Vertex Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 If a fellow female friend asks you about your opinion on guys/relationships/etc and if "a guy and a girl can really be friends," does this mean anything? I feel like, "well, we're friends, aren't we?" but she was asking about some guy at her work. I don't understand girls sometimes. XD
crosswordfiend Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 It means you're already in the friend zone.
MrNate Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 It means you're already in the friend zone. I agree with this.
SadandConfusedWA Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I would sometimes do that to gauge guy's interest in me. If he just happily gives advice and doesn't seem bothered by it at all then I would assume that he isn't interested in me.
Author Vertex Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 The friend zone sucks. I wish I were less shy! It's a killer.
BobSacamento Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 That's why I don't say anything at work. There is just way too much time for chit chat at work. I find it's better to be mysterious, it makes you more datable. I leave the chatting for Happy Hour.
Green Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 The friend zone sucks. I wish I were less shy! It's a killer. stop wishing, and just do all the things you want to do but are to afraid.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 You know, I ask my best friends these questions when we talk. If a girl asks you this question it shows she trusts you enough as a " friend" to confide in you.
carhill Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 'I can't be alone' 'I like sex. I need sex' 'I'm glad you're here tonight' 'No one knows. I had an affair' 'Wanna get high?' Just another typical recent night at the carhill medical/psychological facility. BTW, this one (female) is married over 20 years. I recommended marital counseling. I did not get high. A very bad choice probably would have resulted. Boundaries OP, that's receptacle talk. You're a receptacle. Girlfriend with penis syndrome. In the above example, I was a willing receptacle. I love her like a daughter.
Author Vertex Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 I don't wanna be a damn girlfriend with a penis lmfao. I was pretty avoidant to her questions, really.
MrNate Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I don't wanna be a damn girlfriend with a penis lmfao. I was pretty avoidant to her questions, really. lol that's how it is. you should tell her, 'loook, don't come to me about your boyfriend troubles, because i honestly don't care. talk to one of your girlfriends.'
lofi_tokyo Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 lol that's how it is. you should tell her, 'loook, don't come to me about your boyfriend troubles, because i honestly don't care. talk to one of your girlfriends.' Yup. That's what you've gotta say - and you may have to repeat yourself. My FAVOURITE person to talk to about my "guy problems" is in fact, a guy. I like having a male's perspective on things. The problem is, I know it drives him nuts. He's gotta remind me to shaddup sometimes. ;p
carhill Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 IMO, it's not a problem if you're friends and you're there to hear his 'guy problems' and show care and concern; that's what friends do. Tampon duty is one-sided. Watch out when you call a woman on it. Whoa, you'd think you pissed in her milk
Author Vertex Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 I said "I am the worst person to ask these kinds of questions to -- my views are pretty atypical. You're better off asking other women, probably" XD
monkey00 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I would sometimes do that to gauge guy's interest in me. If he just happily gives advice and doesn't seem bothered by it at all then I would assume that he isn't interested in me. And what if he is bothered?
SadandConfusedWA Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 And what if he is bothered? Then I would flirt him and hope he picks up on it and asks me out. Note: the really tricky thing here is that I would ask for relationship/dating advice from men I am not interested in as well. In those cases, I am not looking for reaction and am genuinly asking for advice and only seeing them as a friend. I am just saying that one should not necessearily think that asking for realtionship advice is the kiss of death. If a guy is shy and you don't really want to be the chaser, you have to use subtle means to see if he is interested.
Author Vertex Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Just to test the waters, I got her number (saying that I hadn't had it yet, which was true) -- later sent her a random text. Got a reply, sent another reply, that was that.
Pizzaman81 Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 I have promised myself never to be friends with women. Once I detect signs, I drop them like hot pancakes.
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