DustySaltus Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 I was speaking with a friend of mine who makes it a point to request FULL body pics from women he meets online before agreeing to go on a date with them. When I was dating I had met a few women online that put "thin or athletic" as their body type only to be well let's just say.....not in these categories at ALL. I've dated women of all shapes and sizes but I think a little honesty can go a long way when you are looking to date someone. So with that being said if a girl or guy was to put a picture online that only showed her face and categorized themselves as one of the above is it OK to ask them for a "full body pic" or is it insulting? Link to post Share on other sites
befreckled Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 You could word it in a nicer way, it's all about marketing. i was asked once for a full body picture..that'd be nice..because, he likes girls with abit of bum..and wanted to know if i had it...if she says no, you can say..hey i'll be the judge of that..if she says i do, then you say well, talk is cheap..picture is worth a thousand words. gotta give to the guy though, he was uber smooth Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Who cares if it's insulting? I've been there, and anyone who has done any online dating knows that MOST people lie about more than one thing in their profile, and many times these lies are near criminal. It becomes a severe waste of time seeing people that have flat-out misrepresented themself. Unless your time is without value, by all means demand a full picture. If they get offended, you have just weeded out a swampcow. Link to post Share on other sites
flc Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Anything is fair. I know I had some inquiries from women with no pictures and I generally would blow it off, but on a couple of occasions I asked up front for a couple of pictures before any correspondance would continue. In fact one of those is my current GF Link to post Share on other sites
Twenty-ten Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Do I think it is fair to ask for a full body shot? DEFINITELY. Not offensive at all. Why would you waste your time meeting someone who can't be completely open with online. If you can't show a full body pic, you have something to hide. Simple as that. You could word it in a nicer way, it's all about marketing. i was asked once for a full body picture..that'd be nice..because, he likes girls with abit of bum..and wanted to know if i had it...if she says no, you can say..hey i'll be the judge of that..if she says i do, then you say well, talk is cheap..picture is worth a thousand words. gotta give to the guy though, he was uber smooth That's smooth? People actually do that? I think that's terrible! Talk about being overly superficial if a guy asked me for a shot of my ass I'd be like, "take a hike" not because I don't have a nice butt but because I would find that so offensive that a guy would objectify me down to a rump. I mean is he there to get a bum/boob/vagina or to date a complete woman? It would be the equivalent of asking a guy to tell you how long his shlong is before you meet him, how rude! If someone is that concerned with a specific body part I say put in on your profile as a fetish. Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 I don't ask for full body pics. There are ways to tell, mostly in the face/shoulders, what kind of overall build a guy has. If he only has pics showing his shoulders and up, then it's clear he's got something to hide, and I won't even bother. It's another red flag if they have those pictures, and then list "average" as their body type. On to the next. I have several full-body pictures of myself in my profile. If I didn't have any, and a guy asked me for one, I would be okay with it. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 I always put average for body type. I don't fit into the uber skinny mold nor the curvy kind, so I always, always put average. I usually get offended if guys ask for a body pic because I feel like they merely want to talk to me because I look like this or that and not because of the kind of person I am. If that was the case I simply just ignore them or tell them they're better off looking elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 I'm not sure, I've never done online dating, but I think I'd be offended. It sort of breaks the "mood" as it were. If you're having a charming correspondence with someone and suddenly they say, "hey, I need to see a full body pic of you before we meet" that would feel weird to me. I can totally understand why a guy would want to ask, but it leaves a bad taste in the girl's mouth as it makes her feel like he's only focused on her looks. I guess it's that any guy would naturally wonder if a girl didn't have a full body pic, but the kind of guy who would actually risk offending the girl and seeming like a dick to ask would have to really care. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 While I've never used a dating site to find a mate, I once connected with a guy through cyberspace. His focus was on the superficial, including body pics and not just one pic. I did know better and should have listened to my gut instincts but quashed them, instead. *queue music* Dumb, dumb, dumb, dumb...dumb! Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Hard to say, since I don't online date and never have. Most likely if I thought the guy was cute and I liked his profile, and his message to me indicated that he had actually read my profile and liked certain things about it, I wouldn't mind if he asked for the picture. I would give him a chance, but I would definitely be on the lookout for vanity and other obnoxious and extreme superficial behavior. If I was on the fence about the guy, or just not especially wowed, I'd probably feel offended and would write him off. Link to post Share on other sites
sagetalk Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 I have several full-body pictures of myself in my profile. If I didn't have any, and a guy asked me for one, I would be okay with it. That's because you aren't fat . To the OP, if they just have a face shot, I'd move on. They have shown how lame they are for not posting their entire body. Link to post Share on other sites
txsilkysmoothe Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 People should just know to post face and body pics if they want to get the most out of online dating. I ask for pics if there aren't any or if they are obviously from the 80's. I hear a lot of "I really don't know how to get pics onto my computer." Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 So with that being said if a girl or guy was to put a picture online that only showed her face and categorized themselves as one of the above is it OK to ask them for a "full body pic" or is it insulting? No, it's not insulting. What's insulting is failure to accurately depict one's appearance in an online profile, thus causing the other person to waste his time going on a date with someone they would have never agreed to meet if they had full disclosure. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 Its insulting if you're like... " Do you have any pics with less clothes?" Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 If you care deeply enough about the way someone looks, I'm not saying that's wrong or right, you really need to be meeting people in real life and not online. Insulting to ask for one? Maybe not. Rude? Totally yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 If you care deeply enough about the way someone looks, I'm not saying that's wrong or right, you really need to be meeting people in real life and not online. Insulting to ask for one? Maybe not. Rude? Totally yeah. rude? I don't agree. If I was using an online dating site I would have a body pic... and if I had some picture that only showed my face like some drivers license and some girl asked for a full pic there is no reason to take it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 Okay, then it's not rude for me to ask a man's income right? Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 Okay, then it's not rude for me to ask a man's income right? No, it's not rude for you to ask a man's income. In fact, it's the courteous thing to do, as it makes it easier for men who are not interested in dating gold-diggers to weed them out. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 How do women weed out men that only want them for their bodies? Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 How do women weed out men that only want them for their bodies? If a man asks you for full body shots, it should be pretty obvious that looks are important to him. Doesn't really take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) The bottom line is that people lie on their profiles, at the very least, they omit. In the beginning, when I first started dating online, I met so many people that weren't who/what they portrayed themselves to be. Men have lied about height, age, race, relationship status- the list goes on. My male friends have experienced the same thing. I just post both face and body pics- a combination of each. I don't see any reason to hide anything from anyone. Why would I post a pic of myself when I was 25, only to meet someone and have it be discovered I am 40. That kind of stuff happens a lot online. As long as someone is NOT asking for a naked photo- it's an understandable request. Edited March 9, 2010 by D-Lish Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 When I had a profile on a dating site and was messaged, there was a bit of convo, not much and then they asked for a full body pic, why would I give it? If someone were to take the time and have proper chats online, getting to know the inner me and then asked, then I would consider it. I have never asked a man for a full body shot. Most body shapes and sizes are ok with me, unless they are of the extreme, as in, tooooo skinny or tooooooo huge and you can tell if someone falls into those categories with just a head shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 If a man asks you for full body shots, it should be pretty obvious that looks are important to him. Doesn't really take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. But how does a woman weed out a shallow man in real life that is a "looks-digger"? Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 But how does a woman weed out a shallow man in real life that is a "looks-digger"? What are you the riddler? Link to post Share on other sites
RobM Posted March 9, 2010 Share Posted March 9, 2010 More like BatS**tCrazyGirl. Link to post Share on other sites
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