nobmagnet Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Hahaha so I just got a reply... wait for it...wait... "K" Yeah, so that was it. I won't be replying to THAT one. I'm pretty sure it wasn't the reply she was expecting, and certainly didn't expect me to wait a whole day to reply. But now I'm making assumptions, which I'm just not going to do. If she wants to talk, she'll let me know. she will indeed Nobby xxxxxx
Drummergirl_23 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 I don't think you should respond personally. How are you going to feel if she doesn't respond?? Most likely, she just wants to know that she still has you tied to a string and to pump up her ego. She doesn't need to know how you are doing, she's made her decision. If you respond, subconsciously you are going to expect or at least hope for a response from her. Wait it out a little, if she wants to discuss reconciliation, she will find a way to contact you, believe me. And its gonna be a heck of alot better than "How are you doing" or whatever. Don't do it! Let her come to you buddy!
sean1970 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 Please reconcile these two statements for me if you would... My ex hurt me pretty badly. If I heard from her, there's no doubt in my mind that I would respond because at the end of the day, I've loved this girl for 5 years, and will continue to love her.
Samantha0905 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 As far as the txt, if she feels a strong need to reconcile, she'll show up on your lawn blasting "In Your Eyes" in the morning rain. Anything short of that lacks sincerity in my book. In other words, NC brother. I love that movie and agree with what you're saying. It's her place to work hard if she wants you back -- and I think best for you to assume she does not. I'm just saying that because I think it's best for your psyche. Plus, Hell you're worth it. She needs to work for you if she's had a change of heart. Your ego is feeling better, that's why you're happy. True that. I get mad at myself if I feel more upbeat after hearing from XAP. Hahaha so I just got a reply... wait for it...wait... "K" Yeah, so that was it. I won't be replying to THAT one. I'm pretty sure it wasn't the reply she was expecting, and certainly didn't expect me to wait a whole day to reply. But now I'm making assumptions, which I'm just not going to do. If she wants to talk, she'll let me know. I hate "K" -- ! I've never received that from a love interest, but it just seems short and rude to me. My friend that uses it a lot usually uses it when she gets a response she doesn't want to hear and she gets pissy. I LOVE that you waited a whole day to reply. Your response was perfect and you are correct -- do not reply to "K."
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I love that movie and agree with what you're saying. It's her place to work hard if she wants you back -- and I think best for you to assume she does not. I'm just saying that because I think it's best for your psyche. Plus, Hell you're worth it. She needs to work for you if she's had a change of heart. True that. I get mad at myself if I feel more upbeat after hearing from XAP. I hate "K" -- ! I've never received that from a love interest, but it just seems short and rude to me. My friend that uses it a lot usually uses it when she gets a response she doesn't want to hear and she gets pissy. I LOVE that you waited a whole day to reply. Your response was perfect and you are correct -- do not reply to "K." You're absolutely right, the "K" was pissy. She later texted "you took a full day to respond"... So I waited an hour and said "had a busy morning" She responded "Oh", to which I ignored around 3pm At 4pm, when she finishes school, she texted "What's new?" I replied "Driving to the gym, feel free to give me a call anytime" She said "gym time for me, too". So I'm not really holding my breath that anything good comes of this. I'm about to have dinner with my stepdad and a neighbor who are both bachelors for the night. We'll see what happens from here with the Ex.
sean1970 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You're absolutely right, the "K" was pissy. Does this not appear to be a problem..? You are wondering/debating what 'K' means...
northstar1 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 dude. she is feeding you crumbs to make sure you are still out there and will reply. and you are. she's not making any effort at all here. do you really feel better after this, or are you going to cradle your phone hoping she will text again? it's painful, but you have to stop responding. it's gotta be all or nothing, either she shows up at your door and asks for a second chance, or you ignore her.
sean1970 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 it's gotta be all or nothing, either she shows up at your door and asks for a second chance, or you ignore her. Good advice, but I don't believe he is anywhere near ready to take it... He is going to take many Stiletto kicks to the berries before he is forced to...
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Good advice, but I don't believe he is anywhere near ready to take it... He is going to take many Stiletto kicks to the berries before he is forced to... Hey, you might be 100% right. I have only acted according to what I think is honest and right. It could be that she doesn't deserve that, though. I'm hardly cradling my phone. It's at least 5 feet away
sean1970 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Hey, you might be 100% right. I have only acted according to what I think is honest and right. It could be that she doesn't deserve that, though. I'm hardly cradling my phone. It's at least 5 feet away Let me make sure I have this right... Your previous posts... Dear Ex, You are: - Manipulative - Jealous (X10) - Irrational - Selfish - Childish - Bi-Polar (question mark?) - Non-Communicative - Dishonest The latest excitement/drama has been manifested in the toxic relationship that I covet with my Ex. That I fell in love with the potential we had, while ignoring the reality that we were completely disfunctional. And that the sex, god bless her, was otherworldly. Don't feel obligated to respond to this right away. Just please realize that I respect your decision to have ended our relationship, and I understand and agree that it HAD to end... the way we were going was a cluster****. So what has changed Henry Rearden? Is she really your Dagny Taggart?
