend the night. She said take me home; I was like "ok"; then she said she didn't want to argue. I said me neither and so we spent the night. I want to offer a counseling session with the therapist we saw a year ago. Is this a good idea? I don't want to pressure her and I'd hate for her to say no. My posture is that I want us to work but if not then so be it. I'm not going to grovel and cry like I did the last time. I have a feeling this is just one of those relationships that has run its course where both people love the other but know in their heart that it's not viable long term. The more things change the more they stay the same. One of my fears is that we see the therapist and that is the straw the leads her to say it's truly over. That might not be a bad thing though. Some veteran advice is needed.
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