Lakeside_runner Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I gave it a very thorough thinking in terms who am I looking for etc. Now, I'm very active - I love the outdoors, I'm a runner, do triathlons, practice Aikido etc. I would love to meet someone who is really into that too and share my passion with them. So I came up with a list of places to find my potential matches: 1. Running groups 2. Running/Triathlon events 3. Gym/Fitness studios and classes Do you guys have any other suggestions? Now I know that it is possible to meet such a person pretty much anywhere but I want to maximize my chances 2.
CLC2008 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 My sister met her husband at a lounge My friend met her husband at a funeral My cousin met her bf through fb, they actually went to the same high school and reconnected several years later My other cousin met his gf through a friend My uncle met his 2nd wife through a runners club My friend met her husband through myspace years ago Life happens, take your pick.
Enema Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 There are online dating sites specifically targeted at fitness folk. ie. http://www.fitness-singles.com
Hot Mess Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Urgh, what is it with these guys lately who think it's acceptable to pick up at the gym?? No wonder there are so many women-only gyms opening up everywhere. The LAST place a woman wants sleazabags ogling her is at the gym!
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 The LAST place a woman wants sleazabags ogling her is at the gym! Right. That explains why so many women wear really tight and/or cleavage revealing outfits to the gym. They dress in such an inconspicuous manner because they don't want to draw attention to themselves and be 'ogled' by 'sleazebags'.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Urgh, what is it with these guys lately who think it's acceptable to pick up at the gym?? No wonder there are so many women-only gyms opening up everywhere. The LAST place a woman wants sleazabags ogling her is at the gym! Eh - I didn't say I hit on girls at the gym! I just said that it's a potential place to meet someone active who'd share this interest with me.
Hot Mess Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Right. That explains why so many women wear really tight and/or cleavage revealing outfits to the gym. They dress in such an inconspicuous manner because they don't want to draw attention to themselves and be 'ogled' by 'sleazebags'. So do you also think that whenever a woman goes swimming, she dresses in a swimsuit just so that she can get attention from men?? You moron. We wear tight clothes at the gym because that is what's most comfortable for exercising - GYM GEAR. You make me sick. You are one of these pigs who think that just because a woman isn't wearing a burqa, its acceptable to sleaze on her. We should be able to wear what we want without fear of scum like you making us feel uncomfortable.
CLC2008 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 So do you also think that whenever a woman goes swimming, she dresses in a swimsuit just so that she can get attention from men?? You moron. We wear tight clothes at the gym because that is what's most comfortable for exercising - GYM GEAR. You make me sick. You are one of these pigs who think that just because a woman isn't wearing a burqa, its acceptable to sleaze on her. We should be able to wear what we want without fear of scum like you making us feel uncomfortable. Who would have thought this thread would garner so much anger?
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 So do you also think that whenever a woman goes swimming, she dresses in a swimsuit just so that she can get attention from men?? You moron. We wear tight clothes at the gym because that is what's most comfortable for exercising - GYM GEAR. Thank you. I cannot go swimming (FOR EXERCISE) without being hit on by stupid guys who are trying to come onto me IN THE POOL. I also play tennis, and you know, in summer, it's hot, so I wear shorts or a tennis skirt and a girl-size t-shirt. Clearly, I am just asking to be ogled.
5105571 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 A friend of mine seems to bang/date a lot of girls from his rock climbing gym. All fit girls in that place...they'd have to be.
kassy Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Ok, I'm a chick, and I'm not really sure if I am reading the same posting as the other girls, but the OP sounds like a nice guy who genuinely wants to meet someone who shares his passions. I really don't think he sounds like a guy who's going to be oggling and making sleazy moves on every girl under the sun! Give him a break. So to the OP some other suggestions I once met a guy at a bike shop when I was buying some new tires (romantic I know haha) but we had a laugh as he made rediculous suggestions on tires - he didn't work there -and dated for about 6 months. I also have met a couple of guys on pack rides over the years, plenty of time to talk (well if it's not too hard a ride). Just make sure you make it chatty and friend like rather than sleazy. Good luck!
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 So do you also think that whenever a woman goes swimming, she dresses in a swimsuit just so that she can get attention from men?? You moron. We wear tight clothes at the gym because that is what's most comfortable for exercising - GYM GEAR. You make me sick. You are one of these pigs who think that just because a woman isn't wearing a burqa, its acceptable to sleaze on her. We should be able to wear what we want without fear of scum like you making us feel uncomfortable. No, you are a moron. There is no reason why your gym gear has to be styled in a way that shows cleavage. I don't wear gym shorts that reveal part of my dick, and so you shouldn't wear something that exposes your private parts either - unless you are attention whoring. Ditto for spandex. Do you see [straight] guys wearing that kind of sh*t to the gym? The bottom line, dress appropriately or shut your trap. It's obvious that you are an attention whore of the worst kind. You both enjoy the attention AND enjoy bitching about it. Otherwise, you would have already joined one of those 'women only' gyms.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 ...the OP sounds like a nice guy who genuinely wants to meet someone who shares his passions. I really don't think he sounds like a guy who's going to be oggling and making sleazy moves on every girl under the sun! I did not mean to imply that, not at all. I was not agreeing with all of Hot Mess's post, just the part about women wearing workout clothes/swimsuits not to get attention, but to be comfortable and properly attired for working out. OP, there are far more women than men in yoga classes. And yoga is an excellent way to tone, stretch, and unwind. I have seen a few cute guys in yoga classes.
