capulsky Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 my ex and I broke up about 8 months ago, since then she has been with another guy for around 6 months (an old friend of hers frome highschool). anyway recently about 3 months ago she began calling texting sending random videos of her dog to me. I took it as a sign that she is at least thinking about me. We have had talks about getting back together and we talk almost everyday now, she always says that she doesn't want a relationship now, she just wants to have fun without having to deal with a relationship, according to her her other guy friend is just a fling someone to have fun with etc. etc. I want to get back with her I think she is a great girl, and we have talked about a future together many times. Im just not sure how to take it all in. Is she just making sure Im still there when she calls? or is she genuinley trying to work things out? I dont know. I like to think she is genuinely wanting to work things out, since awhile back she did send me a magazine article about getting back together with your ex? hmm Anyway, its tearing me up to know that she is or could be still with this other guy and talking to me at the same time....I want to start ignoring her calls, and I have tried everytime she ends up calling untill i pick up and she is upset that I didn't pick up sooner, and is worried that I dont want to talk..... Any suggestions as to how to deal with this? I know NC would probably be the best way to go about it, and its a gamble, dont talk now and possibly loose her, or keep talking now and see what developes?
DustySaltus Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Stick to NC. She's keeping you as a backup plan while she continues to be with this guy that she may or may not have second thoughts about. Unless she says straight out that she wants to make a commited effort to working on the things that broke you up in the first place, this contact that you are having doesn't mean a thing. The past is the past. I'm sure you had a lot of great times together. But look at the present, where is she now? She's throwing you a crumb when you want an entire meal...you're just going to end up being hungry again. Again, stick to NC.
nowomanocry Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 (edited) my ex and I broke up about 8 months ago, since then she has been with another guy for around 6 months (an old friend of hers frome highschool). anyway recently about 3 months ago she began calling texting sending random videos of her dog to me. I took it as a sign that she is at least thinking about me. We have had talks about getting back together and we talk almost everyday now, she always says that she doesn't want a relationship now, she just wants to have fun without having to deal with a relationship, according to her her other guy friend is just a fling someone to have fun with etc. etc. I want to get back with her I think she is a great girl, and we have talked about a future together many times. Im just not sure how to take it all in. Is she just making sure Im still there when she calls? or is she genuinley trying to work things out? I dont know. I like to think she is genuinely wanting to work things out, since awhile back she did send me a magazine article about getting back together with your ex? hmm Anyway, its tearing me up to know that she is or could be still with this other guy and talking to me at the same time....I want to start ignoring her calls, and I have tried everytime she ends up calling untill i pick up and she is upset that I didn't pick up sooner, and is worried that I dont want to talk..... Any suggestions as to how to deal with this? I know NC would probably be the best way to go about it, and its a gamble, dont talk now and possibly loose her, or keep talking now and see what developes? Leave the rhythm to her.. She wants fun. Get rid of that stupid feeling called pride and enjoy - but don't get into anything serious , have an alternative ***mate for back-up I have a very similar situation and she started contacting again after 3 weeks and I sent her loads of smses basically telling her to **** off and from the looks of it, we gona get togetha soon. To me she's even more attractive now and I leeave aside all those feelings such as love, pride, honesty and all that rubbish and feel like flying with her Edited March 10, 2010 by nowomanocry
carhill Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 At your age, I'd just date other girls and bang her without care if she presents herself. She's probably a monkey-branch girl so not a healthy candidate for a LTR. She was likely with the 'old friend' on a much less clearly defined timeline than you believe, just like she would be with you if you believed her bullshyte. Have fun
nowomanocry Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 At your age, I'd just date other girls and bang her without care if she presents herself. She's probably a monkey-branch girl so not a healthy candidate for a LTR. She was likely with the 'old friend' on a much less clearly defined timeline than you believe, just like she would be with you if you believed her bullshyte. Have fun How old is he lol
carhill Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 How old does this sound? the rolled truck incident of mine caused me to loose my license, so anyway she drove down here to pick me up to go to the party with her, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219054/ Life is a wonderful thing when you're young
Author capulsky Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 That last post is unclear....the truck rolling incident and the party thing are two different situations. Sorry I did not make it clear in that Post.
Author capulsky Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Ok I keep thinking about this situation...Is she just waiting for me to give her the ok to move on? is this why she cant go a day without calling or texting me? I keep thinking if I quit talking to her she will take it as I am over her and she doesn't have to worry about how I feel when she lets me go for good. Idk I cant seem to quit thinking about her and this situation.
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 How old does this sound? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219054/ Life is a wonderful thing when you're young Lmao Carhill roflmfaol bless ya
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Lmao Carhill roflmfaol bless ya Capulsky In that case stick to Carhill's advice matey lol
Author capulsky Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 thanks, obvisously you all are not understanding the previous post. I guess I cant make it clear enough that the previous post is not clear...? anyway. thanks
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 thanks, obvisously you all are not understanding the previous post. I guess I cant make it clear enough that the previous post is not clear...? anyway. thanks Now you have made clear that the previous post was not that clear and you can't clear the previous post as you can't edit atm, you can post your age or at least have an approx. age in the profile section to clarify lol Cheers mate
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