homersheineken Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 hmmm...I was not responding to you-the post was for what's-his-name, who said he has a long term relationship,a mid-term and a short-term-and actually admitted that he is being deceitful... But I think I understand why you would think of it that way..it makes it easier to rationalize/justify your actions. Well this is a community forum where people can talk amongst the community... If you really want to shelter yourself you don't have to respond... Do you really think that every guy you date thinks that you're exclusive to start off with? Have you never had an exclusivity talk? Have you ever declared your relationship to be BF/GF? There's a reason people do those things. Because it's silly to think you're exclusive until you either talk about it or it's mutually accepted. That's why you do those things.
tami-chan Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 Well this is a community forum where people can talk amongst the community... If you really want to shelter yourself you don't have to respond... LOL...yes, I get that..but I think you failed to take my post from the perspective from which it was posted..that is the reason why I said...I also do understand what you were trying to say . Do you really think that every guy you date thinks that you're exclusive to start off with? Yes. Why wouldn't he? Have you never had an exclusivity talk? Yes, at the onset. I wouldn't have it any less... Have you ever declared your relationship to be BF/GF? There's a reason people do those things. Because it's silly to think you're exclusive until you either talk about it or it's mutually accepted. That's why you do those things. What?? Until we are in a relationship, we are just 'friends"..not "dating", not "kissing", not anything...just friends trying to get to know each other more-that's right, just first base.
homersheineken Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 LOL...yes, I get that..but I think you failed to take my post from the perspective from which it was posted..that is the reason why I said...I also do understand what you were trying to say . Yes. Why wouldn't he? Yes, at the onset. I wouldn't have it any less... What?? Until we are in a relationship, we are just 'friends"..not "dating", not "kissing", not anything...just friends trying to get to know each other more-that's right, just first base. So you expect to be BF/GF (exclusive) from the very first date?? And once you kiss someone, that's the sign that you're in a BF/GF relationship??
Barky Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 So you expect to be BF/GF (exclusive) from the very first date?? And once you kiss someone, that's the sign that you're in a BF/GF relationship?? Everybody's different. Very, very few people are compatible.
Author marsle85 Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 Nahhhhh... Jeesh, I assume from the first date he is shuffling me with multiple others. That's half the fun anyway, I like weeding out the other bimbos and feeling like I won a prize. I'm freaked if he's as serious as being exclusive by date one. Nooo way. Plus- I date multiple guys at one time. Gotta find someone worth my time, don't I? I expect him to do the same.
tami-chan Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 (edited) So you expect to be BF/GF (exclusive) from the very first date?? And once you kiss someone, that's the sign that you're in a BF/GF relationship?? Expect to be gf/bf? no, but I expect and hope to get to know him enough( and vice-versa ) to decide if he is BF material. Kiss before the "exclusivity" talk? ahh..no! exclusivity talk first before kiss...! I think we are never going to understand each other because I have a different take on "dating" vis-a-vis just hanging out with a friend. Edited March 13, 2010 by tami-chan
alphamale Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Men, how many women at once do you typically "juggle" (ha ha) at once? right now? zero
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 That's a reality for you because you attempt to date out of your league- right? Errr.. where'd you get that idea? I date down. The very attractive ones take more work than I'm willing to deal with.
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 exclusivity talk first before kiss...! Yikes, well whatever works for yeh. Here in LA that would get you zero second dates. I mean none whatsoever.
tami-chan Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Yikes, well whatever works for yeh. Here in LA that would get you zero second dates. I mean none whatsoever. oh really? well, maybe my confidence is misplaced...but I am pretty sure someone out there is willing to match my pace when it comes to "dating". But thanks for the warning about LA .
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 oh really? well, maybe my confidence is misplaced...but I am pretty sure someone out there is willing to match my pace when it comes to "dating". But thanks for the warning about LA . I'm sure you'll have success if you stick with men who are as religious as you.
tami-chan Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 I'm sure you'll have success if you stick with men who are as religious as you. Religious? LOL... You know what they call those people who assume. What religion would that be? Just so you do not have to make a bigger a$$ of yourself, I am not a member of any monotheistic religion.
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Religious? LOL... You know what they call those people who assume. What religion would that be? Just so you do not have to make a bigger a$$ of yourself, I am not a member of any monotheistic religion. Oh, I thought you were talking about Jesus in another thread.
tami-chan Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Oh, I thought you were talking about Jesus in another thread. ahmm...and? you are silly...
Barky Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 ahmm...and? you are silly... ahmm.. and... if you're talking about Jesus saving or whatever, I assume you're Christian? ahmm.. and.. that would make you religious? Unless of course you were just joking and don't believe in Jeebus or all that silly crap.
tami-chan Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 ahmm.. and... if you're talking about Jesus saving or whatever, I assume you're Christian? ahmm.. and.. that would make you religious? Really....interesting. I actually thought it takes more than just one random statement to be judged that..lol.. Unless of course you were just joking and don't believe in Jeebus or all that silly crap. LOL...!!! noooo..really maybe I was? .. you are too much...who is Jeebus? hehe, just kidding!
Author marsle85 Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 Really....interesting. I actually thought it takes more than just one random statement to be judged that..lol.. LOL...!!! noooo..really maybe I was? .. you are too much...who is Jeebus? hehe, just kidding! Girl. I'm sorry. But you have -the- most confusing comments. It's half cute, half baffling.
tami-chan Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Girl. I'm sorry. But you have -the- most confusing comments. It's half cute, half baffling. LOL ...sorry, my jesus comment was "tongue-in-cheek" and for barky to make the connection of that statement and my stand on dating--is just too much!!! So when he said that "unless maybe I was joking"..my response was equally tongue in cheek...."noooo, really? maybe I was joking?" ..Of course, I was joking about the Jesus comment...ugh...!
Author marsle85 Posted March 16, 2010 Author Posted March 16, 2010 Wellll lucky me, i'm juggling 3 dates this week!
sigurpol Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 If I'm lucky: one. Haha, no, but really... I don't know. If it's like anyone I'm getting to know, or that wants to go out on a date, then maybe 2 or 3 at the absolute most. Like someone mentioned earlier, if one of them starts to progress, then I cut loose on anyone else. But lately.. one. Then again, I'm not a full time clown.
aystro Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 It's quite sad if you are keeping in touch with more than 1 person at a time to be honest. However if you are desperate and got self esteem issues I guess it's 'ok'.
Tnerforireyeh Posted March 16, 2010 Posted March 16, 2010 I'm actually amazed that there aren't more guys out there who multidate. Of course most men feel lucky to have even just one girl willing to get naked for them, I suppose.
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