tfkizzle Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Ladies: When you are sexually active and your period is late, do you tell your BF/person you are sleeping with, THEN take a pregnancy test? Or do you take a pregnancy test when you suspect something is off, and only let your partner know if you find out you are pregnant? Guys: Do the women you are sleeping with tend to inform you of a suspected pregnancy before she confirms as much on her own? Ladies/guys: For whichever option you choose (obviously I didn't list them all), what is your reasoning for doing as you did/do? My answer: I have never had a late period and told a BF about it. The second I got nervous about a late/missed period, I took a pregnancy test. My reasoning is that doing otherwise is melodramatic, and there is no reason to bring it up unless I know otherwise. I also tend to have a *somewhat* irregular period (it's not super-irregular, but not the exact same every single month for my entire life that I would be able to choose the exact day I would get my period).
Eeyore79 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Obviously you don't frighten the guy until you have some concrete evidence that you're up the duff. I thought that was just common sense...
Stung Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Personally, I think it depends on the guy and the depth of the relationship. If it was just somebody I was dating and sleeping with, I would test without mentioning anything first. However, if it was a serious relationship, why would you not go through it together? I would want his input and support. I had a false alarm scare many years ago and shared it with my boyfriend at the time because we were friends, lovers, and in it together. I suspected I was pregnant with our 'surprise' son a couple weeks before I was pg enough to test positive, as I am sensitive to the progesterone/HcG hormones and was sick immediately. My husband would have been totally insulted if I had made him wait for two weeks before sharing something that big with him.
Citizen Erased Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 No use in scaring the poor guy. Test first.
befreckled Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Ladies: When you are sexually active and your period is late, do you tell your BF/person you are sleeping with, THEN take a pregnancy test? Or do you take a pregnancy test when you suspect something is off, and only let your partner know if you find out you are pregnant? Guys: Do the women you are sleeping with tend to inform you of a suspected pregnancy before she confirms as much on her own? Ladies/guys: For whichever option you choose (obviously I didn't list them all), what is your reasoning for doing as you did/do? My answer: I have never had a late period and told a BF about it. The second I got nervous about a late/missed period, I took a pregnancy test. My reasoning is that doing otherwise is melodramatic, and there is no reason to bring it up unless I know otherwise. I also tend to have a *somewhat* irregular period (it's not super-irregular, but not the exact same every single month for my entire life that I would be able to choose the exact day I would get my period). It depends on the relationship I have with the person. Casual partner, I own the responsibility over my body. I take the test when I suspect something is off, and tell him the result if it is positive. Even if it is positive, I might not really want to tell him because, it isn't his responsibility. My body, my choice. If it is bf, I will tell him when I suspect and ask him if he can come over for moral support when I do the test. Also, discuss options but, again. my body, my choice.
make me believe Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 My boyfriend seems to keep better track of my cycle than I do, so he would already know if it was late even without me telling him! But in general I agree with those who say in a casual relationship I'd take the test first, but in a serious relationship I'd inform my boyfriend.
Silver_star Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 My situation kind of sucked cause 2 months ago me and my bf broke up...and I havent has a period in 2 months..hmm. So i was worried, but I also know that if you stop taking the pill it messed with your body. So i wasnt too worried. I took a pregnancy test, negative, and I told him about it in a conversation we had...i also got a blood test just to be sure...and i told him about that (because he told me to keep him posted. I didnt want to seem like the crazyy ex gf that is trying to have conversations with my ex via "preganacy scare". But it all turned out. Still havent gotten a period though. Dont stop taking that pill ladies. It will mess you up
threebyfate Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Why assume and guess? Take the test first. They're cheap and easy to get. It's like telling your b/f you might want to break up with him in the future. While it's possible, it also might not be possible.
carhill Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 My anecdotes as a single man and a married man were singular..... 'I'm late'
laRubiaBonita Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 i had a BF that tracked my cycle, and checked my BC pills- so he always new what was up. but i always test first and that is that... i have never have "that" talk.
Ophelia Rue Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 What? God, no. Anyone who tells their boyfriend before they take the test is a drama queen and is digging for attention.
Stung Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 (edited) What? God, no. Anyone who tells their boyfriend before they take the test is a drama queen and is digging for attention. Diplomatic. Perhaps a few of us just have had very close relationships and don't feel the need to hide potential major developments from loved ones? Also, presumably we'd already have his attention, if he were a serious boyfriend. Do you place no value on openness and shared experience? I have only been late when I was NOT pregnant once that was not on purpose through hormonal bc manipulation. If being late were a frequent and probably inconsequential occurrence I would probably keep it to myself assuming it was nothing, but not everybody is built like that. When it's a very real concern/issue and my partner and I are emotionally intimate, I see no reason to hide the experience I'm going through from him, particularly since it potentially affects him as well. He was there at the probable conception and I see no reason why he shouldn't be a part of the whole process. I respect, value, and damn well expect his input and support. Edited March 11, 2010 by Stung
aerogurl87 Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I never tell the guy I'm with when my period is late because it likes to do odd things like skip a week here, a month there, etc. Now if I start having other pregnancy symptoms I take the test right away and if it were to come out positive I'd tell my guy. Other than that I see no reason as to why he'd need to be informed. Why start a panic when there's no fire?
shadowplay Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Yep, I did tell both guys when I strongly suspected I was pregnant (because of symptoms) but it was too early to get a good read on the test. In both cases I turned out to be right.
make me believe Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 Perhaps a few of us just have had very close relationships and don't feel the need to hide potential major developments from loved ones? Also, presumably we'd already have his attention, if he were a serious boyfriend. Do you place no value on openness and shared experience? Yeah. My boyfriend would be pretty upset if I came to him one day and said "I'm pregnant" out of the blue. He'd ask why I didn't tell him when I was late, and he'd worry that I had been stressing out & going through the emotions all alone. My bf and I are VERY close, and I totally agree with you that in that kind of a close relationship, it's best to let the other person know what's going on right away. In a casual relationship, no, but in a close intimate relationship it's totally different.
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