Lucky555 Posted March 7, 2010 Posted March 7, 2010 Here is how i ended it with dignity and grace! I knew from posting here that things did not seem right. Everyone on here told me this. So I decided to see what he wanted. Well he told me he was "busy" oh very busy. (really bad sign i know.) He continued to tell me he thought i would think things were ok since we both have "busy" lives. WHAT?! he started trying to convince me to stay involved until he saw i was not going to DEVALUE myself. He wanted me to believe "some day" he would have time for me. But he couldn't set a certain date or time! HAHAHA what a loser. (Other woman probably.) Oh yes he also told me i should not imply that he is being dishonest! WHAT?! (he was trying to manipulate me) And then......he just knew he was not going to win and tried to make himself not sound like a jerk. Then he dug himself into a further ditch. Saying how he was emotionally distant because he thought he did not have time to be involved in a relationship. However, by looking at his facebook I saw he was in contact with other girls more. I thought this was a red flag but i didnt want to jump to conclusions. (now as i see it, it was a sign) I just dont understand why he lied. when i first confronted him. I asked: if he was interested in someone else...he said no if he was emotionally attached to some one else..he said no I asked if he wanted to date other people..he said no. Then i think he knew i was catching on and decided to say that it was not working out. its like the whole time he didn't want to let go but knew i was not going to accept bread crumbs. I think he wanted to have sex with me and not become emotionally involved. I just can't believe a guy would waste so much time talking to me when he could have said "i dont want to be with you" but i can see now how he tried to keep me around so he could "have his cake and eat it too" Next time I will speak up early on and not waste time like this. Thank you to the people on here who kept telling me how things were definitely off. It saved me a lot of extra heartache. I had not become totally invested when i got feedback from what people said and I kind of waited awhile now but at least i have my answers. Lesson learned.
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