Playing hard to get or what?

[doomage]

whats up everyone, i have a new situation on my hands and it goes like this..

 

well im in college im 21 and when the semester first started i went dressed

pretty good the first day i had a new hair style and i was just feeling good and

confident to talk to some girls so i was sitting down waiting for my last class

and this girl came out of no where and was staring me down so i said "hey whats

ur name?" and she said "roxxy" and i told her to come talk to me but she said

she had to get to class, so from then on i would see her everytime i was waiting

for my last class because she has the same class as me except hers is before

mine. then everytime i would see her i asked for her number and she would always

brush it off but then one day she said "do you have myspace?, here get my

myspace" so i did and i added her and we exchanged messages for like a week but

then one day she stopped responding but i would still see her at school and i

brought it up one day and she said she would respond back and then did one day

but after that no more but we'd still talk mostly just hi and bye stuff and a

few words exchanged,

 

but the first time we conversed on myspace i asked her to tell me something

about her and she said she was lesbian and she didn't like boys, but now i

discovered that was bull**** cuz she told me she just became a lesbian last

year, how do you become one? lol. and she said she had a boyfriend before

sometime last year so im thinking she was probably hurt by this guy and

therefore looked for love with females now.

and she siad she was seeing this girl from her soccer team and she called her

her girlfriend but their not officially together.

 

so last week we were talking and i said when were we gonna kick it and get to

kno eachother and she said sometime in springbreak which is next week but what

gets me is she still hasn't given me her number.

 

she siad her first impression of me was that i was a big flirt so she thats why

she wouldnt talk to me besides saying hi an stuf at first, and that i probably

just wanted to mess around but then she said. Well now were talking, in that

way.. so i was like cool im in. i sent her a message over the weekend on myspace

and she just read it but didn't respond so today i see her and shes all cold she

just walks by me and doesn't conversate wit me but acts like shes in a hurry

and then later on i went up to her and asked why she was being all wierd, in a

non threatening way and she said she wasnt being wierd and then she had to go

back to class and i tried to get her number again so i can set that spring break

thing up and she told me "why do all guys do this?" meaning i guess were to

pushy and im like well that's the best way to get in contact with people, is the

phone so thats all. and she said she didnt reply to my message but that she

would let me know when we were hanging out but it's frustrating cuz she's being

all rebelious instead of letting me take the lead. so then i said "i think your

afraid" and she said "afraid of what" and i said "afraid to get to know me" and

she said "no" but then i said " well i wanna to get to know you alittle better

and im sure you wanna get to know me better" and she said "ya probably but....."

i cant remember the rest but it's more towards like for me to cool down and give

her her space. so thats what i did, the last time i saw her was today she just

said hi to me and i said bye.

 

so now is there antying i can do? i mean im sure she is interested but shes

playing hard to get, being hard to nail down for a date to hang and get to know

eachother outside of school.

 

ps. when she admitted she read my message but did not reply a week later i had seen her online and imed her but as soon as i did she signed off, and she said that bugged her, but i dont feel that's anything that should bug anyone. mayb it's just her she even said she's wierd lol

and well right now i was on myspace and i noticed she was online so i said hi and again she signed off so wtf!!! ima just do my own thing when i go to school i know i can run into her if i want but ima try not to gotta look like i got more important things to do which i do. but what do you guys think?

[marsle85]

I'm sorry to say- but she doesn't want anything to do with you. :-(

[boogieboy]

Nope, she isnt into you, but she likes toying with you.

[Green]

I would say continue to flirt with her, but don't expect it to go anywhere. Seriously you should be flirting with more then just one girl. Also, why are you so focused on getting her phone number. You would have been better off to just invite her to something cool (party, concert, spaceship launch ect.) and then if she said yes she probably would have just given you her number. Instead of always being like "give me your number" you could have been like "lets go get coffee, or tea or whatever" then you talk and flirt with her. Why would you confront her about not msging you back on myspace? I mean it might have been cool if you had flirtatiously teased her. Also, telling her she is afraid... kind of silly. You just need to have more fun when you flirt with a girl, and instead of just asking for a number so that you can anoy her more... ask her out to a defined thing... like "come to the party tonight, I can pick you up at 10"... Be the man, take control.

