Cinderella7 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You know, the whole define-the-relationship-are-we-exclusive talk? Do you think it needs to happen in order to be considered in a relationship with someone, or can it be an unspoken thing? Who should bring it up? When is it an appropriate subject to discuss - after dating someone for a month, three months, etc.? Do you think it's even necessary? I'm just curious about what everyone thinks about this aspect of dating and relationships. Thanks!
Ruby Slippers Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 It only matters for those who are seeking a long-term romantic partnership. That is what I have always sought in the past. So, I hope to see some of those signs -- from both of us -- within a few months. If I don't see them developing mutually, I begin to lose interest.
ADF Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 It should never be an unspoken thing. That just causes trouble.
make me believe Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 It's absolutely important and can NOT be left unspoken! Avoiding the talk just leads to confusion and hurt feelings because one person may consider it an exclusive relationship while the other thinks it's still casual. For me it usually happens pretty naturally when two people are on the same page and feel similarly about each other.
ashleigh422 Posted March 13, 2010 Posted March 13, 2010 I agree do not let it remain in the air.. BUT.. you can't rush the talk otherwise you will seem desperate and needy.. Once you are honest with yourself and how things really are between the two of you, you will know when the talk is appropriate.. *Coming from me.. who wants to have the "talk" after the first date... you must have restraint.. So resist the urge to define it too soon.
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