tylerdurden Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 A little bit of my story can be found here:http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t222649/ She broke up with me , a little bit more than a month ago,and wanted to remain friends. I say to her that is everything or nothing, meaning that I cant be friend with her. I have been NC for the last 11 days, I was doing really well until she send me this email: Hope you are doing well....... Just wanted to let you know that I think of you...a lot. I miss you !!!! I havent responded yet..Should I bother answering? Thanks for your time.
hopesndreams Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Keep doing NC. She's toying with you. She must be bored or something.
sativo Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 This is a good sign, but not enough to justify breaking NC. Give it more time.. and prepare to have to deal with more of these messages. Each time one comes, it will probably turn your life upside-down for a couple days. But try to get past it... Eventually, she'll contact you with a real message. "Can we talk?" That's when you ask "what about". If she doesn't apologize, she's still not ready. Put her back in the oven.
Bulletino Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 This is a good sign, but not enough to justify breaking NC. Give it more time.. and prepare to have to deal with more of these messages. Each time one comes, it will probably turn your life upside-down for a couple days. But try to get past it... Eventually, she'll contact you with a real message. "Can we talk?" That's when you ask "what about". If she doesn't apologize, she's still not ready. Put her back in the oven. Hahaha put her back in the Oven, if she's like a chicken :lmao:
DustySaltus Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Unless she says: "I'm sorry Tyler, I think I made a huge mistake. I want to make things work and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make things work. I understand that it will not be easy but I am willing to make the commitment to do so. Can we sit down and talk about this?" Anything less than this is peanuts, breadcrumbs, meaningless...... Let her wallow in HER decision for a while. Stick to NC. The BEST response you can give her is complete and utter silence. Focus on you. Don't break NC, stay strong and continue to post here.
paperchase Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 That isn't an email. That's a blurb. It took nothing to send and means nothing. It's the very definition of breadcrumbs. Something you toss out without thinking twice. Do not respond. You want an interpretation? Hey, I'm bored. Haven't heard from you in a bit and wondering if you're still pinning over me. Been busy and infatuated with my new love but my need for attention has me wanting to see if you're still on the hook. Respond and you will give me what I need and then I will go back to my new man.
paperchase Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 She hasnt got a new man. You have no way to know that for sure but most times when a woman leaves or want's space or needs to find herself or "It's not you it's me" or "we should date other people" it's one of three things: 1. she has a new man 2. she's interested in someone she has targeted 3. she's interested in finding someone whom she has yet to meet. At the end, they all mean that you are either replaced or about to be replaced. Been there.
sativo Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Totally agree. I've rarely met a women who has truly been on her own (i.e. single) for long. They're usually jumping out of one relationship and into another.
Author tylerdurden Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Totally agree. I've rarely met a women who has truly been on her own (i.e. single) for long. They're usually jumping out of one relationship and into another. I have to disagree, it really depends on the mentality of the person. My last 2 girlfriends broke up with me , but we remained friend after me going NC.They stayed single for 5 to 6 months after break ups...they said that they needed time for their studies, and thats what they did..(and they were really good looking) They wouldnt lie , its not like I care anymore..
Author tylerdurden Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 By the way I have decided not to answer it...She was looking for an ego boost..but thats a perfect ego boost for me!
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 She hasnt got a new man. One sentence, str8 to the target lol
nowomanocry Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 By the way I have decided not to answer it...She was looking for an ego boost..but thats a perfect ego boost for me! Well done Tyler Meanwhile if you can get a couple of s...gs more outta' this by buying her a coffee or summink & dump 'er you will be the king mate lol.. Then you shall see wot a real egoboost is mate Cheers
cypresa Posted March 11, 2010 Posted March 11, 2010 why did you guys split up? maybe she is just wanting to find out how you are.... is that really bad of her? i think it's nice that she still thinks about you no?
Author tylerdurden Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 why did you guys split up? maybe she is just wanting to find out how you are.... is that really bad of her? i think it's nice that she still thinks about you no? Yes maybe, but a simple "how are you?"would have been more appropriate. I think its bad of her ,because she ignored my previous email,she didnt answer my questions, and out of the blue she is telling this stuff. What Im trying to say is that she wants everything to go her way... I also made it very clear that I didnt want any friendship...so I dontunderstand her point.. She split up because she says that her life was to busy so therefore I couldnt fit in there...I know she is telling the truth but there is probably something else behind it, and I dont really want to know!
Author tylerdurden Posted March 11, 2010 Author Posted March 11, 2010 Well done Tyler Meanwhile if you can get a couple of s...gs more outta' this by buying her a coffee or summink & dump 'er you will be the king mate lol.. Then you shall see wot a real egoboost is mate Cheers haha! the thing is we are living in different cities, and I dont really want to spend money on her, I have done this in the past and it went.....nowhere! By the way you are one of the person that I follow here, I like your posts, Its straight to the point and wise!
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