Should I Ask Him About His Ex? ...... (How much do u know about ur s/o's past?)

[SadandConfusedWA]

Well shoot. I couldn't even bring myself to mention it. Is it even worth it?

 

The mood is always so happy and light, it's like, bringing this up is an unnecessary headache. I don't know.

 

I suppose the fact that I won't be seeing his family for a while is helping. Maybe I'll be tripping again before we see them all in May. I guess I can always bring it up then. He does make me feel like I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had, and he seems head over heels. So it's not like I have any kind of insecurities about our relationship. I guess what bugs me the most is when we see them all and this mess gets back into the picture.

 

You both seem very conflict avoidant. Sometimes if issues are swept under the carpet like that, they will come out in other ways.

[likestolaugh]

the mood can't always be happy and light. SadandConfusedWA is right... it's avoiding issues... and every relationship has issues. Even the best ones.

 

Personally, I think it's best you bring it up sooner rather than later.

[2sunny]

Well shoot. I couldn't even bring myself to mention it. Is it even worth it?

 

The mood is always so happy and light, it's like, bringing this up is an unnecessary headache. I don't know.

 

I suppose the fact that I won't be seeing his family for a while is helping. Maybe I'll be tripping again before we see them all in May. I guess I can always bring it up then. He does make me feel like I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had, and he seems head over heels. So it's not like I have any kind of insecurities about our relationship. I guess what bugs me the most is when we see them all and this mess gets back into the picture.

 

are you serious? something's been on your mind and your unwilling to mention it to him so he can explain it or clarify things for you... why are you acting so wimpy? is it always this approach with you?

 

my concern is - if you aren't willing to clear the air on such a trivial matter now - you shouldn't expect to have success in a long term relationship - unless you learn to effectively communicate.

 

just ask him = point blank... "hey, can you explain to me how this situation went down, because i saw evidence of you being uncomfortable the other night and wondered why."

 

he will have a chance to tell you a little bit about himself and what happened with that relationship that now makes him uneasy.

[prettybaby]

Ok, I brought it up and we talked about it. He had no idea that was still on my mind, and was very sweet and open about it all. And he apologized for not telling me sooner. He apparently didn't think it was a big deal worth mentioning. Anyway, all is good now.

 

The timing wasn't the best though. I basically blurted it out before he had to go. But he assured me we could talk about it more in a few days when we see each other again, and that he'd tell me all about it if I want to.

 

Thanks everyone I think I needed that extra push!