kasperstuntman Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Hi i posted this in a different section of the forum and didn't get the response i was hoping for so i will try it here. I dated a girl for 5 weeks. We decided things were not working. We literally went from never speaking to each other to talking everyday and seeing each other 4 times a week. We were set up by friends and felt as if we forced things, and moved way to fast. She also said she did not have feelings for me but she would do and say things (such as she liked me more than all the other guys she has dated, she saw us as more than dating and she would not date any other guys just 4 days before we ended things, she spent the night in Atlantic City with me two days before things ended, and she would constantly tell me she missed me) that lead me to believe otherwise. I think we just went about the relationship the wrong way and tried to force a romance way to fast, and did not let things happen naturally, and that kind of forced her away. I believe this is the reason why because she told me she has never had a serious relations ship and only dated guys for 1-2 months; it seems as if she gets scared when things start to get serious and emotionally distances herself. Anyway we talked about this, I told her how I felt, and we decided to not talk for a month or so and then reconnect as friends. I am fully aware it’s a horrible idea to be friends with an ex, but she was never an ex we just dated for 5 weeks, the relationship never got that far. I will not be going into it trying to get her back or trying to force thing, that’s the mistake we made the first time around. However, I do know that feelings change, emotions change, and relationships grow. I feel like maybe by approaching things differently - not having expectations, not trying to force a romance or force anything, and just going with the flow and letting the relationship grow organically, that’s when a romance can actually grow. I think changing the whole dynamic of our relationship can change a lot of things. I’m just looking for opinions on this.
Fouts Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 You can give it the old college try, but it doesn't sound promising to me. Love relationships are magical from the beginning, not something you can start, stop and re-start because you didn't get it right.
Author kasperstuntman Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 I agree with that. And i felt something was there, and she says she did not. However, you can usually tell when someone is not into you. And i did not feel that at all. There are so many things she would say and do, that a person would not say or do unless they are into you. Why would a girl tell me she like me more than any guys she has dated. Why would she say she could see us as more than just dating and she would not date any other guys. Why would she send me text messages all the time telling me she missed me, if there was nothing there. Why would you buy me gifts when you are vacation, why would you buy me gifts for my "half" birthday. I just don't understand it.
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