Are you on your best behavior?

[AgeOfUninnocence]

Hey guys. So here's the deal. My ex boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me and began dating this new girl about a day or two later. With the timing being so close, I realize this means he either left me for her, or he's on a serious rebound. He claims he didn't leave her for me, but so many people always say that, so I may never know (or know perfectly well!)

 

Anyway, during our relationship, my ex started doing pot. I really didn't approve of this, and initially every time he'd confess to me that he did it I'd be really upset. Despite this, I would always reinforce that it is his life, and I can't tell him what to do. I even tried it once with him, since I'd never done it before, this way I could accurately judge it.

 

My ex's new girlfriend flat out gave him an ultimatum that he couldn't date her if he was going to drink, smoke, or do pot. And so far he's completely agreed. My friends asked him if he wanted to go down to another college and party, and he said, "Well, I can't. My girlfriend doesn't want me to."

 

So my question is this: When you guys start dating, are you on your best behavior? Do you try to do everything your significant other wants so as not to mess up the relationship? My ex and I had been close friends for months before we started dating and it was around 3 months into our relationship before he started doing pot, so we already had a level of trust and familiarity. His new girlfriend is someone he hardly knows, and he is giving up everything he ever did for her because she demands it of him.