d0ll Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 okay, I need advice about facebook/relationships Do you think it's okay to keep exs on your friends list? & family members of your ex or does that mean you're not over it? I think as soon as the relationship is over & you're moving on everyone should immediatly be deleted
Pleco Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 It's facebook. It's a networking site. I have plenty of people as facebook friends that I barely know in real life. Both of our exes and all their family members are still our friends on facebook, and we message them occasionally. This shouldn't even be an issue. Just because you broke up doesn't mean that you should erase them from your life forever - they were important to you at one time. (Unless it was a really ugly breakup and you are doing it as some sort of closure for yourself). If that's not the case, who cares if they stay on facebook? If someone asked me to delete my exes from my facebook list, I would kindly tell them to bug off.
Author d0ll Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 It's facebook. It's a networking site. I have plenty of people as facebook friends that I barely know in real life. Both of our exes and all their family members are still our friends on facebook, and we message them occasionally. This shouldn't even be an issue. Just because you broke up doesn't mean that you should erase them from your life forever - they were important to you at one time. (Unless it was a really ugly breakup and you are doing it as some sort of closure for yourself). If that's not the case, who cares if they stay on facebook? If someone asked me to delete my exes from my facebook list, I would kindly tell them to bug off. that is true, thank you .. they also have pretty much the same group of friends
OnlyJake Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) I am FB friends with all of my ex-BFs and many of their family members. Except one; he and I dated in high school (forever ago); he didn't add me on FB until many, many years later. Then his GF, who is a PSYCHO made him delete me (even though he and I never had any contact, on FB or otherwise, since our breakup). I am also FB friends with all of my siblings' ex's, and some of their family members. To my knowledge, everyone I have ever dated has also been FB friends with all of their ex's, and some assorted family mmebers, and so on. Who really cares, as long as they're only "FB friends" and they're not having any kind of inappropriate contact. I'm sure that for some people (who are rebounding) it means that they still miss their ex, but I think it's safe to assume that for 99% of the population it means nothing. Edited March 9, 2010 by OnlyJake
Awesome Username Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I am still friends with my exes on facebook. It has never been an issue to me, since often I become friends with them in the future. By the way, your Megan Fox icon brightens my world!
JohnnyBlaze Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I guess it depends on the breakup. If it was an amicable breakup, then yes, I'll keep someone on FB. If it was a "dramatic" breakup (i.e. a big blowout), then I'll usually drop them. It really comes down to dealer's choice; if you're comfortable having them there, leave 'em. If not, it's vaya con dios, baby!
marsle85 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Oh no, no honey. I would try to change that mindset, because I'm sure as a whole- people don't think the way you do. I have all my ex's, friends of ex's, etc. And I can promise you... I am not interested romantically or even platonically (in some cases). I think to go as far as to delete someone is very dramatic and can put an even more awkward light on the already wrecked relationship. There's simply no need to delete them, you know? The only reason why I'm stressing this is I don't want you to run into many, many people who follow the same mindset and get upset. Chow! -LM
MalachiX Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I'm still friends with all my exes and havn't removed any pictures. As I've said in another thread, I think taking the time to erase any evidence of the relationship shows your NOT over it. I've got a ton of facebook friends who I hardly know. I've got a ton of pictures with people I hardly know. I've NEVER deleted a friend or a picture. Doing so because I break up with someone gives the memory of that relationship a lot more power than I think is healthy. Why would you want to cut out a part of your life just because it didn't go as well as you hoped?
Author d0ll Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 thanks everyone! & yeah the guy I'm interested in just got out of a relationship (thats why i'm asking) & he said something like we're going to be friends get over the ex thing haha so it sounds like he is over it, I hope
Ilovehim Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 i am not friends with my ex boyfriend on facebook or in real life and i never will be. He told me first that he doesn't want to be friends online because his girlfriend might not like it. Even if he wanted to, I would never accept him because he's in my past and I consider our break-up a bad one although Im completely over it. My "kind of ex'es"-2 guys i messed with but were never exclusive are my friends on facebook and I'm still cool with them to this day. My boyfriend doesn't care. But my EX will NEVER be my friend for MANY reasons. I believe if you truly loved someone and they broke your heart in pieces, treated you bad and never apologized for it or even attempted to be in your life, well then there is no reason why I would want to keep in touch with you in any way if you f**ked me over, whether you were my boyfriend or even a friend.
Ilovehim Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 oh and if i might add, he just recently got a facebook page and obviously none of us added each other. We have both moved on with other people and havent spoken in a year, so it's not like he was on my page & i deleted him. and to the person who said he doesnt delete any pics of the ex on facebook, i think that's creepy and i suggest you delete the pics asap. if im broken up with someone and they still have pics of me online, i would think they're pathetic. sorry.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I don't delete ex's off FB b/c it's not that important to me. I have hundreds of friends, so it's not a big deal. I've been deleted before though. And I've had guy block me from all the page content, but not delete me. It seems like a lot of effort to be that immature IMO. I really don't care that much.
Orchid8 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I think it's okay to keep your ex on FB. Unless it was a nasty break-up, then delete! I never have this problem because I don't add bfs on my Facebook nor do I put up pictures or change my status because I don't want to deal with the drama or having to take it all down and make changes if something goes down.. My friends think I'm strange because of it. Oh well.
Author d0ll Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 he told me the reason he broke up with her is because he cant live with her (so he moved out) & theres no way something like that can be worked out .. so I gave him my number good or bad?
aerogurl87 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I'm friends with one ex on facebook and we talk from time to time sometimes, but that's it. Granted, the relationship ended on good terms and there aren't any pictures floating around on my page with us being all lovey dovey. My other ex blocked me on facebook the day after we broke up because I posted on his wall "so I take it your new girlfriend doesn't know you just told me you loved me yesterday" or something like that. Also I untagged every picture of myself on my page where he was in it and deleted those pictures as well. I think he kept them though (which to me is kinda weird, but whatever). So I guess it depends on the nature of the breakup as to whether or not I'd stay friends on facebook with any of my exes.
Author d0ll Posted March 10, 2010 Author Posted March 10, 2010 thank you for the replies everyone .. I'm over the facebook thing .. now i'm trying to figure out if he's interested in seeing me or not
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