bananaboat11 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 DON'T. It's a BAD ****ing idea. i'm speaking through experience... I almost crashed HARD today and I wasn't even wondering where she was... it kind of crawled up my ass and ****ed me hard. damn me for ever getting a 'friend' of mine to room with my now ex girlfriend.. or exrebound... or I was her rebound.. i dunno. but since then.. they've become friends and recently this 'friend' from my life is trying to reach out to me... WTF? I know... i'm thinking too much into it... regardless... it's BAD. BAD. BAD. No contact. Move on with your life. Enjoy the NEW people in your life. Enjoy the new lovers you will make. Be happy.
EricaH329 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Ok Rob, you've made me do research I have this book, it's called, "How to Survive the Loss of a Love". I was browsing through it, trying to find something that might be able to relate to your situation. I found a couple of poems i'd like to share with you. A new morningof anew lifewithout you. So? There will be others.much finer,much mine-er. And until then,there is me. And because I treatedyouwell,I like me better. Also, the sun rises. This made me think of you because from what I know, you treated her as great as you possibly could. As anyone possibly could. And because of that, you should feel proud. You should be happy with yourself. Not only that, but because you were a rebound, she was never really yours to begin with. Sure, it might have felt like it on your end... but on hers, she always knew what she was doing to you. Just like the poem states, there will be others that will be so much more yours than she was. But not until you get over her. Here's another one that made me think of you. Love,no matter whatyou feel it for,is still love. The object does not change the emotion. But the emotionquite oftenchanges the object. You have put her on some sort of mental pedestal. Where she does not belong. She has done nothing to you but put you down and make you feel as though nothing you were doing was right. Love can do that to a person, change their view on how someone really might be. But until you fully understand and accept that, she'll be a constant thought in your mind. It's time to let go, Rob.
skydiveaddict Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 btw Erica, someone that would let you go has got to be out of his ****ing mind
EricaH329 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 btw Erica, someone that would let you go has got to be out of his ****ing mind Awww, thank you skydive!! I try to think the same way
skydiveaddict Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Awww, thank you skydive!! I try to think the same way It's just the truth
WiseOne1 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 It's so hard to stick with NC....Me and my EX were bestfriends for 5 years before we began dating, I mean we talked on the phone for atlest 15 hours out of the day...(yes really that much) We broke up 2 years ago, but stayed in contact for 1 year after the breakup, she wouldn't allow em to go NC!! She would call and cry and state that it wasn't fair, she had a BF during the time "that she was supposedly unhappy with" I went NC 4 months ago and shes tried to contact me twice, I didnt answer though.. But now...I miss her so much, I use to go days without thinking about her, now I wanna call her, or check her myspace page, but Im to scared that my feelings may not be all gone...I might end up hurt if I call and she doesn't want to talk to me, or if I see something on her myspace page that I dont like. I guess i'll just be wondering from now on, because I don't have the heart to attempt to contact her.
sedgwick Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I mean we talked on the phone for atlest 15 hours out of the day Really?! That's pretty much the entire time you're awake! Neither of you had jobs or anything else to do?!
WiseOne1 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Really?! That's pretty much the entire time you're awake! Neither of you had jobs or anything else to do?! We both had fulltime jobs, my job was very cool, so you were allowed to talk on the phone while at work, we talked during breaks, during lunch breaks.. So yea, we always found time to talk to eachother....even if we were out with friends hanging out.
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 I'm pathetic. wahoo i mean, i'm like, awesome. duh
LovelyDaze Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Hey banana- Yep, it's never a good idea to check up on your ex if you still have deep feelings for them. The only thing the dumpee wants to know is if the dumper is ready to get off whatever s***pot they are on and come back to them. I've been out there dating recently running into some decent guys and a couple of real bad apples, but I am really in a good place now! I am starting to feel indifferent about my ex and whatever he does in his life is no longer my concern. Indifference is freeing. It is very empowering and it slays that dragon that told me that I would never get over him. Keeping up with the ex is like picking at a nasty sore..it'll never heal unless you leave it alone and let it heal nicely.
DenverBachelor Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 II mean we talked on the phone for atlest 15 hours out of the day...(yes really that much). That's weird considering women usually only have about 15-30 seconds of something worthwhile to say! The rest is "blah blah blah ... work ... blah blah blah ... my boss ... blah blah blah ... hate my job ... blah blah blah ... get me some wine." Well my Ex.
skydiveaddict Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I'm pathetic. wahoo i mean, i'm like, awesome. duh lol shut up
GrayClouds Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I have this book, it's called, "How to Survive the Loss of a Love". I found a couple of poems i'd like to share with you. much finer,much mine-er. That is beautiful :: trying to keep a straight face :: Maybe I just was never cultured enough to truly appreciate finer-er poetry:D
EricaH329 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 That is beautiful :: trying to keep a straight face :: Maybe I just was never cultured enough to truly appreciate finer-er poetry:D It is a book written by psychologists meant to be insightful and help put things into perspective. It's not meant to be beautiful.
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 It is a book written by psychologists meant to be insightful and help put things into perspective. It's not meant to be beautiful. It's fantasy.. masquerading the surrealism we all long for.. alluding to the grande delusion we make our own happiness. yes, the finer points in life are our own perceptions and how we interact with every situation we find ourselves in.
EricaH329 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 It's fantasy.. masquerading the surrealism we all long for.. alluding to the grande delusion we make our own happiness. yes, the finer points in life are our own perceptions and how we interact with every situation we find ourselves in. I'm a little confused. What you just said sounds contradictory to me. Are you saying that the fact that we make our own happiness is an illusion? But at the same time, our own perceptions are what make us happy? I'm confused?
Author bananaboat11 Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 I'm a little confused. What you just said sounds contradictory to me. Are you saying that the fact that we make our own happiness is an illusion? But at the same time, our own perceptions are what make us happy? I'm confused? Precisely. We all are. I <3 you.
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