abdellost Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 hey guys, missed you all =). i just found it that its good to heal by not reading other peoples issues (which i do every time i get on the forum haha and it makes the wound reopen) and tried to first be strong before i can join the forums again. I have an issue, and its a typical issue we face for those who have been dumped, and dumped out of nowhere. I swore on everything i would never create a facebook and for the last 7 years i been yelled at (and apparently people made a FB for me without me knowing and pretended i was the person haha). But after the break up (which was a 5 year relationship, and we were so happy. But out of nowhere i get a text and thats the last i heard from her, i even followed her to college, long story lol) I made a facebook with a friend who said it would be like a new start of my new life. So i did make one, and been wasting away my life on it because it helps me forget her a bit. BUT THEN, a added a friend who i havent seen in almost a decade. So we chatted and etc. We knew we seen each other before, but we couldnt remember. anyway, we chatted for a few weeks, a loooot and we hitted it off really hard and we really didnt stop laughing and it was just like we were best buds for years, so we decided to meet up. ( i really didnt care if she was ugly, i just wanted to rekindle old friendships and have someone new in my life to talk to). But when i meet her up, i was blown into oblivious! she was drop dead gorgeous (not like her pics she had up on FB). and she was amazing! she was so intelligent, she loves the same authors i do and we share soo much common interest its crazy. we talked and walked for 5 hours ( is that a good sign lol?). she told me about her past and present relationship. and gave out hints that she was interested in me. BUT now this is the problem. for the first time in my life i think someone is out of my league. My family isnt up to PAR with her family. shes not very high class but shes up there. my family is doing alright but yea. Girls liked me a lot, even after the break up. And ya they were high class but i knew i can easily take them over and date them and make them not even care about family issues and just care about the person ( BTW i am overseas, not in America, so family name and such matters here a bit). But this girl, wow. she knows 4 languages. From Greece. A real redhead (i been in this country for 10 years on and off, never seen a redhead before except in America). shes wayy too smart ( we click on that category though) and shes just..i can just say that i dont think I can be up to her standards. I never felt like this before BUT BECAUSE of that 5 year relationship, my karma and my self respect, my dignity feels crushed and feels like i can not match some people. If i knew this girl a few months ago, i could have easily said I can win her heart. But now, i feel lost. Shes really interested in me, even though theres a thing going on with this guy that likes her. She wants to get married (shes 20) but with not anyone. She dropped the line on me a few times and hinted it out she wouldnt mind going steady with me if i consider marriage first. I am the kind of guy that doesnt date for fun. If i date, its because i want to marry the person so i get to know them. I dunno what to do. shes all over me, texting me all the time and chatting me and calling me. I know its only been 2 month since my ex left me and i still cry everything. This new girl is making it better for me though, making me feel that i am worth a cake or two. But i dunno what to do. I am supposed to go back to the states in a few months to work and start my true life over, but after knowing this girl a little longer and if i think that we would be amazing with eachother, how can i not be too scared of her? be scared because shes out of my league? Thanks guys. peace and love
spriggig Posted March 8, 2010 Posted March 8, 2010 So, you're leaving where she is in two months--back to the states? Would you be starting a serious relationship with her just before you leave? You didn't mention any other scenarios, like you visit there every six months or something. Sounds like you're coming back to the US permanently. If that is so, I think you should be completely honest with her about why you just can't start a relationship with her even though you'd really like to. AND, just enjoy the time you have with her for now. It's OK to just date for fun. Good luck.
Author abdellost Posted March 8, 2010 Author Posted March 8, 2010 So, you're leaving where she is in two months--back to the states? Would you be starting a serious relationship with her just before you leave? You didn't mention any other scenarios, like you visit there every six months or something. Sounds like you're coming back to the US permanently. If that is so, I think you should be completely honest with her about why you just can't start a relationship with her even though you'd really like to. AND, just enjoy the time you have with her for now. It's OK to just date for fun. Good luck. Well if we do become serious, i would go back and work my butt off and come and visit every few months (which i did with my last ex). I just dont know if she really understand her yet. Like i said, i feel like shes out of my league, first time in my life to feel like that towards someone. Even the hottest girl in high school couldnt make me feel like that. and like i said, she doesnt date for fun. I mean she doesnt mind going "steady"with me, but i have to have the intention of marrying her. Thing is, i know if i go back being with her, she would wait. Shes that type of girl that thinks of a happy family and women are to be loyal to their husbands and such. Shes still young in the head if you ask me.
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