scalcs Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 I tell, my ex wife an i have been separated for 1 year, and in that time we still have physicall relations>.just recently i got jealous becuase i thought she was seeing somebody, but it turned out to be just friendship>.and i made an ass out of my self>>anyways, i texted saying that we can still fool around if she wants to>>well she says no way>>i said ok>.well last night she calls me at 1243 am becuase her cat caught a mouse and she could nto get rid of it>>so i am stupid and go over there, well she asked me to stay awhile becuase she was nrevous. well one thing led to anotherand i stayed over there most of the night sleeping in her bed, sex was amazing like it is always between us>>at first she did not want to kiss but after 5 mins of fooling around we said kissing >>anyways my probelm is we both cant seem to break free from one another>.we are majic in the bedroom, but outside of that we suck together, and she knows that too>>why cant we stop having sex with each other
Fouts Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 You're both being dependent and are afraid to break that final attachment and move on with your lives without each other. It's normal, alot of people won't admit that they do that, but they do. Slowly ween yourself from this woman and this relationship, meet other interesting women, get out and have a good time with your friends. Stop answering the phone every time she calls. Take it one step at a time, but don't stop taking steps.
carhill Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Filing for divorce will help. Go ahead and do that. The sex will stop pretty fast Wait, you call her your ex-wife? Are you legally divorced? Man, if you took the hit and ate the greed and still want to poke her, good on ya. I can't imagine that.
stillafool Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 >>why cant we stop having sex with each other Because you won't move on with your life. Let her go and find someone else to date.
Gunny376 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Filing for divorce will help. Go ahead and do that. The sex will stop pretty fast Wait, you call her your ex-wife? Are you legally divorced? Man, if you took the hit and ate the greed and still want to poke her, good on ya. I can't imagine that. You crack me up!
Author scalcs Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 well, it was my mistake getting jealuos>>we have had this arrangment for awhile now>>i have been dating others as well, just have not consumated any other relaiotnships>>so i can see where this does hold me back>>at first last night she said no kissing>.but after awhile we were kissing passionatly>>i wonder why she did not want to kiss>.i feel like she is stuck in a rut as well
Fouts Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Not saying it's the case here, but usually women who won't kiss have been or are, intimate with someone else.
Author scalcs Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 well that is the thing, that is possible>>but i think a lot of it has to do with the argument we had ealier in the week, or maybe kissing makes it more intimate>>not sure but I really at this phase do not want to read into this>>i know in heart i dont want to be married anymore
ADF Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 You can stop having sex with each other. You're just choosing not to. Next question.
carhill Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 i know in heart i dont want to be married anymore OK, file for divorce. An alternative solution would be to mutually agree to an open marriage and remain legally married and enjoy polyamory. Disclose this to the women you date and enjoy both them and your 'wife' as mutually agreeable. Many options
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