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I also play tennis, and you know, in summer, it's hot, so I wear shorts or a tennis skirt and a girl-size t-shirt. Clearly, I am just asking to be ogled. Oh, get over yourself . Women 'ogle' hot guys at pools, beaches, tennis clubs, etc. all the time too. The only difference is that they don't have the balls to approach these men. So please stop with this self-righteous 'men are sleazebags' BS. Women get turned on by a nice male bod as much as the other way around.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 So please stop with this self-righteous 'men are sleazebags' BS. Women get turned on by a nice male bod as much as the other way around. Well, duh. Half the reason I wear goggles is so I can check out their packages underwater. I didn't say they were sleazebags. But I did say that the men who try to hit on me while I'm swimming laps at the pool are stupid. Do they really expect this approach to work? A few weeks ago, the guy in the lane next to me, who would not leave me alone and kept staring like a complete creep, was wearing a tremendous amount of COLOGNE in the pool. I had to wait to take breaths until he was far away, because the reek of his cologne was making me want to hurl. And then I switched to the lane furthest from him as possible. And another one actually said to me, as I was taking a short break at one end of the pool, "Do you come here often?"
Lights Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) I didn't say they were sleazebags. But I did say that the men who try to hit on me while I'm swimming laps at the pool are stupid. Do they really expect this approach to work? Would any other "common interest location"-based approach in any other venue be any more effective given the relevant relative movement speeds? How is it any different than, say, attempting striking up a conversation with someone moving along walking on the way to a library? A few weeks ago, the guy in the lane next to me, who would not leave me alone and kept staring like a complete creep, was wearing a tremendous amount of COLOGNE in the pool. I had to wait to take breaths until he was far away, because the reek of his cologne was making me want to hurl. And then I switched to the lane furthest from him as possible. What is the gym's relevance to this? Are you stating that you would have found Mr. Cologne and his staredown approach most delightfully attractive had he been present and his approach been applied in whatever your culture's Official Permitted Approach Zones™ are? And another one actually said to me, as I was taking a short break at one end of the pool, "Do you come here often?" The ineptitude is unfortunate, but the effort is nevertheless superior to most all of what I've ever seen (and light-years greater than the vast majority of females seem to have to offer in terms of direct approaches). Would that approach, however silly, be received any better in any other interest-specific venue that it is obvious that you are routinely around? Or are you just pretending to bitch and moan about the gym when you're really bitching and moaning in general? Edited March 9, 2010 by Lights
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 And another one actually said to me, as I was taking a short break at one end of the pool, "Do you come here often?" Haha, you think that's bad. I was playing tennis once and the girl on the adjacent court asked me if I was missing any of my balls No joke. I guess it was thoughtful of her to inquire, but the way she said it, I just couldn't help laughing out loud.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Would any other "common interest location"-based approach in any other venue be any more effective given the relevant relative movement speeds? How is it any different than, say, attempting striking up a conversation with someone moving along walking on the way to a library? Walking to the library would be fine, as I can walk and talk at the same time. Can't swim underwater and chat at the same time, however. I don't go to the pool to tread water next to the wall and chat with the people around me. I go to swim for exercise. Every time this dude started talking to me, he was cutting into my swim time. I only had 45 minutes to swim before I had to leave for an appointment, and I like to swim for the full 45 minutes. I eventually told him that and stopped the chit chat. What is the gym's relevance to this? Are you stating that you would have found Mr. Cologne and his staredown approach most delightfully attractive had he been present and his approach been applied in whatever your culture's Official Permitted Approach Zones™ are? His cologne never would have been appreciated, but it was certainly not appreciated in a workout zone, where I am getting my heart rate up, taking big breaths, being forced to avoid swallowing the cheap and gag-inducing stench wafting over from the neighboring lane. Would that approach, however silly, be received any better in any other interest-specific venue that it is obvious that you are routinely around? "Do you come here often?" is always a cheesy, groan-worthy pickup line. I thought that one went out in the 70s, in fact. I just remembered, though, that that wasn't his first attempt. That one was even better. This man actually said to me, as I surfaced after swimming a lap: "Wow, are you a professional swimmer?" He gets a few points for creativity for that one, though. I laughed and said, "Uh, no." Then he goes, "You have a beautiful stroke." Mmm hmm! And then every time I came back, he tried to give me pointers on my form. Come to think of it, this dude was probably reading the pickup books. haha If he had really wanted to chat me up, he should have waited till my workout was over and I was out of the pool. Or are you just pretending to bitch and moan about the gym when you're really bitching and moaning in general? I'm telling stories that I think are funny and ridiculous. If you don't agree, feel free to scroll right on past.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Haha, you think that's bad. I was playing tennis once and the girl on the adjacent court asked me if I was missing any of my balls No joke. I guess it was thoughtful of her to inquire, but the way she said it, I just couldn't help laughing out loud. Love-all.
skydiveaddict Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Haha, you think that's bad. I was playing tennis once and the girl on the adjacent court asked me if I was missing any of my balls No joke. I guess it was thoughtful of her to inquire, but the way she said it, I just couldn't help laughing out loud. so you were wearing some sort of really short girl shorts?
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 so you were wearing some sort of really short girl shorts? Now there's a hot mental image. http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/06/05/article-1024529-000D9BCB0000044C-34_468x477.jpg
Kamille Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 My city has many different types of outdoors and hiking clubs. I never attended any meetings, but friends who have did meet dates there. Hopefully your city also has a few of those clubs.
JustJoe Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I really can't see why this is such a big deal, and why people get so annoyed about being looked at by other people. I will look at an attractive woman, when ever I want. As long as I don't "hit on her". and keep my "stench", under control,:D what's the harm? I completely understand about the swimming and gym clothes, however, most women should agree that women rarely wear anything that is unflattering, and some tennis outfits and swim suits are worn to be seen rather than as actual work-out attire. I personally think that men should pick their locations better. If a woman is swimming laps, she;s not there to flirt. If a woman is playing tennis, she is there to play tennis. Guys, look but don't bother.
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