 

Bottom line don't rely on this one girl. You should be flirting with many different girls. You know keep it light, and fun. You yourself need to be enjoying the interaction. Tease the girls in a way that the girl herself will enjoy, like if they have a silly laugh "your laugh is so cute never heard one like it" not "you didn't msg me back on myspace I know you read it" kind of creepy.

 

Look dude its great that you are so confident, and I still think things might work out for you with this girl. But the key is chasing more then one girl. When you take a girl out on a date and you kiss her... then yes forget about the other girls, but until you actualy go on a date and KISS you need to not get so focused on one girl.

 

Stop asking for the number, and just ask her out already. In person would have been best but if you won't see her for like a week just ask her out online.

[Awesome Username]

If a girl tells you that she's a lesbian, that means that she's not interested in anything sexual with you, even if she isn't a lesbian.

[doomage]

well Green thanks for your advice and everyone. I didn't confront her about not messaging me i just threw it in there while we were talking to eachother in person in a non threatening way, but your right that im too focused on teh damn number, but i just don't trust girls to get back to me on things but she said to trust her so lets see what happens, but i just dont like this waiting game, im no nonsense type of person when it comes to girls, but they got all these headgames, and actually she does see me talking to other girls, and i kinda feel lke she gets jealous or something and i kinda think to myself lik "damn i hope i don't ruin my chance" but hello were not dating yet or even going out so i have the freedom to talk to other girls especially if she's playing this game with me. I don't really know her but i do feel like she's interested in me but if i keep acting like a puppy dog with her that interest will fade and ill be just another friend. shes just tryna makeme go through all these hoops to see wha kind of dude i am, but should i talk to her on thursday normally, or just say hi ormayb nothing at all and keep walking.

 

I mean she said she would let me know about hanging on spring break so if she doesn't do that then i'm pretty much done cuz she already knows the deal but you gotta read people by thier actions and not their words sometimes.

[Awesome Username]

well Green thanks for your advice and everyone. I didn't confront her about not messaging me i just threw it in there while we were talking to eachother in person in a non threatening way, but your right that im too focused on teh damn number, but i just don't trust girls to get back to me on things but she said to trust her so lets see what happens, but i just dont like this waiting game, im no nonsense type of person when it comes to girls, but they got all these headgames, and actually she does see me talking to other girls, and i kinda feel lke she gets jealous or something and i kinda think to myself lik "damn i hope i don't ruin my chance" but hello were not dating yet or even going out so i have the freedom to talk to other girls especially if she's playing this game with me. I don't really know her but i do feel like she's interested in me but if i keep acting like a puppy dog with her that interest will fade and ill be just another friend. shes just tryna makeme go through all these hoops to see wha kind of dude i am, but should i talk to her on thursday normally, or just say hi ormayb nothing at all and keep walking.

 

I mean she said she would let me know about hanging on spring break so if she doesn't do that then i'm pretty much done cuz she already knows the deal but you gotta read people by thier actions and not their words sometimes.

 

I would forget about this girl. Find some other lady to bring to spring break; one that appreciates your attention.

[Green]

You care to much. I'm going to guess that you have never been in a seriouse relationship? you know one that lasted a year or more, or if not more then a year you were in true love?

 

You don't really know this girl at all. She really does not know you. So, if she rejects you realize its more of a "I'm not going to take the time to get to know you" then an actual rejection, because how can she reject you when you never really got to present yourself. On the other hand when you are married or in true love and you presented yourself and some one rejects you... thats real rejection.

 

What I'm trying to point out to you is, don't anaylyze the situation to deep. Just have fun with it, enjoy the fact that she is playing hard to get. Enjoy making girls jealouse by flirting with them all. Flirt with girls you don't even want to date just for the fun of it. What I'm saying is have fun. Girls like having fun, and if you are having fun with them, there is a good chance they are having fun with you.

 

Who cares if she gets jelouse when you flirt with other girls. Tell her "I think your getting jelouse when I talk to Jessica, why don't we just go to the concert togather so you can keep an eye on me." Stop just blindly going after the number, you put more pressure on a girl if you ask her out in person rather then online, or through a txt or phone call. Ask, a girl out in person, she will feel pressure to say yes, you'll be more likely to say yes, and then she will feel guilty to back out of it. Then if she goes on the date with you, has a good time, and when you kiss you both feel it... well then your well on your way to a gf and a lot of good times.

