abdellost Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 swore on everything i would never create a facebook and for the last 7 years i been yelled at. But after the break up (which was a 5 year relationship, and we were so happy. But out of nowhere i get a text and thats the last i heard from her, i even followed her to college, long story lol) I made a facebook with a friend who said it would be like a new start of my new life. So i did make one, and been wasting away my life on it because it helps me forget her a bit. BUT THEN, a added a friend who i havent seen in almost a decade. So we chatted and etc. We knew we seen each other before, but we couldnt remember. anyway, we chatted for a few weeks, a loooot and we hitted it off really hard and we really didnt stop laughing and it was just like we were best buds for years, so we decided to meet up. ( i really didnt care if she was ugly, i just wanted to rekindle old friendships and have someone new in my life to talk to). But when i meet her up, i was blown into oblivious! she was drop dead gorgeous and she was amazing! she was so intelligent, she loves the same authors i do and we share soo much common interest its crazy. we talked and walked for 5 hours ( is that a good sign lol?). she told me about her past and present relationship. and gave out hints that she was interested in me. BUT now this is the problem. for the first time in my life i think someone is out of my league. My family isnt up to PAR with her family. shes not very high class but shes up there. my family is doing alright but yea. Girls liked me a lot, even after the break up. And ya they were high class but i knew i can easily take them over and date them and make them not even care about family issues and just care about the person ( BTW i am overseas, not in America, so family name and such matters here a bit). But this girl, wow. she knows 4 languages. From Greece. A real redhead (i been in this country for 10 years on and off, never seen a redhead before except in America). shes wayy too smart ( we click on that category though) and shes just..i can just say that i dont think I can be up to her standards. I never felt like this before BUT BECAUSE of that 5 year relationship, my charisma and my self respect, my dignity feels crushed and feels like i can not match some people. If i knew this girl a few months ago, i could have easily said I can win her heart. But now, i feel lost. Shes really interested in me, even though theres a thing going on with this guy that likes her. She wants to get married (shes 20) but notnwith anyone. She dropped the line on me a few times and hinted it out she wouldnt mind going steady with me if i consider marriage first. I am the kind of guy that doesnt date for fun. If i date, its because i want to marry the person so i get to know them. I dunno what to do. shes all over me, texting me all the time and chatting me and calling me. I know its only been 2 month since my ex left me and i still cry every day. This new girl is making it better for me though, making me feel that i am worth a cake or two. But i dunno what to do. I am supposed to go back to the states in a few months to work and start my true life over, but after knowing this girl a little longer and if i think that we would be amazing with eachother, how can i not be too scared of her? be scared because shes out of my league? Thanks guys. peace and love P.S. if we do become serious, i would go back and work my butt off and come and visit every few months (which i did with my last ex). Like i said, i feel like shes out of my league, first time in my life to feel like that towards someone. Even the hottest girl in high school couldnt make me feel like that. and like i said, she doesnt date for fun. I mean she doesnt mind going "steady"with me, but i have to have the intention of marrying her. Thing is, i know if i go back to the states being with her, she would wait. Shes that type of girl that thinks of a happy family and wants to get married now and start a life. She keeps asking to meet my sisters ( i have 4) and she wants to get to know them and would love to know my family. Each text i get she asks me to say hi to my sisters, so i dont know what is that all about.
DustySaltus Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You need to get right with yourself before you get with anyone else. We all have past relationships that have gone south but the most important thing to do is LEARN from them. Stop comparing families, lives, looks and whatever else. STOP! Look what you have in front of you at this moment. Stop dwelling in the past and live in the present. Focus on yourself and how you can do things to better YOURSELF instead of trying to find a way to impress all these others around you. You can't let someone else define who YOU are. Be confident in yourself, stop overanalyzing everything and be the man that she is attracted to. You're in a good situation right now. ENJOY IT!
Author abdellost Posted March 13, 2010 Author Posted March 13, 2010 Thanks man. Your right. She contacted my sister and started to become really good friends with her. And just came back from seeing her. Hope everything works out. shes a pretty amazing girl. I am not going to rush anything but i will try to make my time worth whiled
sedgwick Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 sAnd ya they were high class but i knew i can easily take them over WTF?!?!?!??! You look for women you can "take over?" Also, someone who is 20 years old insisting you consider marrying her before you even start dating is a HUUUUUGE red flag!!!!
Author abdellost Posted March 15, 2010 Author Posted March 15, 2010 WTF?!?!?!??! You look for women you can "take over?" Also, someone who is 20 years old insisting you consider marrying her before you even start dating is a HUUUUUGE red flag!!!! Dude you serious lol? I mean take over as in win over their hearts. Because in this country, women marry for the money mostly,unless the guy is someone they love to the brink of death. Cmon, i am a forum to help me get through hard times and at the same time iam a womanized? cmon lol. Well no, she doesnt mean like marry her first. Its like me: i dont like dating for fun. If i date someone, its because i would consider marrying them. Hence the reason i never date a girl unless i know her so well. I been with only two girls, first one lasted a little over a year and second was 5 years, so you can get what i mean.
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