Why didn't I see this red flag? It's so obvious now after the other weekend!

[mortensorchid]

Two weeks ago I was given the brush off by this guy who I was really excited about. I had taken him out on our first public date, I took him to a costume party and he seemed to be blending in well and having a good time. I was terribly sick that day, so I went home afterwards. I didn't hear from him after that, a week later I called him and was on the phone with him for all of 30 seconds to a minute. He said something about shoveling snow in his driveway, then going to a friend's house for his usual Friday night thing and that was that. I deleted him from my phone, haven't heard a word from him since, and moved on.

 

He asked me a weird question at the party, I'm not sure if this was the alcohol talking or if it was some kind of obnoxious question that dudes just ask, but I mentioned this to my friend this past Saturday night. We are standing around at the party, and he asked me how well I knew everyone in the room. I said some are close friends, some are just buddies, and some I didn't know at all. He asked me if I had been with any of the guys in the room. I was kind of shocked that he would ask me this, thinking how rude that was. And then I had no idea how to answer this. All joking aside, think about it : If I said Yes he'd think I was a ho, if I said No he'd think I was lying, and if I said something like "I plead the 5th, none of your business, etc." he'd know I was lying. So I said "I plead the 5th" even though I wanted to say "None of your business". He asked specifically if I had been with one guy who walked by, who is one of my closer friends, and I said "No, I haven't." (Which is the truth, by the way.)

 

That was a really rude question now that I think of it. I'm glad he ditched me as I don't want to bother with someone so jealous and possessive. And last night when I went to the movies with said friend from the party a few weeks ago, I told him I would be happy to brag that I had been with him if we did. He thought that was funny. Ha ha ha ...