gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 saying this.. so I know we havent talked in a while, and this is totally random but im so confused, you told me you like me not too long ago but you always seem to dissapear on me lol should i just leave ya alone cuz i feel silly now. but i couldnt help but bring it up. and he replied a minute later with hey, no dont feel silly, i dont blame you. im at work right now thought. can we talk about this later? Does that make me sound stupid? I have such a big fear of rejection its kind of a relief to get it out.. based on his responce do you think its going to be a good or bad talk for me? I know Im being immature but i cant help it. Ive pushed every other guy away because I couldnt show emotion.
5105571 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Probably bad. If a guy is interested in you, there's usually no mistaking it. how long have you known this guy? How old are you? Just out of curiosity...
Author gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Probably bad. If a guy is interested in you, there's usually no mistaking it. how long have you known this guy? How old are you? Just out of curiosity... I'm 18, he's 20 I've known him for a little over a year now.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 If someone isn't showing you healthy interest, it's not in your best interest to pursue them in any way, shape, or form- ever.
Author gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 If someone isn't showing you healthy interest, it's not in your best interest to pursue them in any way, shape, or form- ever. so i guess i look stupid sending that then, **** me
nothappyjan Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 well if it makes u feel better it probably wasnt going to work out if u sent the text or not at least this way if he doesnt properly answer you know to move on and you don't have to sit by the phone wondering if he will magically appear again. I struggle with things like this and I am generallly the one who hangs on when the other person isn't as interested so i feel for you, keep looking for someone that wont keep you guessing:)
5105571 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 If it's bad, the only reason he responded may be because you've known him a while. Have you been friends for a long time before this? A year seems like a long time to be having this conversation. It's only a mistake if you decide it is. Every mistake is a lesson to be learned. Take what you want from this experience. It may be good to toughen you up a bit. It might also be good to remember how this feels for when the roles are reversed.
hopesndreams Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 well if it makes u feel better it probably wasnt going to work out if u sent the text or not at least this way if he doesnt properly answer you know to move on and you don't have to sit by the phone wondering if he will magically appear again. I struggle with things like this and I am generallly the one who hangs on when the other person isn't as interested so i feel for you, keep looking for someone that wont keep you guessing:) Yes, yes and yes! Don't waste your time on those indecisive.
meerkat stew Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Don't feel bad about this, as uncomfortable as it can feel, it's good to stick our necks out and take a chance every now and then. "Builds character" as my dad used to say. Stop the texting though with people you have feelings for but aren't sure of theirs. It is an ANGST FACTORY! "Why did he respond -that- way?" "Why hasn't she texted back yet?""What does that particular smilicon -really- mean?" Save yourself some worry in the future and "happen to be" wherever this guy (or whatever guy) is.
Author gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 If it's bad, the only reason he responded may be because you've known him a while. Have you been friends for a long time before this? A year seems like a long time to be having this conversation. It's only a mistake if you decide it is. Every mistake is a lesson to be learned. Take what you want from this experience. It may be good to toughen you up a bit. It might also be good to remember how this feels for when the roles are reversed. We weren't exactly friends to begin with. I dissapeard the first time we started talking, and got him into trouble for something really big, thats why it came as such a shock to me that he wanted to talk to me again. So its been on and off on both our parts.
Author gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 well if it makes u feel better it probably wasnt going to work out if u sent the text or not at least this way if he doesnt properly answer you know to move on and you don't have to sit by the phone wondering if he will magically appear again. I struggle with things like this and I am generallly the one who hangs on when the other person isn't as interested so i feel for you, keep looking for someone that wont keep you guessing:) thank you. I guess I just wanted some sort of closure this time around. I hate leaving wondering what if. I usually know when people arent interested, with this why he just seems really shy and I cant stand but push him away for his lack of effort recently, I dont exactly put fourth alot myself. SO this will tell me if I just need to stop making the silly excuses and move on.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Just trust your instincts, they will seldom fail you. Even a shy guy will make an effort with someone he really likes. If you are doubting how someone feels about you, chances are you are right to doubt it.
tami-chan Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 so i guess i look stupid sending that then, **** me I don't think there was anything wrong with the text you sent....it is ok to ask...however, if he doesn't contact you after that....(he DID say you guys will talk about it later, right?), then leave him alone...
xpaperxcutx Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 At least you were honest, you got your feelings out. I hope you don't see him again because it would be so awkward.
Author gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 At least you were honest, you got your feelings out. I hope you don't see him again because it would be so awkward. why? he's the one who continualy told me he liked me.
Author gorgeous12 Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Just trust your instincts, they will seldom fail you. Even a shy guy will make an effort with someone he really likes. If you are doubting how someone feels about you, chances are you are right to doubt it. my insticts tell me that he does like me. im just afraid to ask incase i hear otherwise.. icant be 100% sure lol we all have doubts i think
xpaperxcutx Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 why? he's the one who continualy told me he liked me. Yet his actions said otherwise. If a guy likes me, he continues to pursue, not disappear. His behaviour goes against everything he said, and what was with the whole I'll talk to you later? If he had liked you, he would have continued to text you and see if he can ask you out.
Pizzaman81 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 my insticts tell me that he does like me. im just afraid to ask incase i hear otherwise.. icant be 100% sure lol we all have doubts i think Usually you have this gut feeling of whether or not the other person is interested. Unless the person is completely dead, he should show some interest by making time to contact you, call you, talk to you, hang out with you.
ViciousViolet Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 why? he's the one who continualy told me he liked me. I see you're 18, so this is the perfect time to hear this advice, repeat it to yourself, and write it down. 'Never go by what a man says, but by what he does' This will save you a lot of heartache I guarantee you.
Lucky555 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 thank you. I guess I just wanted some sort of closure this time around. I hate leaving wondering what if. I usually know when people arent interested, with this why he just seems really shy and I cant stand but push him away for his lack of effort recently, I dont exactly put fourth alot myself. SO this will tell me if I just need to stop making the silly excuses and move on. i am this way too...what everyone said is true...he would "SHOW" interest through ACTIONS. Took me far too long to see this this....but gosh its so true.
LovelyDaze Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 i am this way too...what everyone said is true...he would "SHOW" interest through ACTIONS. Took me far too long to see this this....but gosh its so true. 100% agreed! I have been back in the dating scene lately from a horribly bad October breakup. It is imperative to listen to that inner voice that nags that you that something about your romantic interest is "not quite right." As advised, if he doesn't call or text you back...forget it. Love(and hell, even LIKE) is an action word...
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