DenverBachelor Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You were forced into a room with every one of your previous ex's while they all sat across you discussing your various faults and having a lively conversation about all the good and bad things you did while in the relationship. Would you be mad (or woman) enough to laugh it off or would you be utterly devastated? Do you place more self-worth in your own opinions of self or do you let other people define you as you pass through life? Think about that.
4givrnt4gtr Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Neither. I would run to get a pen and paper and take copious note of what is said.....then analize it critically and use what I can for my next relationship. Its always good to know what were your mistakes and what were your strengths in relationships. Nobody is perfect and you can only grow from your experiences...if only your scenario could happen.
Dream Brother Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 This has reverse bukkake written all over it. Would be interesting I think. Not the above but the scenario. I think it would be funny.
annxxdisaster Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You were forced into a room with every one of your previous ex's while they all sat across you discussing your various faults and having a lively conversation about all the good and bad things you did while in the relationship. Would you be mad (or woman) enough to laugh it off or would you be utterly devastated? Do you place more self-worth in your own opinions of self or do you let other people define you as you pass through life? Think about that. I wouldn't "laugh it off", I'd really like to have that conversation. I wouldn't be devastated either--but to think of all the insight I could get on my bad habits! I know I have my pros and cons, and I can tell you the things in myself that I personally value and things I'd like to change. To get someones honest opinion about what they are would be invaluable to me. I sort of try to ask my ex's those sort of questions (what was it that I did to contribute to it all), and my timing isn't usually the best--but I honestly want to know. Not because I want to debate it with them about how I'm not that way or plead to them that I can change...but because I truly WANT to know what sort of super annoying habits or behaviors I had. I can see some of them myself, but I'm jaded sometimes in what I'm willing to let myself see.
Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I couldn't sit in that room, presently. Not a damn chance.
ItsAllGoodAgain Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Neither. I would run to get a pen and paper and take copious note of what is said.....then analize it critically and use what I can for my next relationship. Agreed...and then have my sister kick 3 maybe 4 of their a$$'
Meaplus3 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You were forced into a room with every one of your previous ex's while they all sat across you discussing your various faults and having a lively conversation about all the good and bad things you did while in the relationship. Would you be mad (or woman) enough to laugh it off or would you be utterly devastated? Do you place more self-worth in your own opinions of self or do you let other people define you as you pass through life? Think about that. I'd get a good laugh!! Mea:)
Beeotch Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Neither. I would run to get a pen and paper and take copious note of what is said.....then analize it critically and use what I can for my next relationship. Its always good to know what were your mistakes and what were your strengths in relationships. Nobody is perfect and you can only grow from your experiences...if only your scenario could happen. Ditto. Criticism should be taken in stride and you should look into yourself and try to see the truth in things and where you can improve....laughing it off or ignoring it and pretending you are flawless doesn't get you anywhere. I HATE the attitude that many people have today of no one can tell them anything or if you tell them something you're being a "hater"...get the eff outta here. Everyone has these walls up, hiding behind this facade of confidence saying they know who they are and don't need anyone to tell them anything...when in reality, they are just SCARED to see themselves how others see them and see their flaws. If you were that confident in who you are, you would accept all critique and know that you are not perfect but can strive towards being a better you versus blocking out all criticism and pretending you know it all and you're soo fabulous
sunrae Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I'm friend with most of my ex's, so I know what most of them think... The ones I'm not friends with... As long as I had a nice bottle of wine. Bring it on. This would be interesting, I would love to know.
mickleb Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I'd ask them why they didn't have anything better to do with their time. (You'd hope they did, eh?) x
EricaH329 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 It wouldn't help much for me to sit down with ex's that are over 3 years old. I've dated a couple of non-winners back then, and i've changed dramatically. I actually don't want to even think about how bad off I was back then. Makes me cringe. As for the ex's i've had within the last 3 years or so, I wouldn't mind hearing what they have to say. Although, i've already had that conversation with them. I always try to figure out what I did wrong and what could be changed after a relationship ends. I don't really think I would be where I am today if I hadn't have done that.
melodymatters Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I'm friends with all of them so I think it would be a hoot ! What would be harder to imagine is THEM all getting along ! Being males, they seem to have this ego thing where they all put down the BF's before and after them whether they ever met them or not. All are also currently single...hmmm..wonder what that says about them ?!? lol
Lizzie60 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Same ^^ I pretty much know what each and everyone would say : nothing bad.. just good stuff.. I've been dumped only once.. and he seriously regretted it.. but it was too late.. he was a selfish jerk..
Woggle Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I only have two official exes and I would laugh it off. Both of them are much worse off than me so why would I care.
nobmagnet Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 oh my denver, had a kinda bad time of today. if i was in a room with him tonight i wouldnt be able to hold back. he has right royaly srewed me and his kids over......expectd me to beg for money till the house is sold........... im very angry so it wouldnt be a good idea. In a non-real way..........well i would tell him he has lost a good wife he has lost 3 kids that love him. He has lost a massive home. He has lost a big family that loved him..........he threw it allaway and he is still miserable????????? ugh Nobby
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