monkeymaid Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Let me make sure I have this right... Your previous posts... So what has changed Henry Rearden? Is she really your Dagny Taggart? i would say that hes curious, shes curious, and both are treading lightly, though i agree with her not being forth coming. . ....that "call me anytime" comment could have been done without. ...you are leaving her a trail to follow, meaning you are already putting in the work.
nowomanocry Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 Hahaha so I just got a reply... wait for it...wait... "K" Yeah, so that was it. I won't be replying to THAT one. I'm pretty sure it wasn't the reply she was expecting, and certainly didn't expect me to wait a whole day to reply. But now I'm making assumptions, which I'm just not going to do. If she wants to talk, she'll let me know. Yeah so that one proved me right mate eh? Never make an effort more than what the other party deserves which were: "***-off" "piss-off" as per my previous mail. Let it go mate - even she replies back, or even comes back to you, wot difference is that gonna make?
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Yeah so that one proved me right mate eh? Never make an effort more than what the other party deserves which were: "***-off" "piss-off" as per my previous mail. Let it go mate - even she replies back, or even comes back to you, wot difference is that gonna make? Idk I guess a guy can hope his girl is gonna grow up. My bad.
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I'm gonna write this here and see if you guys think I should send it, or just keep silent. Ex, I'm not sure what the point of your contacting me was, but if I had to guess it's some manipulative, ego boosting ploy to see how I'll respond. I was willing to talk to you if you came at me straight. But you never do, and I find myself less and less interested in talking to you at all. The fact is, you communicate terribly and never talk about anything real or important. I'm all set with that. You've had your chance. I'm sure you can find some meathead who loves to have a push/pull conflict who you can victimize easily. But that guy ain't me. In short, get lost. RM
nowomanocry Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 so are we still at "K" ? and now it is (optional ) turn to make a move?
northstar1 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I'm gonna write this here and see if you guys think I should send it, or just keep silent. Ex, I'm not sure what the point of your contacting me was, but if I had to guess it's some manipulative, ego boosting ploy to see how I'll respond. I was willing to talk to you if you came at me straight. But you never do, and I find myself less and less interested in talking to you at all. The fact is, you communicate terribly and never talk about anything real or important. I'm all set with that. You've had your chance. I'm sure you can find some meathead who loves to have a push/pull conflict who you can victimize easily. But that guy ain't me. In short, get lost. RM No, dont' send it. Silence speaks volumes. Sending this just confirms you are still hooked on her and will give her an ego stroke. Think about how little effort or emotional sacrifice it takes for her to send you these crappy texts? 10 seconds of her time and she has you on pins and needles. Trust me when I say nothing will send a louder message to her that you are a strong guy and moving on than to just ignore these texts.
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 (edited) so are we still at "K" ? and now it is (optional ) turn to make a move? No, there's an update of more convo on top of this page. Edited March 9, 2010 by Rearden Metal typo
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 No, dont' send it. Silence speaks volumes. Sending this just confirms you are still hooked on her and will give her an ego stroke. Think about how little effort or emotional sacrifice it takes for her to send you these crappy texts? 10 seconds of her time and she has you on pins and needles. Trust me when I say nothing will send a louder message to her that you are a strong guy and moving on than to just ignore these texts. You're right, of course. It's my wish to actually COMMUNICATE that makes me want to send sh*t like this. This whole thing is so dumb.
northstar1 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You're right, of course. It's my wish to actually COMMUNICATE that makes me want to send sh*t like this. This whole thing is so dumb. Right, because you want to communicate and fix things. She's showing she doesn't, but wants to still throw out a hook and see if you will still bite.
nowomanocry Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 You're right, of course. It's my wish to actually COMMUNICATE that makes me want to send sh*t like this. This whole thing is so dumb. that sounds very much like my ex' biatch calling me yesterday night - talking rubbish read my thread and tell me wot u think . your case - she has not found something and trying to see whether you happy without her and testing waters tell her not to txt you bcoz u have a new darling * that she is irritated from her txtxs etc.
sean1970 Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 I'm gonna write this here and see if you guys think I should send it, or just keep silent. Ex, I'm not sure what the point of your contacting me was, but if I had to guess it's some manipulative, ego boosting ploy to see how I'll respond. I was willing to talk to you if you came at me straight. But you never do, and I find myself less and less interested in talking to you at all. The fact is, you communicate terribly and never talk about anything real or important. I'm all set with that. You've had your chance. I'm sure you can find some meathead who loves to have a push/pull conflict who you can victimize easily. But that guy ain't me. In short, get lost. RM I take it all back... You should absolutely send this.
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 I take it all back... You should absolutely send this. why did you change your mind?
Author Rearden Metal Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 that sounds very much like my ex' biatch calling me yesterday night - talking rubbish read my thread and tell me wot u think . your case - she has not found something and trying to see whether you happy without her and testing waters tell her not to txt you bcoz u have a new darling * that she is irritated from her txtxs etc. I'm uncomfortable lying, but perfectly comfortable ignoring her if she asks, or telling her to mind her own business.
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