ingridh Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 assume that the dumpers lives are so great and that they are so happy while we sit here depressed? Its not possible that their lives are as content as we make them out to be. Right? I don't assume. I know. Without a second thought, he dumped me for a girl 15 years younger than him, said it was love at first sight. He has been showering her with gifts, meals, trips, ...etc. (For the two years we were together, he never bought me anything, not even a present for my birthday.) Yes, he is in love, happy, having the greatest sex in his life and has forgotten all about me. Am I sitting here depressed? Yes, very much so. And bitterly hating him.
Awesome Username Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I'm the dumper, and I'll bet anything I feel worse than my dumpee. Take that!
monkeymaid Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I'm the dumper, and I'll bet anything I feel worse than my dumpee. Take that! so y did you break it off?
Awesome Username Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 so y did you break it off? He is really busy...an old coworker. We only meet at bars at night because of his crazy work schedule, we made out a bunch of times drunk, he wants to be exclusive before bf/gf (huh?), etc... It's just not a good foundation to have a man learn to treat a woman well. I don't want to be taken for granted, and even though we certainly haven't gone all the way yet, I don't want to eventually be some booty call late at night. That's just not me. So I ended it. But he is actually a great guy aside form that, I have very strong feelings for him, and my heart hurts.
saraxlindsay Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 I am the dumpee, but I know my ex the dumper feels just as heart broken as I do. Most of the time he is either at work, school or at home watching TV by himself. When he does go out its to his best friends place and usually when he is there he is either talking to me on msn (he doesn't have internet at home) or moaping around (his best friend is a friend of mine also and she tells me all the time the way he is acting) We broke up because we both have a lot of growing to do in life and he felt as though he was becoming a weight, holding me back from doing what I need to do with my life, so he broke it off. We are still friends though & still love eachother very much.
mmk1 Posted March 10, 2010 Posted March 10, 2010 Generally speaking, the dumper is always better off initially because usually they spend time preparing and emotionally detaching before pulling the plug. This gives dumpers a significant advantage. Ultimately, no one knows that dumpers are better off in the long run. I'd like to think the one ex who dumped is not better off as she no longer has me in her life. In my mind, she is missing out on the prize that is me. So, think positively and highly of yourself. It was the mistake of a lifetime for your dumper, not you!
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