DeepThinker01 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 My relationship went to hell because of Craigslist. It was the site that my "lover" was sending e-mails and posting ads to women. Including married ones. After I had caught him trying to cheat, he opened up and showed me the e-mails. They are all burned in my mind. I remember one specifically said, "So you're married? I have always dreamed of being with a married woman. I am in a relationship as well, so discretion is a must". There were hundreds of E-mails to women, and each one was different. From sexually explicit to love letters to **** like that. Has this happened to you with a lover? At the time I read the e-mails, I didn't even KNOW Craigslist was a site where men and women advertised themselves and were looking for sex. My dumb ass thought it was just a site where you could buy some cheap merchandise, like Ebay. Craigslist is a terrible website. It brought so much heartache and anger. Has anyone else had a problem like this? As horrible as I feel saying it, i'd be lying if I didn't admit that it made me feel bitter towards men. I know deep down that I can't blame all men for the acts of one raging and sick pervert.. but I just can't help it. Your post stuck out to me mainly because you are a man who posted it. I'd like to hear from you, and added you to my contacts in case you are interested. Anyone else who has had an issue like that, feel free to add me. I'd like to know how people deal with something like this .. and it's nice to know i am not alone.
seibert253 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Facebook is also doing a bang up job of ruining marriages and relationships. My buds W of 20yrs recently "reconnected" with an old BF. H's on the fence now, not sure to stay or call it a day. 4 kids doesn't make his decision easy. She's seen the "error" of her ways, but the damage is done.
JustLooking123 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Your relationship went to hell because you were dating a cheating scumbag. Maybe you should direct your anger towards him, not some random website. Or better yet, move on altogether.
In_Repair Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I'm sorry this has happened to you, but CL didn't ruin you, your boyfriend, or anything else for that matter. If CL did not exist, he would have used Facebook... Myspace... a dating site... a bar... etc. Your anger is misplaced, and I think at this point you are simply looking for someone/something to blame instead of facing the reality of your situation. He has cheated on you multiple times and you have cheated on him multiple times. It's obvious you two don't belong together. Actually it should have been obvious when you found him in the car with that other woman and this whole thing started to unravel, but again, you blamed some bull**** sex addiction instead of facing it. Game over - walk away with the dignity you have left.
lovestruck818 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Craigslist's purpose isnt solely for that kind of stuff- it is a site for all kind of things: things people want to sell, jobs, talent gigs, real estate, rental apartments...I could go on. The point is, I agree with previous posters- it isn't Craigslist that you should be mad at, it's the guy. And if you think Craigslist is bad, there's a site called Ashley Madison, which is an agency that helps people have affairs. There are just way too many creeps in the world. Anyway, sorry this had to happen to you.
phineas Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 If it wasn't craigs list or facebook it would be something else. The technology just makes it easier to do it. It also makes it easier to get caught. Back in the day when they only had pay phones in the street you had to run accross town & bust some ass to two-time somebody. but people still did it.
hoping2heal Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 I see a lot of people angry and claiming that myspace/facebook/craigslist etc. is breaking up relationships and marriages. The reality? If people were being honest and not cheating and lying to their partners to begin with, their would be nothing for facebook/myspace/craigslist to expose them. Your partner would of cheated by some other medium if those weren't available.
Barky Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 (edited) All the world is a singles bar. I'm my area Craigslist is the absolute bottom of the barrel for finding dates or even hookups. 100% of the women are extremely obese and often horrifically ugly. These are the 1s and 2s on the dating scale. I don't have very high standards but even I can't find anything that makes my monkey jump on CL. Edited March 12, 2010 by Barky
bluebird25 Posted March 21, 2010 Posted March 21, 2010 I empathize with you deeply, Deepthinker. I recently found out my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me multiple times using the casual encounters section on craigslist. I am still very heartbroken and angry and confused as to why he would sacrifice the intimacy and trust in our relationship for moments of instant gratification and empty sex with strangers. I wonder how people could go through with this in such a stupid manner. He approached these women with such recklessness. They were total strangers. And these women to answer his replies with no cautionary measures at all? As a woman, I would never let a total stranger into my house, where we would be completely alone, not knowing what he/she was capable of. I shouldn't judge. They do what they want to do with their lives. Perhaps one can say that they are sexually liberated or to an extreme, risk-takers, seeking some kind of thrill from these encounters. But considering I was collateral damage for my boyfriend's self-destructive behaviour, where I got hurt in the process, I just think that people who engage in this are simply narcissistic, sociopathic and have no empathy for other people.
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