within2 Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 (edited) I'm not trying to sound discouraging and get in the way of any type of healing but is there really one formula for a broken heart? What if there is no formula, you just have to live with it. I see NC is big on this site and some people have said it worked. Thats wonderful but a situation recently made me think differently. I work in the hospital part time. I took care of this old man who was 72. He was only there shortly for a minor procedure. I came in, introduced myself and got prepared to work, like usual. He instantly told me I looked like the only female he ever loved and they were my around age(I'm in my early 20s and I look it) when they wanted to get married. He started tearing up. He was just so bold with it and it shocked me. I've never had that happen and not only did it make me extremely uncomfortable but really sad. I ended up switching assignments with a friend of mine because of that incident. I mean he was 72..... It got me thinking a lot. I didn't know people can feel that way after all those years. Edited March 8, 2010 by within2
The Paper Knight Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 I see NC is big on this site and some people have said it worked. If you keep scratching at an open wound on your knee, you will delay the recovery process and many worsen the scar. The same is true with a pining heart, if you continue to wait for your love to respond to your contact in a positive way, you will continue to long for them and feel hurt when they let you down, further dragging out the pain. I didn't know people can feel that way after all those years. It sounds like he was quite nostalgic with you and brought back an old feeling of longing and possibly regret (we don't know his full story) that made him happy/sad. I guess thats why everyone wants closure.
Author within2 Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 (edited) Yeah, I get the whole NC idea. I think what got me is he obviously didn't have contact with her for a longgggggg time and he still was thinking about it after all those years. Maybe he had closure with her but maybe he didn't..... regardless I thought by 72 that things would get kinda faded..... eventually. You know? It just kinda made me sad. It was just one of those situations that just made me think. Edited March 8, 2010 by within2
saraxlindsay Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 I guess its kinda like how people say that you are never really over your first true love. Possibly she was his.
The Paper Knight Posted March 9, 2010 Posted March 9, 2010 regardless I thought by 72 that things would get kinda faded..... eventually. You know? It is kind of wierd how you still remember, but no longer "feel" the loss. But I guess if something suddenly triggered a memory connected to strong feelings then the emotion could come flooding back somehow. If they where happy emotions, he probably would have asked where you had gone to...
Recommended Posts