In an LDR. Scared that I will cheat :(

[DagnyT]

Here's the deal :

 

I am in an LDR with A, and friends with B.

 

Have known A for a year now, been in a relationship since 8 months.

 

I am really close to A, we webcam a lot and talk a lot. He understands me like no one else ever has. He's the intellectual equal I've always sought.

 

Have known B for more than a year, but very off-handed. Friends since a year, good friends since the last month. This is where it gets slippery. I sense that we might be falling for each other.

 

B is a laidback sweet nice guy. He's interesting to talk to and fun to be with.

 

I am moving for grad school, and B will be my classmate there. A = another grad school, around 1000 miles from me.

 

B does not know I am seeing A.

 

To add to the story, I have not met A yet, will meet him for the first time when I go to my gradschool country.

 

I just don't know what to do

Edited March 7, 2010 by DagnyT

[Ecosse]

Sounds like you need to sit and weigh it out for yourself... But you need to decided soon because it isnt fair to A to string him on

[aerogurl87]

Tell B about A. I made the mistake of cheating on my ex with another guy after 1 month of being pushed into a LDR, and well I regret it to this day. What would've stopped me I'm sure (or been a great deterent) was if the guy I slept with would've known about my bf but I kept it a secret and hurt myself, my ex, and the guy I slept with who thought I was available. So save yourself and your bf some heartache by either ending things with him and then pursuing B or setting great boundaries with B, starting with telling him about your boyfriend.

[JustLooking123]

Do A the favor of breaking up with him before you cheat on him. If your self-control is that lacking, you should probably take a break from dating to work on yourself.

[sweetjasmine]

Tell B about A.

 

That, and stop flirting with B. If you don't have the self control to do that or don't want to stop, come clean with A and break up before you hurt him.