Getting cheated on prepares you for what the world is really like

[Bleed Internal]

Cheating is extremely common and lets you know that many, many people are lying, manipulative, slutty, generally terrible people. Like, you no longer live in this ignorance of thinking that a person saying they "love you" means anything, or that someone you love can't hurt you. Look at all the people in pain on relationship forums online. Or all the people you know who've cheated or been cheated on. All the married couples in counseling. It's always a different variation of the same story. Infidelity is everywhere in the media too. Every rapper talks about how cool it is to have sex with another man's girl.

 

I'm only in college but now that I've had experience with love and relationships, I really understand my parent's marriage much better. They've known each other for 30 years, been married almost 25. They have the most loyal, loving marriage, and even with the occasional arguments any couple has, I know they've never done anything so messed up like cheating on one another.

 

I don't know if marriages like that are possible anymore in this time. I just expect to be effed over by some bitch later on in life. It already happened once with my ex. I'm gonna (try to) have fun in the meantime, and maybe some amazing girl will pleasantly surprise me one day, but I'm pretty jaded for now.

[squirtle]

well said my mom tells me almost the same thing all the time. (my dad cheated on her and they are now divorced) she sayd that in the world we live in today it is so SO hard to find someone honest and loyal. i was raised mostly by my mom and ive picked up her standards in that regard. but its really hard sometimes when u get effed over not to lower yourself to that standard of being a liar and a cheat but thats not me. i messed up once i had taken a "break" from an ex and ended up going or drinks and sleeping with another guy (i was only 18) i felt HORRIBLE! the guilt alone forced me to leave my bf and i just dont understand these people that cheat on their bf/gf and act like nothing is wrong. it is truly sad that there are sooo many people in this world with no consciense and they well never learn a lesson or experience true love. it just sucks always being the one that gets hurt

[Dexter Morgan]

Cheating is extremely common and lets you know that many, many people are lying, manipulative, slutty, generally terrible people. Like, you no longer live in this ignorance of thinking that a person saying they "love you" means anything, or that someone you love can't hurt you. Look at all the people in pain on relationship forums online. Or all the people you know who've cheated or been cheated on. All the married couples in counseling. It's always a different variation of the same story. Infidelity is everywhere in the media too. Every rapper talks about how cool it is to have sex with another man's girl.

 

I'm only in college but now that I've had experience with love and relationships, I really understand my parent's marriage much better. They've known each other for 30 years, been married almost 25. They have the most loyal, loving marriage, and even with the occasional arguments any couple has, I know they've never done anything so messed up like cheating on one another.

 

I don't know if marriages like that are possible anymore in this time. I just expect to be effed over by some bitch later on in life. It already happened once with my ex. I'm gonna (try to) have fun in the meantime, and maybe some amazing girl will pleasantly surprise me one day, but I'm pretty jaded for now.

 

words so true.....I'll drink to that!!!!!

[ADF]

The world does indeed have some pretty rotten people in it. However, the answer isn't to get jaded. The answer is to value the decent people in your life even more. Once you understand that ordinary human decency is NOT a common trait, you appreciate the people who have it much more.

[Green]

I would never want to cheat on some one, but I'm not so naive to think a person could never cheat on me. In fact I myself realize not to put myself in situation that would lead to cheating.

 

There are worse things then cheating though.

[Barky]

Cheating is extremely common and lets you know that many, many people are lying, manipulative, slutty, generally terrible people.

 

Right because anyone who has sex outside the confines of a monogamous relationship is a "terrible" person..

 

Or.. anyone who lies to someone about it is a "terrible" person.

 

Interesting what society has conditioned us to think, eh?

[abouttoloseit]

Right because anyone who has sex outside the confines of a monogamous relationship is a "terrible" person..

 

Or.. anyone who lies to someone about it is a "terrible" person.

 

Interesting what society has conditioned us to think, eh?

 

Well, maybe not terrible, but wouldn't be worth my time. Sometimes, you need trust, and when people lie to you...you cannot trust them. It's just nasty after that. In simple terms.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I 100% agree with this thread.

 

I have absolutely no trust in any male other than family members and friends. I don't think I could EVER trust in a relationship no matter how in love I was. I am naturally suspicious and cynical and rather than being a 'flaw' I think this is the way people SHOULD be. I think people know that THEY are not always perfectly behaved, so how can they expect others to be. I'm actually coming to accept that I may end up alone because I don't believe the man or relationship I would like exists and I would be happier acceping being alone and enjoying life than hankering for something I wont find and ending up crushed.

 

Welcome to jade city! haha

[paleblue]

Bleed internal you are right. there are very few relationships that seem to last anymore. most relationships seems to have a shelf life of 3-5 years, give or take, then it ends, and then you are on to the next. its like an endless series of relationships throughout our lives. its what i have come to realize. it is what i have come to expect. the illusion of happily ever after was shattered a long time ago.