skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 After all this time, she calls me. No I didnt answer. But I listened to the message (shouldn't have). She wants to know "how i'm doing" Cant she just stay out of my life?
jerrytodd Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 After all this time, she calls me. No I didnt answer. But I listened to the message (shouldn't have). She wants to know "how i'm doing" Cant she just stay out of my life? Is it five months now?? What do you want her message to you to be?
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 Is it five months now?? What do you want her message to you to be? That's the whole point. I don't want a message at all
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 how long has it been? 5 months......
alphamale Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 That's the whole point. I don't want a message at all its hard not to listen to the message, innit? like almost impossible. the curiosity factor is so high
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 its hard not to listen to the message, innit? like almost impossible. the curiosity factor is so high yes.........
monkeymaid Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 sounds like she is feeling guilty and wants you to forgive her so she can feel better about it
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 sounds like she is feeling guilty and wants you to forgive her so she can feel better about it hhhmmm' maybe. I just want her to leave me alone
alphamale Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 hhhmmm' maybe. I just want her to leave me alone tell her to not contact you any more, that'll rip her a new ass**** she'll have this expression () on her face
monkeymaid Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 no, that will actually make her feel better. ...knowing she has any sort of influence over him will make her feel oddly contented. dont get revenge, dont get even. when her actions cease to affect you emotionally, that is when you can tell her what you want. get to the point where she means NOTHING. until then, just know that she will do whatever she is going to and you have no say. u can only control u!!! engrain this into the back of your eye lids!
DenverBachelor Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 hhhmmm' maybe. I just want her to leave me alone Then just ignore it and keep doing what you're doing. Expect another two or three messages over the next few months and then she'll get the hint. Remember -- she ended it. You owe her absolutely nothing. Just live your life like you have been and simply erase her messages. Resist the temptation to read them -- because that will weaken you and perhaps make you want to engage in discourse with her. I say again -- she left you, you didn't leave her. She made her bed so let her lie in it. She's gone and out of your life. Focus on your strengths and just ignore it completely. I promise you she will stop contacting you after a few more messages.
paleblue Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 what a mind f. i deal with the same thing. its hard to not respond. but if you can keep yourself from responding i think that works the best. she gets upset. you maintain your dignity.
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 what a mind f. i deal with the same thing. its hard to not respond. but if you can keep yourself from responding i think that works the best. she gets upset. you maintain your dignity. True words. I'm ashamed of myself cause I cant seem to let go. even after all this time
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 no, that will actually make her feel better. ...knowing she has any sort of influence over him will make her feel oddly contented. dont get revenge, dont get even. when her actions cease to affect you emotionally, that is when you can tell her what you want. get to the point where she means NOTHING. until then, just know that she will do whatever she is going to and you have no say. u can only control u!!! engrain this into the back of your eye lids! Ok I will do it
Leia Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 skydiveaddict, Just ignore it. It can be her, her voicemails etc. You've done so well thus far, don't let a voicemail get to you. I know you can pull through this.
Author skydiveaddict Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 skydiveaddict, Just ignore it. It can be her, her voicemails etc. You've done so well thus far, don't let a voicemail get to you. I know you can pull through this. Thank you Leia
JustToBeMe Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 So did you ever get into contact with her? I have to know how you are coping...im going through the beginning stages of a breakup myself and I need to know there is light at the end of the tunnel!!
Author skydiveaddict Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 (edited) So did you ever get into contact with her? I have to know how you are coping...im going through the beginning stages of a breakup myself and I need to know there is light at the end of the tunnel!! No I didnt contact her. The beginning is the worst. at least it was for me. There will be a light at the end of the tunnel for you, but it will take some time. You cope with it by staying constantly busy. When I'm not working, I'm either at the gym, hanging w/ friends or skydiving. Believe me there is no better coping mechanism than free falling from 16,000 ft. plus I have Nat'l Guard duty every other week end, that helps too. Edited April 12, 2010 by skydiveaddict
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