shocker627 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 So I'm not exactly sure what topic to post this thread under.... But anyways. So I had recently broken up with this girl I had been dating for a bit. We really connected from the very start and we both really liked each other a lot. The reason for the break-up was because she had felt that she wasn't ready to be in a relatioship due to the fact that school had been her main focus and it had been overwhelming her. So therefore she didn't want to further our relationship any further because she had felt it "wouldn't be fair to me". She admits that she "dosent know what she wants" type of girl She told me that she wouldn't know when she would be ready for a relationship and that all she wants is friendship. At first, I was a little heart broken, but as time went on, I understood what she was going through and became very supportive of her. Shortly after the break up we became like best friends and we would always text each other all throughout the day, everyday, and we talk once in awhile over the phone. I know that I still have strong feelings for this girl, as she still does for me. I know she tries to repress her feelings towards me because she's afraid to mislead me. Often, we would talk about the amazing times we had with each other, and our conversations would often get more than friendly. I know deep down inside of me, the only reason I remained friends with her was to get back with her when summer comes around and school is done. So my question is...... Am I being way too naiive in this situtation? Am I setting myself up to get hurt? Is being bestfriends with her a mistake? Ultimately I do not want to be just friends with her, I will always see her more than that. Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks!
monkeymaid Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 back off. ...like NOW!!! if she gets comfortable with you as a friend, thats all she will ever want. ...why buy the cow when the milk is free idea. ...become a ghost. i promise you this. if you want her back, you make like a ninja and disapear as fast as humanly possible without so much as an explanation, then whe she comes sniffing (and she will come sniffing), you make her wait, and keep her coming to you. when the tension is tighter than a 15 yr... never mind, you take her. dont ask, dont discuss, TAKE!!! i have been through this too many times to count. please trust me on this as it sounds like you might have "nice guy syndrome" youve made it clear that you love her, and are willing to do ANYTHING for her, so make her do something for you. make her put in some effort.
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