lucy9216 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 This guy I have been talking with for almost the last 2 months who is 24 and I am 30. First he had asked me out twice and I gave him my number but he never called or set anything up, but one night we did end up hanging out and it wasn't a date we just ended up at the same place but he knew I was there so showed up to hang out with me and things went a little too far. I did talk with him after that and he said he wanted to see me again but didn't hear from him much after that. Just ran into him over the weekend and he asked me out again? He said that he wasn't sure if I still wanted to go out sometime and I told him that I wasn't sure if he wanted to either. He asked when my days off are, I told him when but then he said that his work schedule is kinda weird so I said "well you have my number so just give me a call" but still he hasn't called? wtf? If he doesent want to go out why ask me out?!
Bejita463 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 How far is too far? That's probably your explanation for his behavior.
Author lucy9216 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Yeah we did sleep together but the odd behavior had started before that. We had been talking for a month before that happened and he had asked me out twice but never set up a date? and actually had not spoken on the phone. Ok, here is the thing I go to a country club on the weekends and he patrols in security there and he knows I am there every weekend so when I see him he asks me out and flirts with me a lot but never calls. The night we slept together he had gotten off work early and came by to see me, I had been drinking too much that night and he hadn't. The next day I talked to him and told him I didn't remember much and I think that upset him cause he said that he hoped I didn't regret anything I told him no but just wish I wasn't drunk. I saw him a week later and when I did he was standing with a bunch of people and when I walked up someone said "oh here she is" and he got really embarrassed. The following weekend was just this last weekend when I saw him and he asked me out again, but when he did he had said he wasn't sure if I still wanted to go out with him but I told him that I wasn't sure if he still wanted to either, but still no phone call? There is a cop that patrols there too and he told me the guy is just really shy and he likes me so I should give him a chance, but really? he can't be that shy!
DustySaltus Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 He's obviously not shy enough to tell his friends that he slept with you. It's very simple. A asks B out, A & B figure out a mutual time & place to meet and then.............THEY MEET! It's not rocket science. I think he's setting this up for a FWB situation.
marsle85 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 This guy I have been talking with for almost the last 2 months who is 24 and I am 30. First he had asked me out twice and I gave him my number but he never called or set anything up, but one night we did end up hanging out and it wasn't a date we just ended up at the same place but he knew I was there so showed up to hang out with me and things went a little too far. I did talk with him after that and he said he wanted to see me again but didn't hear from him much after that. Just ran into him over the weekend and he asked me out again? He said that he wasn't sure if I still wanted to go out sometime and I told him that I wasn't sure if he wanted to either. He asked when my days off are, I told him when but then he said that his work schedule is kinda weird so I said "well you have my number so just give me a call" but still he hasn't called? wtf? If he doesent want to go out why ask me out?! I'm sorry girl, I think this guy is looking for booty. -You gave him your number = he never called/set anything up. -When you did hang out = it was not planned/premeditated. Convenient. -You hooked up immediately after that = you pursued further communiation....didn't hear from him. -Ran in to him...aka he thinks, "Hm...I'd hook up with her again..." acts sweet and says he wants to see you again. I have very ltitle faith in this relationship. He has never taken you out, showed *romantic* interest, only sexual. Your only hope IMO is to go out with him another time and hold back sexually. Explain you let things go a little too far last time, you'd like to continue seeing him--but you're not ready for that kind of intimacy yet. Goodluck girly!
Author lucy9216 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I had a pretty good feeling that is just what he was looking for. I have been planning on having my birthday at this country club in about 2 weeks, he has known about it for a while and says he is gonna try to get the night off to be there so we will see if he shows up. If he does I am gonna do my best to not let things go too far again and talk with him as well. Ya know the whole thing started a few months ago actually, I knew he had an interest in me for months but I didn't want to get involved cause he is a lot younger than me but as I started talking with him more I started to like him and he had told a friend of mine that he liked me but didn't know if I would go out with him because he is younger, so I changed my mind and decided to give him a chance. Ah well, we will see what happens on my birthday in a couple weeks. I think that will make or break this whole thing depending on how the night goes. Thanks all for your input.
potatoepie3 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I feel the same way. I dated this guy and he was all into me as long as I would come and visit him. But he never wanted to come to visit me ...or go to parties with me...always and excuse...then he just stopped calling and sending emails.... Another guy I went out with ...we went out ...he seemed like he had a nice time but never called or anything...I am older and I feel like this is ridiculouso! And I just don't know why this keeps happening or what i am supposed to do....
Author lucy9216 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I feel the same way. I dated this guy and he was all into me as long as I would come and visit him. But he never wanted to come to visit me ...or go to parties with me...always and excuse...then he just stopped calling and sending emails.... Another guy I went out with ...we went out ...he seemed like he had a nice time but never called or anything...I am older and I feel like this is ridiculouso! And I just don't know why this keeps happening or what i am supposed to do.... Well obviously I have no clue either lol.... It is really frustrating!
marsle85 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Luc, I love your avatar. And ladies- you move on. There's nothing else you can do. Dwelling won't make him want you more (I mean no offense) and you certainly don't need men who don't need you. That's all there is.
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