RockGuy87 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I posted a thread a week or so ago about this girl in one of my college classes that im very much attracted to but cant seem to get the nerve to say anything to her. We have exchanged numerous smiles but thats about it. I just dont know how to get a convo started up and even when I did, how do i know if i should ask her out and how should i ask? Been outta the dating game for awhile now and just need some pointers. Thanks in advance
MrNate Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I posted a thread a week or so ago about this girl in one of my college classes that im very much attracted to but cant seem to get the nerve to say anything to her. We have exchanged numerous smiles but thats about it. I just dont know how to get a convo started up and even when I did, how do i know if i should ask her out and how should i ask? Been outta the dating game for awhile now and just need some pointers. Thanks in advance How about this? If you don't do it, someone else will. You're not the only one eyeing her bud. No guts no glory. Small risk for a LOT of reward.
bucky112 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Hey there, i had this problem until one day i decided to man up and get on with it, i had to face facts there generally not gonna approach me even tho i am rather good looking you see dont other think it, ive asked a few girls for there numbers in college and i didnt use any special chat up line. i simply said 'I know this is rather random but i was wondering if i could have you number' They quickly asses you and if they like what they see will pass on there number. Since you've already made eye contact just approach her and say hi then chat about anything to keep the conversation rolling, try and pick up on something she likes and roll with that. If she generally likes you shel'll be fine to pass on her number.
boogieboy Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 You dont ask her out. You go up to her with the mindset that you are only going to see if shes a cool person. Thats it. Get ready with a opener that has something to do with the class, or something funny that happened in the class. Dont ask her any personal questions until she asks you something personal. If you have to memorize a list things to talk about with her do that. If you are talking to her for a while and you seem to have a good rapport going, and shes actually flirting with you, then tell her youre going to the cafeteria if she would like to join you.
Awesome Username Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 You dont ask her out. You go up to her with the mindset that you are only going to see if shes a cool person. Thats it. Get ready with a opener that has something to do with the class, or something funny that happened in the class. Dont ask her any personal questions until she asks you something personal. If you have to memorize a list things to talk about with her do that. If you are talking to her for a while and you seem to have a good rapport going, and shes actually flirting with you, then tell her youre going to the cafeteria if she would like to join you. I think that this is a great approach.
boogieboy Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Boogieboy gives excellent advice. Ty NA and AU (i love initials...) RG87 I forgot to say this: Women love it when they meet a guy naturally...or better yet, they dont like it to feel unnatural..like youre picking up on her. So think about how you met your friends, all the scenarios. Parties, class, whatever...think about how natural the first conversations went and use that to make your approach to her look natural...so that she doesnt look at you funny.
New Again Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Listen to BB! Sometimes I disagree with him, but when it comes right down to it, if I'm completely honest, he's pretty much dead-on with everything he says.
Author RockGuy87 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 Thanks. Ill try to come up with something small i can ask her about the class and see where it goes from there. If it doesnt really take off after she answers my question should i even try again?
Author RockGuy87 Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 Some family has told me I should add her on facebook and talk to her on there. But i dont really wanna do this cause I dont wanna come off as a creep, just seems like it would be too much. Maybe once ive talked to her some?
Awesome Username Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Some family has told me I should add her on facebook and talk to her on there. But i dont really wanna do this cause I dont wanna come off as a creep, just seems like it would be too much. Maybe once ive talked to her some? I think that you should talk to her in real life before facebook, since you two actually are in contact with each other in real life. After a few conversations, then add her on facebook.
boogieboy Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Thanks. Ill try to come up with something small i can ask her about the class and see where it goes from there. If it doesnt really take off after she answers my question should i even try again? Try not to seem like you need her to help you by asking her questions. Its already needy. Just start a conversation about the class thats entertaining. You dont want to put her on the spot right away. If she seems awkward, make her laugh to relieve the tension. If she doesnt respond well, you will know right away, and you bail out. Say "ok cya later". You might have another chance in a few weeks, she might come up to you.
lofi_tokyo Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I'd just like to say I'm having the same problem, so I can totally relate to ya Rockguy. There is a super hot guy in one of my classes - he actually found me at the bar and said hello! But I had no idea who he was, and now I feel like the ball is in my court to say hi in class... but I can't work up the nerve. Doh! It should be easy, right? Guess we'll both have to follow BB's instructions.
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