 

remember don't focus on this one girl who may or may not like you. From your description of the situation I say it can go either way with this girl.

[doomage]

ya i do care too much, i gotta stop that, but i have asked her out and it didn't go as planned. I first asked her out last week after we have known eachother for like a month or known about eachother and she said "we'll see" and didn't give me an answer, then three days after that i said "hey lets hang out after school, and she said "no cuz i'm gonna hang out with my girlfriend" the girl that she "likes" or "liked" she doesnt refer to her as a gilrfriend anymore just a friend now, so how can i avoid or turn it around when a girl says "we'll see" i know she's playing hard to get cuz last week was teh first time i got a hug from her with me initiating it of course, and after that she said with a smile "im not gonna hug you anymore" adn i said "why" and seh said "wht's the point?" and i said "oh your playing hard to get huh? and walked away." so what the hell was that about. why would she say that after one hug.

[doomage]

so the day before yesterday i went on myspace and i saw her online but i didnt message her or anything but after an hour she signed on to the myspace im so i thought she wanted to talk to me or for me to hit her up first so i did and she logged off, and she admitted that she did that to me before, but i was confused by that.

 

so then at school today i saw her looking at some paintings and i went behind her and joked around and she was all serious and the convesation didnt flow like before, so i felt i was pushing it but i was still talking regardless. then she was like "ok ill see you later" and i said "well were going the same way so lets go" and she said "idk where your going" and we were talking and she said "well ill see you later" and i said "ok coo" and she smiled adn went inside her class room then after my class was over i sat down on a table and i saw some commotion going on in teh hallway and i look and i couldnt tell if it was her or not but i was looking and she was looking at me from farway so i looked away cuz i dont want her to think im a stalker. so then i wwent to hang out with another girl. and at the end of the day iim waiting for my last class which she has that same class before me and she walks out and i get her attention by saying "well ill see you later" and she said "what" and turned around awkwardly" and i said "ill see you later" and she didnt even try to talk to me at all and spring break went into effect today so im not gonna see her next week unless she messages me or some**** so we can kick it. so what do you guys think? whats her deal she seemd interested in me and now shes acting wierd

[Green]

I think the first day of spring break is the best because it's all still ahead of you. Go have a good time with your friends, be silly, laugh and enjoy life. Don't even worry about this girl. The truth of the matter is who knows whats going to happen, don't worry about it. Don't be so afraid to enjoy life. The more you lear to approach women with no motives, just fun, not caring what the results are, the better life will be for you.

[boogieboy]

Are you being intentionally dense? Shes not teasing you or playing hard to get...SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU. She isnt giving you any clues that she likes you, and you are looking like a stalker to her now. Leave her alone. You ruined it with her, and you wont be able to make it work now, youve weirded her out.

[Green]

Are you being intentionally dense? Shes not teasing you or playing hard to get...SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU. She isnt giving you any clues that she likes you, and you are looking like a stalker to her now. Leave her alone. You ruined it with her, and you wont be able to make it work now, youve weirded her out.

 

Are you this hard on yourself boogieboy? He hasn't ruined anything, not by a long shot.

[doomage]

thanks green and no im not a stalker boogieboy it's just she acts as if shes intersted to reel me in and me thinkin it's going good i try to talk to her when i can to get to know her more and she's being all weird im quick to put the blame on myself but maybe its just her she even said she's weird about guys bugging her,i thought that's how it was when you are intersted in somone that you talk to them and get to know them but she's making it hard for me. and i never been in a serious relationship so i get my hopes up alot and alwasy get let down by this type of thing. so if she doesn't contact me through myspace after she's read most of my messges but not replied to them then im done with her ya ill say hi but i won't take her seriously like i did.

[Green]

don't take her seroiusly, you should yell out "I want to kiss you!" I didn't have my first seriouse relationship with a girl until after college. Don't worry about looking like a stalker or what ever. Seriously, girls do this thing a lot.

 

From a girls perspective its worse, a guy will act like he is all into them and then disapear. So, it happens to both men and women.

 

You can do it doomage, you will have a good spring break.

[doomage]

i just wish girls wouldn't play around like this they play alot of games, but im straight to the point cut and dry, i can do without the games. So if she doesn't contact me during springbreak to get together then forget her?

[Barky]

Y'all are posting in a troll thread. There's no way a person, even a young guy, could be this dense.